Tinder help? Why is this so difficult?

DownvotesCatposts · 2014-10-25T03:18:11+00:00

Stop defining yourself based on external sources of validation. On Tinder, a girl is nothing more than a cute face, a name, and an age. Why would you let what amounts to a piece of cardboard define your value?

If you insist on this, then use Tinder as a metric. So right now you are at 2 matches/week. What are you going to do throughout the next 7 days to increase that number? How about you work out for half an hour every other day? Or if you're a little overweight (really, who isn't?) drink a gallon of water everyday, and only eat lean meat - then see what happens. GET BETTER.

peace_on_mars · 2014-10-25T03:21:37+00:00

Tinder is shit. 10 guys for every girl. Do the math.

thebigbrownbear · 2014-10-25T03:23:03+00:00

Ditto @loodleloo, I had a similar problem until I swiped right on everyone. Literally increased my matches by 200% and allowed me to put no pressure on myself as I wouldn't care who I matched with. Sure, you'll get the occasional girl (or guy :S) match with you that you simply have no interest in. Just unmatch them.

Within the span of two months I got 40 matches, of which I've been on dates with 4 separate Tinder girls that I genuinely had decent text conversations with and that I found attractive.

Set up a meeting (coffee, brunch etc.) as soon as you can into texting. If she matched with you it means she would probably want to see you in real life! You don't want to freak them out by being the creep who matches and doesn't say anything. Plus you'll be at the bottom of her Tinder contacts where she will probably forget about you.

Be the man and initiate the first move, simply say hi or or comment on something unique about their profile. No cheesey pickup lines. A lot won't respond. Who cares? If you think about it from a girl's perspective, she will easily have around 200 matches, [guys swipe right way more than girls do] it's hard enough multi-texting 10 people let alone hundreds!

So go forth and swipe right Iodollum! After all it's a numbers game.

Langd0n_Alger · 2014-10-25T02:45:04+00:00

get your profile reviewed on r/tinder. no selfies.

thelastpua · 2014-10-25T05:33:03+00:00

I think Tinder is withholding some matches on purpose, since they're gonna release a premium version of it soon. Personally I've started Tinder about a month ago, used to have 3-4 matches everyday for weeks, but recently it's only been a couple every few days, and I live in a medium sized city.

loodleloo · 2014-10-25T02:59:49+00:00

Swipe right to every single girl if you're not already. Makes it alot faster at least

Handiesandcandies · 2014-10-25T04:28:42+00:00

start all of your conversations with "Are you as interesting as you look?" It works every time.

Supapeach · 2014-10-25T04:57:10+00:00

Hit up /r/tinder they have weekly profile improvement threads

ed-grrr · 2014-10-25T05:21:35+00:00

Like all the pictures.... ALL! You'll eventually get the booty.

WhosCountin · 2014-10-25T06:28:13+00:00

Tinder is hell. Took me months of tweaks to get to the point where I was getting any matches. But now I have a pretty cool FWB who I've seen maybe once a week for the last month or so. Also hooked up with two other girls who were alright as well. I started on Tinder right out of a 2.5 year relationship, and it drove me to my lowest point in years. Luckily, I turned the devastation into a drive to learn seduction and get in shape (went from literally never exercising to lifting every other day, 3 months in and I'm already seeing results).

I get using Tinder as a metric. I really do. But two things:

You can get better. Trust me. I'm hardly a huge tinder success now, but I was in your shoes at first and felt like it would never get better.
You need how to learn to be good at Tinder, which is a pretty specific skill set. It'll help your text game, but it's pretty inanalogous to most normal seduction scenarios. It's less intimidating than real life but probably harder in the end. Don't expect getting good at tinder to be a very transferable skill.

Best of luck. You can do it! Even the worst of us can!

Babayaga20000 · 2014-10-25T07:43:02+00:00

I used to use tinder a lot, but now i think its stupid. Going out and meeting real women is 10000x better. Get good at that and laugh at the guys swiping all day

SenorTylerDurden · 2014-10-25T09:03:27+00:00

tinder sucks. It's horrible odds, requires perfect timing, texting skills and many other factors. Don't lost sleep over it. Try deleting it for a few weeks of your crazy

Get_Stamosed · 2014-10-25T09:14:00+00:00

I had the same problem.. I just changed my pics( which is hard because Im not photogenic at all). A few months later I have 300 matches..

Indianbro · 2014-10-25T17:24:18+00:00

There are already so many tinder guides on here, make an effort and look for them. Also, you should never rely on tinder as your only means for game.

Title	Tinder help? Why is this so difficult?
Author	Iodolium
Upvotes	11
Comments	17
Date	October 25, 2014 1:34 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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