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Yeah. i mean I'm just telling you to do what you want, with no expectations. Another thing you should no is wether or not a date can/will happen, is mostly determined at this point. It's not guys fucking up the texting (well most of the time sometimes they do) that stops plans from being set, it's usually a lack of a sexual/romantic "spark" during the first meeting. So always be evaluating how can your texting and phone calls be better, but also realize how attracted she is, or not, is determine…
/r/seduction11/07/15 04:21 AM
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Don't be shocked and do nothing, take the lead and get her by you. Build sexual tension, and escalate it. Don't be afraid just because she doesn't jump on you immediately.
/r/seduction11/07/15 04:15 AM
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Facial expressions are usually deeper than body language issues. Consider how happy you are, if you're not, pursue something that makes you happy. Consider how you can make life less stressful. Consider therapy if you happen to have some other issues. Do what you can to nurture your emotional health, stabilize your positive emotional state, and thus lean toward a better facial expression. I'd recommend going to a comedy show. Standup, sketch, whatever. Look up reviews and make sure people think …
/r/seduction11/07/15 03:29 AM
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there ya go kid. Do what you want, start with a hello, a whats up?, an inside joke, whatever's on your mind. Go into it with the mindset that you don't care what happens, you're trying, but you don't have expectations, and you'd be fine either way. See what happens, and stay positive no matter what happens
/r/seduction11/07/15 03:22 AM
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lol, country music and white girls is what you can expect I guess. Spend the first part of your night warming up and adapting to the environment, chatting with people cassually, having fun, and getting comfortable in the environment. After maybe 45 minutes of this, as you're starting to really get comfortable in the place, then start to scope out girls. Also you can expect they won't take your requests for E-40.
/r/seduction11/07/15 03:19 AM
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Oh your this guy haha. Nigga you need to ban yourself from a computer for like, a week and just fucking talk to people. Like "undateable I seem to be" nigga shut the fuck up. There is no purpose to any post or comment you've ever made here. log off and hit the fucking gym. Log off and look at some fashion and style magazines and hit the store. Log off and go eat out with friends, flirt with the waitresses, enjoy being around people. Log off and go approach a woman, without bullshit excuses, and …
/r/seduction10/07/15 07:17 PM
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The way you talk about rejection and yourself... I can tell you have an attitude that will inhibit you from getting and seeing IOI's.
/r/seduction10/07/15 06:38 PM
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I'd blame a lack of awareness partially for "not getting' IOI's"... you probably didn't see a couple Sometimes you have to force IOI's, this isn't always a passive thing. You have to eye contact, make a gesture, etc. If you like what you see, you still like it even without an initial IOI... so still approach. You can't depend on pre approach IOI's.
/r/seduction10/07/15 06:24 PM
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Don't do this. Make the best show you can make. Say what you really want to say. Be different. Hang out at local places after the show. Could stay for other comedians, or go to another bar or club. Just be you. The only way stand up will help you is that it's attractive when someone does something they like to do, when people have passions.
/r/seduction10/07/15 04:27 PM
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Something ridiculous. I don't wanna tell you a specific thing, come up with it on your own. Don't think get her attention, don't think optimal for game, just think self amusement.
/r/seduction10/07/15 04:22 PM
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Are you still there? If you're that interested in cold approaching... then leave. Or take a bus or train to a nicer area. It's a good idea to cold approach women. I strongly suspect they agreed only because of your thoughts coming in. If you believed in it you'd present it in a way where they'd say "yeah worth a shot". Do it with respect, have common sense. Make sure she's not uncomfortable looking. Have a positive vibe (don't be afraid to smile) Don't approach outside at night unless it's on a …
/r/seduction10/07/15 04:20 PM
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Yeah I figured it out through tinder and okcupid trail and error.
/r/seduction10/07/15 04:11 PM
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Even with experience... you can still get attached to a girl... this is supposed to happen. Infatuation, love, it's all basic human stuff. Life is boring without it. Not putting her on a pedestal, and taking your time with each other do no inherently conflict. In any way. Have your own life, appreciate her being in it.
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:41 PM
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I hope this isn't so simple its complicated: but do what you want filtered by respect and class. Follow your instincts. There are so many things that come into guys heads when they wanna touch a girl. Only two things should: Basic instinct, primal part of them, sexuality Respect for her and the environment. So what did you want to do when the girl had her cleavage pressed up against you? If it's not disrespectful... do that. .... Stop thinking about kino like a checkpoint or a strategy. Consider…
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:35 PM
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It's not weird at all... I've done it dozens of times like that. However, if you can't say with conviction it's not weird, it will be weird to her when you say it. Dates are for getting to know each other, so you don't have to know that much. All you need to know is that I trust this person (to enough of an extent), and that we have a spark. Just spark of attraction is enough to go on a date you don't need to know everything about each other.
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:28 PM
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That's not how life works. At all. There are certain things you should do at certain times, there are common errors guys make at certain points. However.... You want to change how you are, develop yourself, work to become a more attractive man. The pursuit of this is what will bring you more quality women. You need to be perpetually asking yourself "how can I act/look a way that I and women like more, what can I do to improve myself and my life?" Rather than seeking out a reference for what to d…
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:25 PM
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Like back in forth between your two eyes in a subtle way. That's a good sign. You can tell yourself this girl wants you. just found this
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:17 PM
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Now there's more too it than what you say exactly. You can say anything on your mind that's socially acceptable. It's ussually not what you say being wrong that will blow you out of sets, it's how you are being wrong. How you are is mostly determined before you and this girl ever encounter each other. Your personality and character in general. But there are things you can do in the moment. Breath deep to relax, keep your body language right, do and say things to make yourself laugh and have fun.…
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:13 PM
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Worst: Movies, nightclubs, intensely formal restaurants Best: Coffee Shop, park, comedy club all imo... no solid rules to this.
/r/seduction10/07/15 01:07 PM
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Compliment girls is what I would add to that. Also ask functional questions (time cause phone is dead, how to get to this place, etc.). But part of me wants to recommend you put the cart before the horse. And start doing a few direct approaches when the opportunity is there. Because even with all the social games, and even though they'll help for sure... you're still going to be nervous showing and expressing genuine intent to a girl. You can't avoid it. You will have some anxiety, you will get …
/r/seduction09/07/15 05:24 PM
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There are little things you can to that make you look more attractive, without doing anything to your look, Body language. You will look nicer to people when you carry yourself more proudly. Up straight, shoulders relaxed, move with purpose, don't move to fast. You can make your look a tiny bit better instantly just by doing this. Facial expression. The more stress, anger, sadness, or any other negative emotion your face has... the worse you'l look. Ask people how your resting face is, and think…
/r/seduction09/07/15 05:13 PM
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ah Is that what this is from? I was trying to figure it out.
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:45 PM
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Straight up suggest it. Be honest in every word you say. But frame it in a way where it shows respect to the fact that she won't wanna feel like a slut. Say "get close to you" instead of "fuck you", add in why you don't like where you are right now. Get to the point, but get to it in a respectful way. There's more to this than just your words, I might comment back later with more.
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:44 PM
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You're afraid of failure and you're afraid of attraction feelings. When you're with an attractive girl, let those feelings of lust/positivity flow through you. Don't inhibit them. Take in how sexy she is shamelessly. Let the feelings color your behavior. When you don't allow this state to happen, that's when awkward and nervous happens. And don't be afraid of failure either. She's just a girl. You've never got anything to lose. You're better off trying and failing than not trying. Try not to thi…
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:40 PM
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So you being you... got your dick sucked.... If a girl is predisposed to finding you attractive... then all you have to to is be you... and that is a man so attractive to her she will suck your dick. ... You can have a little entitlement and confidence dude.
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:35 PM
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I would: Look up pictures of handsome bald celebrities or actors or athletes. Try to find bald men a few women claim are attractive. I'd see fi I could copy their facial hair or style with my balding head. If I couldn't find a look that worked... I'd go to the doctor and discuss hair restoration options. Pursue something I love. Not quit my current job, but just fall into a hobby or passion I really want to. DO a little bit of it each day. Keep only the foods I need in my house. Healthy, wholeso…
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:33 PM
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Don't just limit yourself to day game. Go out at night too. Go to intimate and crowded places. Go to neighborhoods with high end shops, and go to grittier neighborhoods. Give variety to the social situations you put yourself in. I mean it doesn't make sense to claim you don't like going out if your game isn't there, because almost no one would like going out if it wasn't for the girls. I don't know anything about your game... other than that you have approach anxiety. So to help with that I reco…
/r/seduction09/07/15 02:17 PM
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Test the water bit by bit. You wanna be a bit more sure with a co worker. Make some eye contact walking past, don't look away, if you're feeling good, smile. If you're feeling cocky smirk. If she passes that test, is positive and comfortable and copying you... have some casual convo at some point. Just self amusement and chit chat. Make eye contact consistently. Stand a tiny bit closer than you would talking to a guy. Compliment what she's wearing and tell her you like that she looks nice. If sh…
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:06 AM
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Don't think this much or in this much detail about this girl, this is just a girl. If you make eye contact like that with any girl you like the look of (including her) from now, just start a conversation, a simple default of "hi, how's it going?"... or whatever comes to mind. You know what to do, it's just what you want to do, talk.
