As long as a girl is kind about it, rejection never bothers me anymore. Never. Why? It's because I focus on what I'm doing rather than the outcome. It's a process-over-results mindset.

All I'm doing is going up there, doing my best and letting her decide what she wants to do with it. I don't control what she actually decides so that's not something I should feel bad about. All I can do is do the best that I can and as long as I've done that then I can be proud of myself.

Even if I perform horribly by my own standards, it's still a success in my book if I did what I could given the situation. I know some people find this hard to believe but when you really internalize this mindset then you stop caring about the outcome almost entirely.

I did say almost though and I did put a condition at the beginning of the post. This stuff is only true if she's kind. If she's horrible to you, then it's going to sting no matter what. Most girls aren't though. I did 30 approaches this weekend, got a lot of rejections, and only two girls were mean to me. Only one of those two mean girls really hurt though because she basically humiliated me in front of a whole bunch of people. That's okay though, just walk back to your wing or move on to a new area. It doesn't last long. Even after that painful one, I was still proud of myself for doing that. She was hot as fuck and I had the balls to let her know I was interested. That's good.

Congratulate yourself after going for it. Say, hey, she rejected me but I went after what I wanted and did my best and that's a win. Pat yourself on the back. If you're someone's wing, pat them on the back, literally.

(Rejection from a girl you know well is a totally different situation which isn't something I'm talking about here. This is mostly relevant to daygame, bars, dating apps and texting apps and stuff like that where you're not invested.)