Tips on building confidence after bad rejections?

hunterpua · 2018-06-26T12:22:28+00:00

Maybe work my way in with compliment openers or something so that i'm giving value?

This is very insightful of you.

The idea that you can 'just be' and get girls is ludicrous. Why the hell would any man in the world be entitled to anything for free? Even women don't have that luxury. You think a girl doesn't offer value to get value? What about her being hot? She needs to stay hot to continue to get value because if she gets ugly, you can be sure that the number of guys that buy her stuff or do stuff for her will go down.

This is why you might mistakenly think that you have to look good in order to get good results with girls because you aren't counting looks as something valuable that you're exchanging.

Yes, looks do matter but its not your only option. There are an infinite amount of ways that you can add value to someone so you aren't limited to genetics, you're simply limited by your imagination.

Look at Donald Trump. He's an ugly motherfucker but his wife is really hot.

Don't limit yourself to money either. Anything that a girl might want can be leveraged into something she'll fuck you for. Shit, even guys that get used by girls to do their homework in high school are actually in really good positions of power. They're just usually too cowardly to take advantage of that power.

But what about the idea that girls should just like you for who you are? Yeah, as long as who you are makes their lives better in some sort of way. Even if you're just the funniest guy she knows or the one she connects with the most or the one she trusts the most, etc that is still something she wants, that's not nothing. But if you just be nothing then you'll only be as valuable as a rock is to her.

But here's the thing, that wasn't even a harsh rejection. I've had a lot worse. That was just a girl being a bitch. They do that, you know? Women are as capable of being assholes as men are.

If you've spent some time being an asshole yourself, you'd know that you often say false things just to hurt people.

That said, you should approach even more now that you got that rejection. Its the only way to prove or disprove whether she had a point or not. Whatever mental gymnastics or affirmations you do will never stick if you don't have that stuff backed by evidence.

One person is not a good enough sample size to make a conclusion about your looks. And there will always be anomalies in the statistics that just disagree with most people. If you google any celebrity that's known to be good looking and add the word "ugly" to that search query you will always find people that think that person is ugly.

So go out there and meet more women and if the number of women that react positively to you outweigh the negative responses then you can be sure that girl that was mean to you is part of the weird group or you know, she just has personality issues.

Title	Tips on building confidence after bad rejections?
Author	secrecypuzzle
Upvotes	2
Comments	1
Date	June 26, 2018 8:32 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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