/r/seduction09/07/15 12:15 AM
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they want you to make moves. they would not be with you if they didnt want you to make moves. your most important instinct is urging you to make moves. so be a "gentleman", and give her what she wants (to be wet). dont be a pussy about this
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:52 PM
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I kind of let it happen when a girl is taking the lead like that. Like sure, why not. Make sure not to get overly excited at it though.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:25 PM
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I mean you can ave a number but, if there's no spark between you two, you have nothing. So how you got it does matter.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:21 PM
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Guy's are at all different levels so don't ask who get's laid how quick it's pointless for you. Think about things you did, attitudes and views toward the situation you had on dates you had sex, vs. this one. Was something missing? Did you not make moves you normally make, did you feel like you were earning permission to escalate instead for feeling entitled to it? It could be a lot of things. Think about what you do when you get laid, and make your next date closer to that.
/r/seduction08/07/15 12:19 PM
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you need to make moves. take risk
/r/seduction07/07/15 10:56 PM
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OK, yes, there is infinite stuff you could say. I can probably come up with a dozen things on the spot that would make all of you smile and laugh and go oh he's clever. Saying none of them will bring you closer to pussy in any way. It's not about clever. (btw you can copy and paste this response to anyone online who suggests a "clever" and "funny" response to her having a boyfriend too.)
/r/seduction07/07/15 08:43 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r5u09/conveying_sexual_intent_early_on_how_to_avoid_the/ https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2xvdzv/building_up_a_sexual_vibe_the_key_to_getting/
/r/seduction07/07/15 08:42 PM
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No. She's not attracted to you enough (yet).
/r/seduction07/07/15 08:23 PM
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Rather than completely shut out you could have addressed what she said, with respect ("I understand, nothing's going to happen that you don't want." Then take one step back, not all the steps back (go from neck kissing, back to her lips and maybe playing with her hair a little.) While being back a step, talk to her, laugh, have a good time, enjoy each other ( perhaps some softer touches, face touching during a kiss, forehead kiss, etc.). Gradually touch her more and gain that step back (don't be…
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:37 PM
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It became about amusing myself more than anything. Also just being curious, and not thinking too much.
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:10 PM
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You meet other women.
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:09 PM
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As long as your on a program of some kind.. as long as your trying, then you can give it a shot now. When you get rejected, don't fall into the trap of blaming being skinny. Blame how you were when you approached (body language, positive vibe, confidence, authenticity, etc.)
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:08 PM
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lol that example would only work with a few girls. If you're going to be that direct with a booty call/text, you wanna do it in a way that would get her thinking/turned on reading it.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:04 AM
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I mean.. you know what's up it sounds like. If you get a vibe like this is dead... then just give it to her and move on with life. If you get a vibe like there is a chance here, do the thing you said that works for you.
/r/seduction07/07/15 03:02 AM
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(phone out) "You wanna go out sometime soon?" Worked for me the other day. Now note that I was pretty damn sure it would work, and I'm good at reading girls. The challenge of work stuff is you have to ping for attraction in a low risk way, but also get a definite yes or no in your head about it.
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:58 AM
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Kino isn't a tool to express desire in my mind, it's more an effect of desire. IMO it's better to look at it that way. Beyond that, look at her and imagine fucking her. That's how you eye fuck properly. Verbal methods would start with complimenting usually. I also do a bunch of stupid shit that comes to me in the moment, like bumping into her repeatedly and telling her to watch where she's walking/she's had enough. Or texting "nice ass ___" when she goes to the bathroom.
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:45 AM
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Alright so let me ask this to get you started... When the time would come to escalate, kiss her or touch her wherever: what feeling is in you besides lust/attraction/primal instinct? What goes through your head besides that straight up pure desire in those moments? Whatever it is you need to reconcile it, think about it, talk about it, do research... whatever you can to get it out of there... and make the answer to the question: "... there's no feeling besides pure desire".
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:38 AM
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hm Fair points all around. I just thought of it and with the way day game is taught to a lot of guys... they'd going to get destroyed in some clubs if they were to come in the same way haha. So I guess for them yeah to treat it the same mentally wouldn't end well you're right.
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:29 AM
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Well you don't really talk about sexuality straight out, I mean you can but that's not a universal ingredient to having sexual tension by any means. You can just adopt mannerisms that that come from your attraction and promote tension. Like eye fuck her, stand a bit closer, compliment her and mean it, etc. Edit for those mannerisms I mean real life. With texting I'd say it starts with complimenting in some form. But maybe you wanna think about locale, if you wanna have casual sex and you can say…
/r/seduction07/07/15 02:23 AM
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Women are way better at noticing it. However part of this case is that girls look more when you're around other women. So it probably did actually spike up a lot when you were around them.
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:43 PM
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Your awareness just isn't there. It's usually what guys would call subtle. Try to be more alert.
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:42 PM
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Basically for her not to go cold, she needs to be in a position where she could take the idea of you fucking her seriously. Deep conversation is pleasant, but it doesn't inherently make that happen. Showing a little intent and letting your attraction for her color your interaction makes that happen. So as the convos go on, your messages should primarily consist of ones getting to logistics for meeting up, and/or ones flirting and keeping things on a sexual plane.
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:40 PM
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The biggest and most legitimate reason not to pick up girls at the gym, is that you want to be focussed on your own thing. Go hard, be efficient. The other big one is that you might be interrupting the same from her. If you are not compromising the efficiency of your workout or her's, go for it.
/r/seduction06/07/15 08:03 PM
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Because you're making a deal out of the feeling of attraction. Thus hindering it. Let it come, let the cells in your body shift. Allow yourself to be in a sexual state if that's what your instincts want to do. It's the grey area in between no attraction and letting it flow through you where awkward feelings lie. Like what you see and like it shamelessly.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:04 PM
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lol
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:17 PM
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well yeah it's different, I mean women are still women what they're attracted doesn't change... but it's just a different social environment. It's not so much a new way of gaming it's more so figuring out how to carry yourself in the social environment.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:14 PM
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How are you gonna meet up? lol. You need numbers to do that. And a date doesn't really mean "dating" like relationship slow down dating. You can fuck on a first date. To make it more interesting... keep it fun. Do stuff that shows intent, but can make you laugh at the same time. Like for example: texting her "nice ass (name) " when she leaves the table to go to the bathroom.
/r/seduction06/07/15 03:39 PM
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I would probably wind up having this interaction: (at or near a "high" moment. positivity, sexual tension, etc.) "There is kind of a spark between us here isn't there?" (some form of agreement.) "Well I mean, let's stay laid back about it, but let's keep going, I like this." (more agreement, back to flirting and escalating and stuff.)
/r/seduction06/07/15 03:32 PM
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it was the questions. Don't ask questions. Just snap that bra off with one hand or with your mouth. Follow your instincts more. Be a bit more animalistic, primal, natural. Asking like that just isn't natural, it's awkward.
/r/seduction06/07/15 03:20 PM
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You're overlooking a lot of factors about yourself. Factors of character and personality traits. If your girl has ever felt attached to, turned on by you, or in love with you, then I know for a fact you are more than just a "normal nice respectful guy". You have more qualities than that. What seduction material does classically, is it mimics the specific actions and words a man of certain attractive qualities might have. This formula has limitations. But for a person who's closer to clueless (so…
/r/seduction06/07/15 01:47 PM
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The process can get started just because of looks. But I can't say it's all because of looks because there is always the possibility of fucking it up between point A and point B. You need the right mindset and a little skill always IMO.
/r/seduction06/07/15 01:39 PM
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mostly true, but be careful about asking girls about certain things. for example most girls will say a dick pic is never a good idea (bullshit). some girls even say they don't want to be approached in public. and online dating is better (bullshit). I cold go on to several other topics girls will say the wrong thing. to get good advice on topics like that, you need the woman to have already done things with you, or be extremely attracted to you, usually.
