Fun!

(Samuel L. Jackson voice) I said Fun mf! Are you having it? You have to let go of the routines and openers sometimes and just let things flow. Really though, in the end, if all you can remember is the number of approaches you did then you probably won't be doing this for very long. Fun is the goal here and you won't be getting very far without it.

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First

This can be translated into approaching first or leading. Either way, you don't always have to wait for someone else to make the decision and NEVER expect her to make the first move. Women love leaders. Hell, we all love a good leader.

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Flirt

Yes, you can do this. It's okay to try it out and often times it makes things fun for everyone. Sure she may tell you that she has a boyfriend but we can all appreciate a little flirting here and there. If you have to ask how to flirt just ignore this one. You'll worry too much and forget the other points.

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Forget

Seriously. Forget your troubles, job, car note, the one argument you had, the time you lost that soccer game in the 4th grade and definitely forget what you have been told to ask people you are interested in. Forget all the logical things that will bring your energy down. Forget past failures, that time you got ghosted, and that time she left you on read.

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Filter

The people that don't match your energy probably aren't a good fit for you. Don't put too much effort into trying to get people to like you or respond to you. It'll really mess you up. Don't try to fit in where you obviously don't feel comfortable. Again, it will drain you.

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Good luck everyone