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[–]bmey3002 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Pull a nemo and touch the butt
[–]chiliehead 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Touch everyone. If your mother, sisters, aunts etc. available kino them (non-sexually of course, elbow and arms, hugs). Kino guys too.
Make it natural. Touch for emphasis. If you´re laughing, touch her arm. Lead her around with your hand on her lower back. Push-pull and if you tease her make a quick hug and an exaggerated "sooo sorry".
Literally push pull her: She "insulted" you or has doesn´t like what you like "I hate you" gentle push pull her to you again "I can´t be mad at you for long." High fives. Literally pick her up and spin her around for once.
If you tell a story/joke, pull her closer to you when you reach (the story´s) climax.
Stand in a ~90° angle to her. That way you don´t have to reach at her if you touch her and you´re naturally closer to her. Also it´s literally less confrontative if you don´t face her directly. And women point their hip at you if they are interested. Standing where her hip points at makes her feel a connection to you.
[–]Teefz1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Will definitely try and start touching more people. Even in high school my friends and I weren't super 'buddy buddy' with each other. No rough housing.. stuff like that.
I do have a good reference point though. A old friend that literally touches everyone he meets. Probably too much for some people, but hey, everyone loves him.
[–]killaswagyolo420 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Conversations just dulling out:
It's like the interaction is a puddle of gasoline. Your current way of interacting is throwing random twigs in until you run out of twigs. Complimenting her so directly, or bringing in sexuality in a humorous way, is throwing in a lit match. It just makes things hotter.
As far as more physical. I would think about your proximity first. Stand and sit closer to her. Touch her right away on approach if possible. Put your hand on her back/arm to move her out of the way of people. Bump into her "accidentally" several times and tell her to learn to walk straight and tell her she's had too much.
[–]Teefz1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I will admit my conversations are never really that sexual. I do carry a passion with the words that come out of my mouth and with my body language (or so I imagine) because I generally love life and when I'm out solo, I tend to feel I become the best version of myself.
My style of 'game' is definitely more casual and laid back. Cool confident chill dude if you will.
Complimenting and being direct is something I've been doing more unconsciously lately. I think that's the real problem. I'm not afraid to do any of this stuff, I just never remember to add it in when I'm talking. I get into the moment and everything I planned on trying fades away.
Good advice.
[–]killaswagyolo420 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well getting in the moment and throwing stuff out the window is optimal. Provided you respect every part of the moment. And one of the biggest parts is going to be your attraction for her. Don't deny that, let it color your behavior.
[–]Teefz1 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Exactly. I need to keep being reminded of that. For so long I've tried to be covert about my attraction, but everyone likes an honest compliment. I've been direct a handful of times and it always seems like its at least taken positively.
[–]killaswagyolo420 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In some way's you have to be a bit solipsistic. So basically only being influenced by your own thoughts in the moment. Being more about YOU. So basically not giving a fuck. Except don't be a douche and couple it with general respect.
So your mind, be concerned with yourself. Don't ask "Will this work- .. just no, who gives a fuck , are YOU, attracted to her, do YOU feel like doing/saying it? Yes? then as long as it's not outside the bounds of respect and common sense, say or do it.
[–]WarSucksLetsParty 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude you made the first step. Understanding why you don't succeed. This is good.
Now that you've realized you're not getting numbers, it's probably not only that you're not physical enough, but you should be more flirty. Don't be afraid to say sexual things to a girl in a subtle manner. If she's liking it, take it to the next level. Being sexual with a girl or being flirty shows her that you're interested in bagging her.
Escalate. Escalate. Escalate.
[–]fezzesarecool4768 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you think you're hitting a natural ending point, then end the conversation before then. Before you feel like you've run out of things to say, ask for her number, text her something silly as you're walking away from her, and then either begin barhopping, or move to a different part of the bar and begin engaging in other people.
Example:
You: That's an interesting purse, is it doggy proof?
Her: Thank you. Doggy proof?
You: Sorry, I just got a puppy and I'm still working on puppy proofing my aparment, and getting puppy proof things. Guess I've been thinking about it too much.
Her: Aww, puppy. What kind?
....BS conversation about cute dogs....
Her: Yeah, dogs are adorable
You: Sure are. It was nice talking to you, would mind if I got your number? Maybe we could pick this up later, like over coffee and with my puppy?
Her: Sure XXX-XXX-XXXX
[–]Irrelephant_Username 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Probably against the norm but I am the same way. I just take the awkwardness of it to an extreme as to be funny, but you have to actually smile or this will be very very creepy. For example went to dinner with a girl on an outside patio. They have benches with cushions that would be ideal but they are all taken. So we sit at a table with large nice chairs, that are restrictive as hell with the giant arm rests and space between. At some point I just mentioned how it was impossible to naturally touch her and she agreed the chairs were not ideal. I said some bs and then to emphasize my point stood up and leaned fully out and across her chair and touched her arm. Then I dramatically withdrew to my chair. She copied my move and soon we were just making it awkward for people around us but there wasn't really any tension anymore. For me just taking the awkward and overdoing it as a joke always worked better than trying hard to be smooth.
Obviously this is an extreme example but if she likes you and has any sense of humor then you can do a toned down version in a more usual setting. As others mentioned things like feeling her muscles or getting her to feel yours or other sort of obvious excuses to touch each other work.
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