/r/seduction06/07/15 01:31 PM
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What might seem like a long time, in reality could be a small sample size. Let's say a guy is great looking, 50% of girls would eye him up, like a coin flip. If you flip a coin 1000 times, the possibility of getting 20 tails in a row is very much there. It might happen a few times to your surprise. Same thing might happen with that attractive guy getting IOIs. Even with fair odds, there is bound to be a short stretch where the unfavorable outcome comes up repeatedly. It's not a significant thing…
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:20 AM
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Pre approach routine for good state: swagger toward her, Breathe deep, blank mind, correct body language to be tall and confident, check her out.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:14 AM
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"So you go to (college) too?" Is what I do. You have the right idea.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:11 AM
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I doubt your awareness is that great. SO I take the don't get checked out claim with a grain of salt.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:07 AM
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oh last night i went up to a girl in a group and told her to help me button up my shirt cuff. while she's doing it just started small talk, complimented, exchanged names...
/r/seduction05/07/15 10:37 PM
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a nice body and average face turns girls on more than vice versa, from my expirience. id ratber have a pimple or two than gain a pound or two. also i dont think you turn ppl off like you think you do. i think your just pessamisitic as fuck.
/r/seduction05/07/15 10:34 PM
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That being said... if you don't get laid... it don't have shit to do with your looks. You don't look bad at all, let alone bad enough to come to that conclusion.
/r/seduction05/07/15 04:12 PM
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I don't know the right verb. Hover makes sense, but I don't wanna say hover because it has a connotation of looking weird, even though what I'm referring too doesn't look weird at all when I do it. It's very casual, confident, and you don't hesitate really. Anyways what I do sometimes is I kind of put myself near a girl toward the outside of the group (less engaged one). I deliver a casual indirect opener, and that's an in to some chat with her, which in turn is an in to being introduced to the …
/r/seduction05/07/15 03:43 PM
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start by trying to build up some real sexual tension. The kind that makes your cock hard talking to a girl. This post is probably the best one I ever wrote and it has some practical techniques: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2xvdzv/building_up_a_sexual_vibe_the_key_to_getting/ When you feel this sexual tension... follow your instincts within it. Your instincts will have you kino more, so assuming it's appropriate, do it. Your instincts wil have you get as close as possible, do it. W…
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:23 AM
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Know for the future: The beautiful feelings you're having, and a top notch confidence/personality... are not mutually exclusive things.
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:14 AM
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Why the down-votes? I mean the man is taking a look at himself, considering how he could improve, and getting second opinions to his ideas... that's called striving towards progress. This is self improvement in action.
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:08 AM
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Oh yeah she'll be flattered by it. I mean this is basic what turns people on.
/r/seduction05/07/15 06:05 AM
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There's more "competition". But this doesn't really effect me. Day game has competition too actually. Yeah there's no one else around doing it but..What, I think she hasn't texted a guy in weeks before me, please lol. She has options, competition is always there. And so I don't let the competition being more in my face phase me. My first piece of advice is to bring or form a base to come back to. Talk to various people. Make friends, flirt with some of the girls along the way. This is helpful fo…
/r/seduction05/07/15 02:42 AM
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Being a virgin... doesn't effect this. The effect is 100% in your head. What Im about to say is pretty direct and rather strong. It could be stronger in some situations even still. Calibrate to the girl and the environment of course. Start off with pure and simple sexuality in your presence. Imagine her naked, bent over, or on her back legs open, or whatever you want. Look her in the eyes and imagine fucking her. Stand closer than normal, ease into her personal space. Pause more when you speak, …
/r/seduction05/07/15 02:34 AM
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I don't do the yad stop all the time, just not my style, but I've done it a bit and it can/will work. Make sure: your vibe is correct. Like you have to be positive. Not necessarily smiling like an idiot, but just positive. No grimaces after you jump in front of people. Also, (no matter what method of stopping someone you use), make sure you don't become too repetitive in what you say. The yad stop in particular imo works best when the words are as off the top of your head as possible.
/r/seduction04/07/15 06:09 PM
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Start to tell yourself things when girls look at you like that, "She likes what she sees", "she was just checking me out", "she thinks I'm sexy", "I might fuck her if I tried" , etc. None of these things are stretches either, you'd be saying (motivating) statements of fact. If you like them, then yeah you can/should go back to talk. I've done it several times. Make sure you're more to the side/front than you are to the back when you get her attention. a lot of times you can touch her on the arm …
/r/seduction04/07/15 03:19 PM
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Nice. You've taken the first step into a marathon. A race that most men are afraid to start. They'll be small bumps but you'll always be progressing in the bigger picture. Good luck man!
/r/seduction04/07/15 04:15 AM
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Great post, so many guys here need to read this. Create a little pre approach routine to make doing approaches feel easier, and thus less hesitant over time. Alter your state to be more optimal: Walk towards her. fight rather than flight as immediate instinct, swagger over to her almost immediately, you can take your time doing it. Tell yourself what you have to ("quit being a pussy." "ive gotta take this leap of faith" whatever) breathe deep and breathe slowly, helps to calm you down try to bla…
/r/seduction04/07/15 04:06 AM
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assume you could be doing something better. Maybe your state was just off for a few girls you know. Also, it's a few girls. That's a really small sample size. So take rejection and text threads gone bad as possible hints you could do something different, BUT... no reason to take them that seriously. It's not numbers game it's a game of your quality. You will get better, and more girls will meet up with you.
/r/seduction03/07/15 09:03 PM
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Remember, no matter how successful/awesome you become, you will never attain the bulletproof level of confidence that women are attracted to. WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Me just being me, is a confidence that women are attracted to.
/r/seduction03/07/15 06:17 PM
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Non verbal communication. Force an IOI out of her before you actually talk to her. Nod head, raise glass, smile, sink, raise eyebrows, whatever feels right to you in the moment. Sometimes the eye contact alone is enough for a reaction out of her. Move about the club rather slowly and with strong body language doing this with women you find attractive. No ideas for what to say? keep it simple. If you've forced an IOI like I described above, you can approach with strong intent and just say hello. …
/r/seduction03/07/15 06:07 PM
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Mhm. nice because after a while escalation can start to become counter productive. I don't think you deserve the downvotes you have on this post.
/r/seduction03/07/15 05:51 PM
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You start but then stop yourself from doing something really intense. Take it back a step. But continue to tease her and continue to embrace the sexual tension. You can even say "not yet" or "you fucking wish don't you?"
/r/seduction03/07/15 05:11 PM
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It is a good idea to use some restraint sometimes. It could have been helpful to ease up during an intense moment. As if to say with your actions: " mmm, fuck. But not here, not now that's no good... but when it is time I'm gonna fuck your brains out".
/r/seduction03/07/15 04:01 PM
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I would say divide the standards you can come up with into 2 categories. Essential, and secondary. Essential for example would typically be things like be "disrespect, manipulative, hard drugs, etc." . Secondary would be things like "on phone 24/7". Only drop without trying for the essential ones.
/r/seduction03/07/15 02:20 PM
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DO those filter out that many people? I mean I don't think so. Those don't seem unreasonable at all. I don't want a smoker, I like class, I don't like girls that get wasted, and I do fine. Maybe the twitter one is one you wanna think about a little, people use twitter a lot. But you have the right to have that one, and even with that one it's interesting to me that there would be a major problem.
/r/seduction03/07/15 02:10 PM
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This sin't easy. It's emotionally grinding. You've got to look at progress. What you have now that you didn't have before. You have to have a proactive view on the fact that you haven't closed. A proactive view is on where you blame yourself entirely, but you blame factors you can control and will work on. Think about how you are, particularly with women. Ask yourself what characteristics that women find attractive you might be lacking. Then do research, and form a plan of attack to adopt these …
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:35 PM
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Cut to the chase verbally. Hit the dance-floor.
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:29 PM
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Outcome independence is always possible, even in high school. I can't read your mind but I think this is a sort of excuse. Like, I think if you're honest with yourself this is more general AA than the high school environment. Girls aren't talking about it as much as you think they will be. And if they are they don't see you as weak or foolish or anything negative. YOU are the one who see's it as negative. It's not gonna hurt your chances going forward. You've got to be a bit solipsistic with thi…
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:20 PM
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No I don't haha. But I'm right unless celebrities aren't people.The only challenges, things I would have to figure out new to me, would be more logistical than actual game.
/r/seduction03/07/15 02:54 AM
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Can I ask why? Are celebrities all the hottest girls to you? Do they seem to have the personality you want to be with? It just seems weird to me. I mean it's kind of simple. You have to be in the right places at the right times, be attractive to them, do what you need to do. But yeah.. why????
