Here's the situation guys- in a nutshell:

Been spinning a few plates for a couple of months. One is starting to get to me- and deep. Problem is, she's escalating, but not entirely consistently. To sum it up:

  • we get together once- maybe twice a week.
  • has asked to "take me out" on a few occasions- even offerred to pay. Has even introduced me to the friends.
  • has never turned down an offer to hang
  • has made comments like "I feel like I'm home with you", "When I look at you I'm mesmerized and feel you know just what I'm thinking".

Sounds great, right? Here's the issue- things have been incredibly tense over the last week or so. I think this may have been spurned by a conversation we had about an minor issue that would have be a dealbreaker for me- which was resolved maturely and well. In the midst of this conversation, she mentioned that she "had no desire to date anyone else". I steered the conversation away- it wasn't the right time.

Since then, mixed messages. Hung out once, great time and totall cleared the air. Has continued to drop sweet comments here and there, but if I drop off, it usually takes a couple of days for her to come around, and I'm starting to feel like she's not putting momentum behind things.

Tension is becoming ridiculous- even stunting conversation a bit. Am thinking this is a good and proper dance, but not sure. In truth, I wouldn't mind having this girl around, but for God's sake don't want to be the one initiate the talk. My mojo's being tested. And we're hanging out tonight.

How best to proceed? Any tips? Thx- you guys have been great.