This paradox makes me anxious and depressed (+ Models by MM)

Clyde_Frag · 2016-09-26T21:41:25+00:00

First of all, stop worrying about that nonsense about refractory periods. Who cares. You'll be able to have sex multiple times with 20 minute breaks for all of your 20s.

Now let me tell you a story. The year is 2011 and I have sex for the first time as a 19 year old. It wasn't a life changing experience like I thought it'd be. I still had most of the same insecurities as before and was still pretty anxious in social situations. Then another 3 or so years go by while I'm in college and my sexual encounters are unsatisfying and not large in quantity to say the least.

Once I graduated college, something just changed inside of me. I discovered online dating, had a fair amount of success with it and from there I found some confidence inside of myself. I moved cities to start a job and then met a girlfriend. For awhile I was very happy and I was completely sexually satisfied by my pretty and smart girlfriend, but then after the honeymoon period ended I started to be unhappy again.

A couple months go by and after we broke up, I looked at my life on a macro level and realized I just wasn't very happy. If I was writing this post when I was in college, I would have said that I was unhappy due to a lack of getting laid. But suddenly I was getting laid a decent amount and I felt the same way. I still had to go to a job for 50 hours/week that I hated, and everything else seemed vapid and boring. I was depressed, and my new found confidence with women that I developed 1.5 years prior wasn't doing much to help me be happy.

Anyways, I haven't read Models but the point that I'm sure he's trying to make and I am as well is that women aren't going to be the solution to your problems. Lets say in an alternate universe everything about you is the same, but you are getting laid all the time. You're still filling the rest of your time with activities like gaming and websurfing that aren't inherently fulfilling. Becoming a better person will help you get laid and achieve more happiness, and I wouldn't worry about rushing the process. You can be 24 and still bang 20 year old women, and if you put in the hard work now then it will be second nature to you in the future.

BestSC86 · 2016-09-26T23:06:43+00:00

You are twenty.....30 is a long way away and 40 is an eternity.

NOONE knows crap at 20 though most think they have everything figured out.....just get to WORK.

And learn that women are just another human....not some otherworldly princess with special powers.

Ironchar · 2016-09-26T21:15:26+00:00

Stop thinking about it and focus on your goals and passions in life. Do that whitch others like and you'll met though mutual interest

human_trash_ · 2016-09-27T10:03:26+00:00

I will be past my prime time and I will never (or for short amount of time) experience what is it like to have multiple sex sessions (thanks to short refractory period on young males) with beautiful girls or just generally enjoying girls while i am still pretty young.

lol wat

cristianoferr · 2016-09-27T16:41:47+00:00

Don't quit gym, in the beginning you won't see results but they will come. Focus on yourself, be happy by yourself, when you do that you will attract girl's attention (confidence is an aphrodisiac) Do things outside or have hobbies: skating, running, guitar, etc. When talking to girls, listen to them, add to the conversation, talk about your experiences in common, but never be her 'friend'. she must know that you are interested in her. Don't brag about yourself or beg for attention, if she doesn't wants you go after another. Abundance mentality is key here.

Woujo · 2016-09-26T22:15:49+00:00

Ive spent most of my time surfing web and playing games.

Ok stop doing that and do something productive.

Does anybody feel the same?

How old are you? You are freaking yourself out. You can get attractive in 6 months. Stop freaking out.

Title	This paradox makes me anxious and depressed (+ Models by MM)
Author	depressedjoecz
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	September 26, 2016 8:40 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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