/r/seduction03/07/15 02:29 AM
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Get a job. Or at least get very proactive and relentless in a pursuit of one. Drop standards and expectations if necessary. Get your ass in gear. Don't be afraid of failure with women. I think you are due to a lack of internal validation. A lot of weight on how girls view you. And because of that weight you settle and do nothing. Just tell yourself: "hey, I'm gonna put myself on the line more. And I'm gonna fail a lot. But I respect myself and I want better for myself. so instead of focussing on…
/r/seduction03/07/15 02:08 AM
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I'm gonna give you a mission that will teach you as much as all the material you've read over the past year: Go out tomorrow and cold approach 5 girls. With intent and directly.
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:44 AM
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Agreed. Learning is great but for this part of life it's all about putting yourself out there.
/r/seduction03/07/15 01:27 AM
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Don't think about the possibility of failure.. think about what's at hand: Girls you'd want around you. Let's be positive, so we don't ruin our night far beforehand.
/r/seduction02/07/15 11:56 PM
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Start by simply being the overly extroverted smiling idiot that your boss wants you to be. After a few people calm down a bit. Start to loosen up and joke around with customers a bit . When i was a cashier I would say funny things off the top of my head. (scans 1 pair of socks) "Alright that'll be $95.86." (she laughs and swipes) "wow, you, you're actually going through with this I think that's a slightly outrageous price but you do you." (she laughs with me). Just entertain yourself like that.
/r/seduction02/07/15 11:55 PM
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To me, the best way to improve opening is to look at legit infield videos. Pay attention to mannerisms more than words, vibe and mood more than lines.
/r/seduction02/07/15 10:16 PM
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What am I changing when I seduce a woman? I'm not changing anything. TO me, all you can do is be attractive, and present your attractive self in a calibrated, interesting way. Maybe presenting yourself positively you'd call manipulation?
/r/seduction02/07/15 10:12 PM
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Great point.
/r/seduction02/07/15 06:00 PM
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It's probably your "fault". It's not as much luck as the world makes you think.
/r/seduction02/07/15 05:09 PM
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And I gave a simple perspective.
/r/seduction02/07/15 05:07 PM
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In some ways this is a life tip in general, you drop those who disrespect you or hold you back.
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:28 PM
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Social manipulation... no. No it's really not. edit: and if anyone else thinks it is... that's why your shit at getting laid.
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:27 PM
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Concealer is coloring closer to your skin tone and it covers up things that are not your skin tone. Theres liquid and spot ones. Some even have the active ingredients of acne creams mixed into them. But for the purpose at hand you'd rather have the one closest to your skin, with or without the acne fighting stuff. HOWEVER, for now...Prioritize improving skin care routine and treating the acne, before you resort to covering it up. Get a face wash without alcohol and sulfates, and with effective n…
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:26 PM
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Look, your making a bigger deal out of a kiss than it is, and because of this your leaning toward blaming it. I've attempted to kiss right off the bat as I'm meeting her, been rejected, and still gotten a second date. It's not the going in for the kiss. It's a lack of connection/attraction. That's in your hands more than you think it is. Your responsible for that spark to happen.
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:19 PM
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I've tried it, this is pretty much how I game. I know that the odds of this working to get sex are vanishingly small After you do it a few times, and you can look comfortable doing it, and assuming you have common sense and you only do it in the right situations with the right girls... The odds are going to be pretty comparable to other types of opening. You might be skeptical about trying something new and thus think 'I lost a potential'.. but really, they weren't potentials in the first place.
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:13 PM
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Eat big and eat well... lift, wear shoes with a little bit of a heel (mens shoe heels lol, like some boots have a tiny bit more than others you know. You could also do a lot for yourself mentally. Like "they want to look away from you". Shit, no chance with that in your head.
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:08 PM
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when somebody asks you to do something, they are presenting you a hoop, a compliance test. I think an alternative way around this, one besides you presenting your own hoop... is to just not see it that way. And i don't see it that way. Well most of the time, yes there are cases where girls will see what they can "get away with" but if you come off as a pushover that much, theres bigger things you need to deal with. I interpret your TV example not as a test of who's leading or in charge of the fr…
/r/seduction02/07/15 04:04 PM
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Go out, look at guys who have girls with them, and have girls checking him out.
/r/seduction02/07/15 03:47 PM
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God I hate it there. anyways, mall maybe? An arcade type place like gameworks?
/r/seduction01/07/15 04:28 AM
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Don't try too hard like that . Being you is enough, you've got to embrace that to get anywhere with women. Being funny is about seeing the funny in things. It's about gravitating toward thoughts that make you laugh, then just letting them out in that unique moment.
/r/seduction01/07/15 04:25 AM
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With in the moment humor the delivery comes naturally, the jokes aren't pre-planned. You're not looking at this the right way. Watching great standup will help, but not chiefly because of the delivery example. It helps mainly because it loosens you up, get's your mind leaning toward humor. Humor on a stage and humor in conversation/while flirting are very, very different things.
/r/seduction01/07/15 04:16 AM
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You need to be more fun? You've got to develop the skill on your own. Practice by walking around and making jokes in your head about what people are thinking or talking about. Become aware and humor driven like that. btw getting someone to laugh and find what you say interesting is not the same as seducing them... it's not really a step to the process either. Being humorous is attractive but it's no where near a seal the deal characteristic.
/r/seduction01/07/15 04:02 AM
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You'd sense it. Basically she just has to comfortable with what your pushing. I mean it's just common sense when she doesn't approve of it.
/r/seduction01/07/15 03:22 AM
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Interesting. It is sometimes effective to point out what's going on "don't you feel a spark/tension/ect?"
/r/seduction30/06/15 11:25 PM
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I know it's a joke. You can take something from it. That something is that sometimes being goofy, doing something stupid can get you places. Loosen up a bit.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:36 PM
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Fucking stupid and goofy. Which makes it exactly the type of thing you want to do when you have nothing else to do in a club. It didn't work because it's clever... it worked because it embodied a not caring fun/flirty attitude. Is this a replicable thing, hardly, but it demonstrates what is possible.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:30 PM
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Just be you. Even if your trying to be charming and fun, it has to ba charming and fun version of YOU. Not some character made to impress other kids. Don't go for a girl if she's too gone. Dangerous territory. If you wouldn't ride in her car at the very moment, don't try to fuck her at the very moment. Talk a bit to everyone. If you like a girl, you're going to have to spend time talking to her friends in a group too. Avoid being a spectator. Always be doing something. If you find yourself doing…
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:25 PM
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Oh ok. The advice about being your own person and telling yourself this is cool because my values say so definetly applies still. Consider not even going to some parties. But it will be fine if you do. A girl, if she's attracted to you, you're not gonna lose points with her by not drinking.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:16 PM
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You talk to a therapist.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:02 PM
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You have the right attitude, you want to be able to will yourself into the zone not rely on substances to do it. Drink as little as you want. You're your own grown self. Do as you please. You've got to have an attitude that says "this is OK and cool because my own principles say so.". That being said, if friends want to go out specifically for the purpose of "getting shit-faced". Maybe those types of nights are the ones you just get some extra rest and you day game the next day. You may wanna st…
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:59 PM
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I need more specifics I guess. Because pushy, obsessed, are not automatically connected with obvious and direct. There's almost always more to it than "I was too obvious and forward". So give me an example of the openly flirting via text your speaking of.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:50 PM
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Which probably gives you the right kind of cocky: a subtle, genuine, self aware sexual kind of cockiness to your demeanor. Not an over the top BS cocky funny thing.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:48 PM
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She has common sense lol. If you flirt obviously, and she goes out with you.. she's clear on what you're about. Sh's feeling it if she goes out with you after you've shown intent.
/r/seduction30/06/15 04:33 PM
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Stand and sit a little bit closer, eye fuck her a little, maybe compliment her. Just do a little to see if any sexual tension is there. If she responds in a way that you know there is... then congrats.
/r/seduction30/06/15 02:46 PM
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Occasionally not only eye contact, but eye fuck them. Imagine fucking her while making eye contact. Stand and sit closer. Too close for you and a guy. Don't rush words. Use pauses. If you can, fire up a date before hand by sexting. Touch her asap to start a date (hug and possible kiss) to set a tone that makes touching from you later more expected and more well received. Let the only things that stop you from touching her how you want be: respect for her, level of class for the environment you'r…
/r/seduction30/06/15 02:43 PM
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You need to increase the things that motivate you to approach, and address the things that do the opposite. "Things that demotivate includes toxic beliefs. Like: "people are watching me." no, nobody around you don't know gives a fuck about what you're doing until you talk to them directly. Or "What if I get rejected?" well, you grow up, your life hasn't changed, you've lost nothing. Rejection is a part of this (life). "what if she thinks I'm weak/foolish/any negative thing.?" No, opposite is tru…
/r/seduction30/06/15 03:51 AM
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I DJ. And from the way I walk in, I'll bet you could bring a backpack and headphones and say your on at 1... and just get right in.
/r/seduction30/06/15 03:37 AM
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Escalation is the hardest part because far too many men don't view sexuality as a mutual thing, a thing both genders love and a way of expressing that they like each other. They instead view it as a foreign concept (to be fair, it might be foreign to them). They don't have the concept that girls are sexual in their reality.
/r/seduction30/06/15 03:35 AM
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why we're doing this Great point. I think a lot of guys lose track of the fact that they're attracted to the girl in the middle of interactions. Holding on to that like you recommend will put you in the right direction.
/r/seduction30/06/15 03:30 AM
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This effectively how you do "eye fucking" in the most natural way, eye contact+ your very good suggestion here.
/r/seduction30/06/15 03:28 AM
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thanks
/r/seduction30/06/15 12:45 AM
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Imma post advice later, one of the few bullet points I just typed was to not jack off and watch porn. I don't like NoFap though. They take shit too seriously, to the point where it gives off an undertone that sexual desire is a sign a weakness.
/r/seduction29/06/15 10:30 PM
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I think sexual is the key word there. If you add the ability to have a sexual vibe and to escalate it to what you described, you'll be lethally effective.
/r/seduction29/06/15 04:44 PM
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Both, kissing is a pretty instinctive feeling natural thing... AND, you need to practice it. Just don't think about it while doing it, and let expirience come.
/r/seduction29/06/15 10:04 AM
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thank you! Glad I helped.
/r/seduction29/06/15 02:10 AM
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Anything that isn't "nothing" . Examples: "Watching futurama" "on a bus with a homeless man staring at me, " getting ready to go out for a bit, you should come you ever been to ____?"
/r/seduction29/06/15 02:09 AM
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Neediness is when your emotional state and self perception are either indifferent or negative.. And to move away from that you mostly depend on outside factors, like other people. Instead of your own mind and actions.
/r/seduction29/06/15 02:05 AM
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Don't Overthink this. Don't think about negs or any dumb strategy like that. Right now just enjoy your time with her, don't center your world around her. Be there when she needs you. And fuck her well. That's all your mission is right now.
/r/seduction29/06/15 02:01 AM
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Oh ok. I personally don't like the shopping for sister excuse. Put yourself on the line a bit. Make it clear what this is about.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:15 PM
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Wait not a date? what do you mean? You don't want anything serious but she's attractive so you would get with her?
/r/seduction28/06/15 07:01 PM
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Ah, you're right about commenting... didn't think about not talking that much beforehand.
/r/seduction28/06/15 06:58 PM
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It's all more of a mental thing than a looks thing. Good looks will open more doors for you, but they alone won't convert opportunities once your in them.
/r/seduction28/06/15 06:57 PM
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Get some great looking pictures of you on there, that's your first priority. It will help you with online game in general for the near future not just with one girl. Then like and comment on a photo or two of hers. If she replies to a comment or likes a picture or two of yours... shoot her a DM. If she doesn't comment or like anything you can still send her one it's just less of a promise of a good response.
/r/seduction28/06/15 06:43 PM
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You laugh it off, maybe joke with girl you were with about how jealous her friend is. Talk to them as a group, keeping close to your girl, arm around her probably. You just be yourself. If theres a moment you and her friend are there but your girl is not, mention genuinely that you like her friend.
/r/seduction28/06/15 04:02 PM
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AA never entirely goes away. Now isn't that thought a bit relieving. It never goes away, and yet things are always happening between boys and girls. Proof that you can work with some anxious feelings in you. Now on to relieving it a bit. You've got nothing to lose when you approach someone. Rejection is meaningless. Overthinking is really the enemy. You were probably thinking "WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO/SAY?" You're probably imagining at least one hypothetical rejection. Asking 'how?' like it's some …
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:32 PM
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Reaching daytime approach level is not years worth of work. Like you could probably get laid within a month.
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:18 PM
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You're the leader Pick a location where it's not too serious but an intimate vibe is possible. Greet her with a hug and a kiss. (Set the tone) Don't ever try to impress her. ("Is this place good enough?" yes, it is, the guy she wants to fuck, you, is in it.) Have a vague schedule for the night or day in your head. Don't think how do I respond to what she is saying. Think based on what she is doing, what direction do I go in. Also these tips are general first date tips the rich girl thing means j…
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:15 PM
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Hmm... I think it depends on why you didn't wanna dance exactly. Too fast for you? Don't like dancing? She wasn't attractive enough for you? A dance is not a commitment to pursue each other for the night. So no it's not rude.
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:08 PM
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Girls where you work...you have to be pretty careful. I don't believe it's automatically bad like everyone else here, but it can turn really bad. It should be more careful. A "put yourself there, and see if she likes what's in front of her" sort of game. Women in general. I find it very beneficial to touch her asap. Touch on the arm cold approaching, hug and kiss to start a date, etc. However after that it doesn't have to be a rush, unless I want it to be. Depends on the environment, what were l…
/r/seduction28/06/15 03:03 PM
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The question implies a very misguided view on a mans value in terms of sex and dating and relationships in a woman's eyes. anyways...Avoid stories that make you seem pathetic or unstable. That's about all I have to answer.
/r/seduction27/06/15 05:59 PM
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Is this real?? If so, this is an issue of your own sexuality, your own values, your own everything. Do the thing the kind of guy you really want to be would do.
/r/seduction27/06/15 05:56 PM
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By looking at her. If that doesn't do it.. then just fucking approach. Forcing IOI's ahead of time is great but not always possible. Edit: I guess to get good attention you could have better body language than other men around. Walk very straight and with the right kind of swagger. Hit the dance floor if your in a club. All kinds of things like that that draw the right kind of attention, but if the attention doesn't come easily, like I said sometimes you just gotta cold approach.
/r/seduction27/06/15 04:34 PM
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bombed is a strong word for this. You obviously realize the importance of taking charge and leading. However I don't think her suggesting a venue is a problem in that regard... unless, you don't want to go there and you'd rather do something else. That's when that would become a problem. But I don't think a "yeah that seems cool why not" deal is bad at all. That being said, you should have concern over where you two are going. Sometimes a more intimate coffee shop is necessary, sometimes the cra…
/r/seduction27/06/15 03:01 PM
1

That "chemistry level" is under your control almost completely. Don't ask what you can do without it, ask how you can build more of it.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:32 PM
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I usually let them know I had a good time.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:24 PM
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You've got direct Hey, can I talk to you for a second. I just saw you and thought you looked nice so I thought I'd come talk to you..." Opinion Hey I just need to ask someone besides me..Do you think this shirt is cool, or is it kinda weird?... And those are the two types I use at the mall.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:23 AM
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Stop being a pussy.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:18 AM
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I think you need to work on getting your mind in the right place on approach. Take a deep breath. Try to clear your mind. Stand up tall and carry yourself confidently. Don't suppress any feelings of physical attraction, let them flow through you. After that, say what's on your mind preferably, or you can pull from the other comments that will come here to fall back on.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:17 AM
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I'm sure you want "better" answers. But this sounds like an issue for which you look to your values and standards before you look to the web. That being said heres a tip: Chasing is mentally and emotionally draining and does nothing good for your confidence or game. It causes a pain that is WAY the fuck stronger than the quick bullet of cutting someone off sooner.
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:11 AM
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(optional) Humor (to diffuse tension if she asks in a tone that raises it. Agree and amplify is the sub's favorite kind of joke so that's an option) Honesty ( Don't be afraid of alluding to or even saying whatever the honest answer is. I mean be conscious of the way you say it and coming off as player or loser...but if the truth is far from those extremes, don't be afraid of her knowing it. ) Respect (Most shit tests are, shit. But some shit tests have obvious root causes that are a bit more ser…
/r/seduction27/06/15 02:03 AM
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Good points. Psychologists will usually attest to the truth of "fake it till you make it" in regards to body language. We are creatures of habit, so to become what we want to become we adopt habits of that. The body language, certain actions, even certain things said.
/r/seduction27/06/15 01:54 AM
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how'd it go?
/r/seduction27/06/15 01:49 AM
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wait you do want to be horny.. like by definition of what your trying to do you have to be. nothing inherently wrong with being turned on in itself. I think sleazy is a more accurate term for what you meant you wanna avoid.
/r/seduction26/06/15 11:51 AM
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everything ive ever typed on this subreddit I have done with success, i have zero interest in anyone failing
/r/seduction25/06/15 05:02 PM
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Chill and confident. Even say "is it too soon to kiss?". Or kiss her on the cheek and haver kiss yours, flirt and talk for like 20 seconds and try again. Respectful, calm, persistent is how I react.
/r/seduction24/06/15 02:54 PM
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seen as alpha..Well are you an alpha male? Like are you not a pushover, do you have high respect for yourself and others? Don't blame your race. Blame things you can control. Maybe you could just present yourself in a more attractive way in general. Maybe your tinder pictures suck. My advice is to show some self respect, be the alpha male you want to be, work on yourself aesthetically and mentally. And if there is an element of you might not be the type of as many girls there as you would be in …
/r/seduction24/06/15 02:52 PM
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Spend a lot of time outside of your house, with your phone off, and no book or anything with you. Force yourself to get out there that way. As your out there, use a social ladder. Start out by asking functional questions to any type of person male or female, not ones your attracted to. Ex: "Excuse me my phone died, do you know what time it is?". Then go into stores and chat with female employees. Ex:"What's a shirt you think would look good on me?". Then pay girls not as attractive to you and/or…
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:59 PM
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Killer instinct has a direct relationship with desire, and an inverse relationship with the amount of thoughts in your head. So what that means is you need to be horny, and you need your mind to be calm and simple. practice meditation at home Take a deep breath slow breath and let your mind clear (focus on nothing but the feeling of breathing) before an interaction with a girl starts. Don't jack off this week and see how the mood and vibe is different this weekend going out. When you look at her…
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:51 PM
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There is no ultimate book. Read a bit of stuff from people who seem very legit to you, and you would want to be like. But you should be more concerned with exposing yourself to as many new women as possible, than you are concerned with picking out reading material.
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:35 PM
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It's been a minute so Whenever you feel like it, just shoot her a text. Don't worry about it.
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:30 PM
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How can you not apply say what comes to mind? There's always something on your mind, just say that. If that doesn't happen for you, then start trying to utterly blank your mind before talking to a girl. Flirting and flirty subjects will come to mind... If movies is what you think will come to mind your crazy lol.
/r/seduction22/06/15 08:27 PM
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If you lack experience with women and dating, a book won't fix this problem. Getting experience fixes it, go approach. There are two options for pinpointing what you need to do better to attract women: read a book cover to cover go out right now, politely approach a woman, and express that you find her attractive, and talk to her, ask her to go out sometime. Prioritize the latter. I'm not saying don't read whatever (Models) book people will recommend here, but heavily prioritize going out and ta…
/r/seduction22/06/15 08:21 PM
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Well I mean the most basic form of verbal escalation is a compliment. Let her know you think she looks good, and why specifically. But focus on how to be rather than what to say.. if you do that then good stuff to say will sort of come. Focus on being chill, confident, in a sexual mood. When you force/allow that type of state to come, you'l have the right thoughts, then you express those thoughts. So to be more chill, breathe deep if you get a bit nervous. Relax tension in your body that you fin…
/r/seduction13/06/15 02:54 PM
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Be a bit more genuine. Make it feel like this is a special moment and is a bit unique to her. Actually show intent a bit, wear it on your sleeve rather than disguising it in a cocky cool-guy whatever. Complimenting her is a good place to start. Be specific when you do it.
/r/seduction13/06/15 02:42 PM
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You have to open yourself up a little. Don't tell her anything weird, and don't cry or anything like that. But don't be afraid of showing a bit of vulnerability.
/r/seduction13/06/15 02:38 PM
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If possible try other venues. But try to deal with it/find a little respect for the style. Then rely on girls and how sexy they look to get you into state, rather than the music. I don't like dubstep as much as other electronic genres. But if I'm at a dubstep event/club night and there's a bunch of girls in really sexy clothes, tight shorts with nice asses and they're pretty too... I'm gonna be in a good state. Focus on the girls.
/r/seduction13/06/15 02:37 PM
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you need to chill. Those aren't shit tests. You sound like an idiot. While demanding respect is essential to being a real man... It is very much possible to do it in a way that makes you not seem very manly.
/r/seduction10/06/15 02:50 PM
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I wasn't thinking aout virginity, the word never crossed my mind, I just wanted to get laid. It was important to me. Not the biggest part of my life at the time but a lot of energy toward it. I got a GF, we got a random evening of privacy about 2 weeks into dating, we fucked. It's like driving for the first time in a way. You're excited in the moment, also a bit terrified. And as of the moment, you are just about the worst who's ever done it. But no one is gonna fault you for that.
/r/seduction10/06/15 02:40 PM
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It's almost 100% based on your reaction to it. If you cringe or look sad, that will lower your value in her eyes. If you give a content "take care" and move on like nothing happened almost, maybe even a bit of a smile... then your value won't be lowered.
/r/seduction10/06/15 02:38 PM
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Eat better Lift heavy weights more Get more sleep Spice things up by diving deeper into what turns her on. Talk to her about fantasies, possible kinks she might have. Basic formula would be this: " I should (insert fantasy of what you want to do with her) ... but you might like that too much.". If she likes it, Do it.
/r/seduction08/06/15 05:41 PM
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Oh I see. Well to start out, have at least a bit of sexual tension in your real life interactions before you try to sext her. You need this real life sexual vibe first, even if it's just a little bit of it.
/r/seduction08/06/15 05:33 PM
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You need to word the question better. How can I make sexting happen? Then in the text of the post repeat the title question and mention what you've tried already if anything.
/r/seduction07/06/15 12:32 PM
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Sometimes because of personality type you have to give it a minute for her to open up. But if after a whole minute there's no sign of life, yeah you should excuse yourself.
/r/seduction06/06/15 12:40 PM
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I had to ask. People use race as a bullshit excuse here all the time.
/r/seduction06/06/15 12:36 PM
2

Can you see her turning you on from nothing? Taking you from 0 to at least something? If so, you can, if not, you probably shouldn't.
/r/seduction05/06/15 02:22 PM
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Are you in a unique part of Nepal or Asia? Are you asking because customs where you are make certain commonly advised game techniques obsolete? Or are you just making a classic height and race excuse to avoid looking at things you can improve, and to avoid actually going out and doing anything?
/r/seduction05/06/15 02:19 PM
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Yeah OP read this: http://kennyspuathoughts.com/2013/01/20/how-to-get-the-best-out-of-pua-guest-post-by-dating-coach-steve-jabba/ And yeah you can't wait for signs at all times. It's as if the guy is waiting for a green light, when with the way many women behave, it's not going to come. To me it's like sitting at an intersection with no traffic light when a guy is doing nothing because he can't see a green light anywhere ( he doesn't have super strong signs). You're supposed to just go, and you …
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:32 AM
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Just let it be. From now on, consider how intriguing your interaction really was before that point. Like, can you say she's interested in the idea of fucking you? if not, then you shouldn't be surprised about a lack of investment.
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:20 AM
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No t's not needy , tag along, invite them out sometimes. Improve your game by talking to more girls. Real life, text ones you already know, chat with some online. Just be talking to multiple girls everyday. Learn more about girls, how they are in terms of relationships and love and sex, and why. Don't learn this via manosphere blogs or pickup guys. Learn this via people grounded in psychology and sociology, or just ask girls questions you have directly. Also work on your looks, make goals at the…
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:18 AM
2

She is out of my league. You have no shot if you say this with conviction. You've go to, while having high respect for her, not put her on a pedestal. Like what makes any man deserve her more than you? Nothing.
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:12 AM
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...Where do you want to put them? Then Put them there. Then if you wanna put them somewhere else, put them there. If you want to touch xplace without clothes in the way, remove obstructing clothing. What position do you want her in? Make that happen. Put her straddling you, put her up against the wall, lay over her and wrap her legs around your waist. Whatever you desire. If you want to feel aggressively, do so, grab and smack. If you want to touch sensually, do that, caress. Like shit dude, you…
/r/seduction04/06/15 04:04 AM
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Not always. Most of the time the inner game will be more solid because they've been treated to good experiences that they reference when it comes to a new girl.
/r/seduction04/06/15 03:59 AM
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95% of the time, yeah.
/r/seduction04/06/15 03:57 AM
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I mean if you want to fuck her, you want to fuck her. Approach respectfully, but with your sexual desire on your sleeve. Make it clear that you don't want a relationship. But be respectful and make the interactions genuine so she doesn't feel like a pump and dump prospect.
/r/seduction03/06/15 11:48 AM
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"Hey. You look nice." Clever aren't I?
/r/seduction03/06/15 11:45 AM
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YOUR MOM.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:28 AM
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In some way's you have to be a bit solipsistic. So basically only being influenced by your own thoughts in the moment. Being more about YOU. So basically not giving a fuck. Except don't be a douche and couple it with general respect. So your mind, be concerned with yourself. Don't ask "Will this work- .. just no, who gives a fuck , are YOU, attracted to her, do YOU feel like doing/saying it? Yes? then as long as it's not outside the bounds of respect and common sense, say or do it.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:25 AM
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Tell yourself to stop being a pussy, that not approaching is weaker in her eyes than even the weakest approach... then refer to Nike's slogan.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:18 AM
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Well getting in the moment and throwing stuff out the window is optimal. Provided you respect every part of the moment. And one of the biggest parts is going to be your attraction for her. Don't deny that, let it color your behavior.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:04 AM
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If she see's me coming a mile away I take advantage of the brief moments she looks at me to force an IOI. I check her out back, fairly obviously, maybe a bit of a gesture, smirk, head nod, smile, wink, whatever comes naturally in the moment. For mundane and mechanical, I'd try to blank the mind beforehand. Breathe deeply, and focus only on the breathing. Then focus only on how sexy she is. Then focus only on even stronger body language. That little routine gets you in the proper mode sometimes. …
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:02 AM
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I'll about midway between now and the date, find a time to text a bit. I make sure it's an optimal time. I'm in a good mood. I'm at least a bit horny. Other things that day in my life have been interesting. If all three of those things aren't there. Then my texting probably isn't going to be great. Like if I'm in an ok or meh mood, I'm less prone to be funny. If I'm not a bit horny, either sexual stuff won't come and it will be like two people elevator chatting, or it will be forced and unnatura…
/r/seduction02/06/15 09:40 PM
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I guess I'm saying it should be a case by case basis and not put yourself in a box. Although yeah the box might be necessary for those less experienced.
/r/seduction02/06/15 09:18 PM
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Online/texting is not only for logistics. But I guess if you must, stick to that.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:50 PM
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(Well yours was only risky because its just not socially calibrated. risk is all the same for all openers. I'm just saying since it wasn't socially calibrated you added unnecessary risk ) Direct Opening: "Excuse me. I just saw you sitting here and thought you looked pretty cute. I like the dress, your hair...Thought I'd talk to you for a bit... What you up to just waiting to go home?" All direct is is verbalizing why you're there.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:06 PM
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I used to get this a lot.. now I don't. I didn't come to seddit or anywhere else and go "What would be a clever/funny response??" No, not me. Not my style of attack in this stuff. What I did was I considered my approach. I considered my body language, tone, and general vibe. I researched how to improve emotional state in he moment to fix the vibe. I also considered my looks. Looked in the mirror and decided to dress well more consistently, and to improve my skin care routine. and I considered ho…
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:53 PM
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I see my old self in a lot of those examples.
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:41 PM
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You need to get out of your own head. Trust your instincts and social reflexes more. Say what you wanna say. Based on how you feel. I know that's almost a scary concept because you're afraid you'll have nothing to say or do... but you will.
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:39 PM
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In a sense that's high risk indirect opener. If you go indirect, it There's just too many paths of thinking and feeling for her to reject that opener...that have nothing to do with how attractive you are. Her mood, specific sense of humor, etc would be in play there.
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:36 PM
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Oh ok.
/r/seduction02/06/15 07:31 PM
1

Be very alpha with other males? I never think about the me being alpha vs beta thing. It's just looked at wrong. But explain being alpha with other males in your eyes.
/r/seduction02/06/15 02:32 PM
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ASD avoidance guide: a little bit of it is usually unavoidable Be more genuine and less gamey throughout interactions Make approaches and interactions more special, and specific to her. Have instances where YOU, are the one holding back. If you find yourself making out in public and then touching her ass or something, ease up. As if saying no not here. Adopt a level of environmental class. LMR Guide: Never lie to get in her panties (not that you specifically do do this). Honesty and respect abov…
/r/seduction02/06/15 12:43 PM
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Conversations just dulling out: be funnier. Which means have more fun and try to amuse yourself. Be a bit child like sometimes. Don't be afraid to joke and make yourself laugh. Loosen up. Be more sexual. Compliment her. Genuinely tell her you like something.Whatever it is you like. Combine both sexual and funny sometimes. Misinterpret her words. Repeat sentences she says that are that's what she said candidates. Playfully accuse her of checking you out, your muscles, even your dick. Be cocky sex…
/r/seduction01/06/15 07:46 PM
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If your body language and demeanor are communicating the right things, and you aren't afraid to escalate (that's the big caveat here, panties aren't gonna drop just because you stand up tall you have to escalate) .. then you can sort of just talk about bullshit and pick a girl up. Your value as a man to a woman lies mostly in your character in personality qualities. Such as confidence and general self respect, not being a pushover and even being a bit dominant, having and expressing real emotion…
/r/seduction01/06/15 07:31 PM
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thank you
/r/seduction01/06/15 07:17 PM
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I think knowing sexual remarks, or any escalation for that matter will be receptive means knowing that women are sexual creatures and general, AND knowing they're attracted to you in particular. .... Knowing women are sexual creatures: you exist, and we all exist. So logically... You get what I mean. Read stuff like this . Skim stuff like this . Burn into your brain the reality that women love sex more than men, they fantasize about it, most typically the fantasies revolve around the man being d…
/r/seduction01/06/15 01:11 PM
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no one who calls themselves ugly works on their looks at all. Seriously. Work on your body seriously, go to a dermatologist. Ask a hair stylist what would look better. While doing that speak to a therapist.
/r/seduction01/06/15 12:56 AM
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Actually no. When confidence is figured out to be fake, it doesn't have its effect. It has a counter productive effect. Faking confidence is better than no confidence Ina sense but for the "they might know it's fake" part this analogy is wrong.
/r/seduction01/06/15 12:50 AM
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Explain. Because right now you're being a fucking loser.
/r/seduction01/06/15 12:45 AM
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" I'm going to watch Poltergeist with some friends xday, come join me."
/r/seduction31/05/15 06:22 PM
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Well the same thing can happen to girls. So let's look at the nuances of those interactions. And then put into action the equivalent. It happens if she had a nice body. Tits, feminine shape, ass, etc, probably wearing clothes that emphasize this a bit. .... So you work on your body, make it more strong and masculine. And wear clothes that fit in a way that makes you look masculine (strong muscles, general v shape.) It usually happens if she's in your personal space... So get into hers. Stand and…
/r/seduction31/05/15 06:19 PM
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You've got to tell your mind to shut the fuck up. And then just enjoy her more. Let her turn you on. Do whatever to make that stronger, stare at whatever you wanna stare at. If you're home, focussing on her best feature helps. Like if it's her ass, smack it hard grab it aggressively while making out, turn her around and grind into it, pull her pants down and smack it. Bend her over i front of you and tell her to take her fucking panties off. Put her on your bed doggystyle. Enjoy yourself so much…
/r/seduction31/05/15 06:11 PM
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This is a response to all being needy issues: It is not investment of action/time (except in extreme cases) that makes you needy. It is investment of your emotional state that makes you needy. If you're one to mentally shrug your shoulders and keep your emotions calm when you're rejected or your vibe isn't matched (you don't give a fuck), then you can say and do nearly anything and never ever look needy. If you're one who questions identity just because of rejection, it make your emotions run wi…
/r/seduction31/05/15 06:02 PM
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Have you ever gotten a boner while talking to or even texting a girl? Serious question, this is going somewhere.
/r/seduction31/05/15 05:53 PM
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Ignore society for a moment, completely. Think about what you like. Do you like this NSFW? And... do you like femininity, just being around it. General softness, real emotions, a sort of grace, a bit submissive. I mean these are very much stereotypical elements of what is feminine...but do you enjoy them? If you can say yes to both of these, and I assume you do... then you are "for women".
/r/seduction31/05/15 05:50 PM
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Can you get aroused at 5 or 6? lol. I mean realize your parents were right breaking it up, but illogical in the way they went about it. Put yourself in their shoes, and realize they were just coming from a position of love. That love was just coupled with a bit of paranoia and inaccurate views of young human sexuality. Throughout life, you need to forgive yourself when you don't know better, you didn't know better. And this is a case where now that you know better (more about sexuality than your…
/r/seduction31/05/15 05:42 PM
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If I was you I would meditate. Lay or sit anywhere comfortable, close your eyes, and breathe deep. An utterly blank mind is the goal. Just hear breathing and feel inside your body. Once your calm like that, imagine yourself in the room with that girl. Break yourself down. Contemplate what was behind your impulsive cutting it off. The goal really is to make the phrase " fear of intimacy more specific and very personal to you For example you might have an epiphany of ' I'm afraid of her judging me…
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:46 AM
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Yes, do it. Set the vibe early. I'm like 99% sure from the described situation she won't reject a quick kiss. If she does reject it, her vibe will simply be an imitation of yours. If you mentally shrug your shoulders and move on with a positive mood, she will. If you overthink and get anxious and think all is lost, then she will shut down too. Edit:actually what you can do is give a nice hug and read her during it. But I'm pretty sure you're going to read that you can kiss.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:31 AM
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No, you can kiss her.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:31 AM
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See, if you think it might help to.. your interaction before that point isn't good lol. It should be very fucking clear via the underlying vibe.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:29 AM
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I mean it's pretty simple conceptually but it's not easy. Don't make it seem easy. Becoming more attractive is a fucking grind. Also there's so much to the characteristics of an attractive man that can't be communicated or summed up by having a passion and following it. Yes drive and ambition are attractive qualities no doubt whatsoever but those aren't the mindsets and qualities that are going to drive the engine of seduction (get panties dropped). If what your selling works for you... you are …
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:26 AM
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It's probably not the actual asking that got you rejected, she probably just doesn't find you that attractive due to how you've acted up to that point. Also it's needy because of what your doing. It's disguising the intent too much with the little bullshit competition/activity angle. It's in a way not putting yourself on the line enough. Playing it too safe is creepy because it's actually obvious your attracted to her, so you seem sneaky not safe. But I would be more along the lines of: "We shou…
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:21 AM
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any night game, my favorite opening is being direct, or observational to the environment. A humorous comment n the music or the way guys or girls are dressed or how people are acting (provided she isn't dressing or acting that way). If I'm direct it doesn't need to be complicated, cut out other fluff and leave specific compliments: Can I tell you something... you look pretty cute, i like the dress, hair too so i thought I'd come talk to you.
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:15 AM
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thanks
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:10 AM
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skirting the issue If your worried about being a creep... knowing exactly what to do is not the cure for that. Improving your views on yourself and women is the cure for that. You can know every escalation ladder routine, etc in the world. But if you have conflicting feelings about expressing sexual desire physically ( " She'll think I'm a creep " ) ... then you won't be able to do shit.
/r/seduction30/05/15 02:10 PM
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In my experience especially with younger girls. The words date and go out can't be connected with casual in their high school dating heads.
/r/seduction30/05/15 02:02 PM
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The basic sentiment that needs to come across is: "no, call it what you want but, I'm a boy, your a girl, a hot one. So I'm gonna do what I feel based off that, but at the same time I'm never pushy so nothing you don't wanna happen is gonna happen." Not saying say exactly all that in one text. I mean you can use parts of it in your texts. I just mean as you chat those points should be implied strongly. It needs to be made very fucking clear.
/r/seduction30/05/15 01:59 PM
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The natural you described is just a man who's introverted, with the self esteem of and courage that "alpha" entails. In fact If you swap out every alpha with extrovert, and every beta with introvert, you have a better post (although I'd still disagree with how often point 1 happens) Here I switched the words out see: ... Not all girls like extroverts One thing Ive observed is that alot of chicks actually prefer introverted males. But, there is a catch. 1) THey go for a introverted male, because …
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:20 PM
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Yeah rejection is nice because you realize it's not a death sentence and that's freeing. after that kind of rejection...Smile and kiss her on the cheek instead, have her give you a kiss on the cheek. If she does that eagerly enough... then eye fuck her and cut off your next sentence by kissing her. "So I'll just text you I guess- (kiss her.)
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:14 PM
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Stay out of spectator mode, always be doing something. If you find yourself just doing nothing... immediately go talk to some guys or girls you know you can chat with. If you like the song, don't just stand at the edge and head nod, jump on the floor and get down. Don't have any fear of being judged. Your moves may or may not be cool, but not giving a fuck and doing you is cool. (you seem like you get this point already) Walk around relaxed, tall and strong. Sit relaxed and confident. Carry your…
/r/seduction29/05/15 03:09 PM
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You need to chill. Flakes are primarily a result of a lack of sexual tension. Like that's what keeps her hooked. Maybe there's not any or much of it in your interactions. It's actually not hard to get a girls number via just being sociable and playing it safe, everyone likes people who are interesting to talk to... doesn't mean they want to fuck them. And they definetly will put more energy toward seeing people they want to fuck than people who are just "interesting" ... Work on looking sexier, …
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:53 PM
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I think an easy applicable thing to get you on the right track: would be to start the date off by smiling and and saying "hi and how you been?" confidently, giving her a kiss on the cheek, and tell her she looks good (example: "I like the dress") . Then moving on to whatever business you had planned.
/r/seduction29/05/15 02:34 PM
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There's a lack of consistency I imagine. Like your dates probably have no intimacy or underlying sexual vibe to begin with, or throughout. So to kiss her is kind of a random thing in a way.
/r/seduction29/05/15 01:13 PM
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Work on your looks. No matter where they're at now. Hit the gym, get your fashion some new life, new haircut maybe, etc. Go to the nearest city. Without a phone (or just with it off). Explore. Look at new stores, try new food, go to a museum, see a movie. Chill in a Park and just people/nature watch. While out in days like that, talk to people. Just small talk about the shit at hand. Ask what shirt looks good on you. Mention how weird the movie was to someone walking out with you. Just get used …
/r/seduction29/05/15 01:11 PM
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Anything not insane tbh. But to be more specific things that are flirty, or me just amusing myself. You figure that out for yourself. I can't tell you what amuses you.
/r/seduction29/05/15 01:01 PM
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You won't scare her away simply by being flirty. That just won't happen.
/r/seduction28/05/15 10:46 PM
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What did you text about for two days?
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:24 PM
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imo 1. They like to be lead (swept up) 2. It doesn't look normal most of the time 3. All the same reasons you have AA.
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:20 PM
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I think your approach might be doing a lot wrong. Like, I'll bet your body language isn't phenomenal. I'll bet because of your default emotional state your face probably inadvertently goes to a grimace or rape face. That's all about confidence. You're probably worrying a lot about what will happen/how you seem in the moment. Also an approach of a simple how are you isn't usually optimal.. unless you communicate intent via your demeanor and body language and tone (you probably don't)... This appr…
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:17 PM
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With more exposure to women you'll be just as appreciative, but much less overawed by beauty. Keep approaching.
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:08 PM
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Chill
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:05 PM
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There's probably not enough intent beforehand. That break in consistency can be creepy. Another thing is your demeanor, your facial expression, body language, etc, is probably weak when you do it. And that weakness is pretty much always due to a lack of confidence.
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:04 PM
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You don't know how women work. Also it's 2015 women have jobs (in most states I think). Unless she's a gold digging piece of human garbage... Trying to get a girl via riches makes you look like a pussy to her, and is on many levels insulting to her. Any decent woman that seems to like a rich man, it's not because of the money itself, it's because of the drive and ambition and self respect it takes to get it. But that drive alone isn't going to get her to drop her panties so, yeah.. stfu
/r/seduction28/05/15 03:32 PM
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You need to get a bit angry. Not angry towards anyone, not yourself, not women (never hell no.). But just a general aggression and passion. Like really think about how you feel... don't you take a bit of offense to the way your life is? Even as a sad person don't you have a natural demand of self respect deep down there? You've given yourself a shit life, and the world has looked at that shit life and given you the statement "this is what's for you.". The first thing you need to do is respond: "…
/r/seduction28/05/15 03:21 PM
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I'd consider two things. How internally validated you are (How seriously you can say "I love myself"?, and how easily you can go "who gives a fuck?".). You might just become worried about others opinions of you when you see other people. And, your base emotional state. You can work on that by perusing a passion (draw if you wish you could draw, start marathon training, etc.), consuming media you want to consume (find a book or Netflix show you love). Basically do more things you love, and work h…
/r/seduction28/05/15 03:04 PM
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the leader or alpha has the best chance at getting a girl. Not necessarily. Not being the leade actually doesn't inherently mean your a follower or beta. The hierarchy is very much a thing us men make up in our heads. Girls are in reality less interested in the fact that the alpha is leading the group, they're more interested in the fact that he has a clear high self respect. It's the personality characteristics, particularly high self esteem, he's portraying, not the fact that he's the "leader"…
/r/seduction28/05/15 02:53 PM
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If you can attract a woman in one environment, you can attract a woman in basically any environment. Women are attracted to the men their attracted to at all times. It's a fundamental mechanism of biology, it doesn't switch on when the light get's dim enough and the music goes over a certain volume lol. That being said specific places to go: anywhere with shops, a mall, that one street each city has where everyone window shops. Nice parks. Book stores coffee shops But basically like I said, anyw…
/r/seduction28/05/15 02:42 PM
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