I never make posts, I usually just respond to them. But, seeing there is a lack of topics, I thought I would make one. If anything, just to be sure it still works.

Before I dive in, some of this may sound like pickup lingo. But, its just communication skills on a seduction level. Take from it what you will.

The idea of this topic is about turning cold approaches into warm ones by eliciting indicators of interest (IOIs). Its not a new idea, but a guy named Steve Jabba seemed to be the one who really got this down and brought it to the community years ago. He was verified by others as being really good, so it has merit. Not to mention its a really interesting thing anyone can try out as its very low risk. I’ve picked up his book and his video product, going through it now. But, this is a quick breakdown on how this works.

Now, when I first heard about this I thought it was a weak way of approaching, thinking it was about waiting for non verbal signals from the girl. You can be waiting all day and never get any. But, it’s really not about that. You can still cold approach without getting any IOIs. Its just a form of communication, non verbal, that is available to anyone who wants to use it.

A lot of guys can probably relate to a scenario like this. You are walking in a store or the mall, you see a hot girl, and in your mind you want to get a better look. How hot it she? How old is she? Is she as attractive as your first impression? So, you get a glance at her, usually when she is looking away. What most of us do is when she looks in our direction, or can see we are looking at her, we look away. We look down. We simply act like we aren’t checking her out, we are just walking around normally. I think this happens because we are mostly nice guys who don’t want to stare.

But, there is a little more going on. Another way to describe this is you are diffusing sexual tension. Or trying to avoid it all together. It's rude to stare at the girl, let her know you were checking her out, or show your true intent that you think she’s attractive. So, a lot of guys diffuse that sexual tension by looking away, or acting normal as if they didn’t notice her. You can blame this on social conditioning.

We want to do the opposite of this. The difference between guys who approach and everyone else, is we want to seek out sexual tension. Different levels depending on venue and the girl, but its sexual tension nonetheless.If you want to approach, you could simply walk up and open, maybe with something direct. There are tons of YouTube videos that show this. But, there is another form of communication available to you, and that is you can show your intent that you find her attractive by holding eye contact, smiling, nodding your head, etc… You could point to your shoes and then back at her letting her know you like her shoes, or a various other things. The idea is you can initiate contact and intent with the girl, non verbally in a very low risk way.

If you try to do this, you may find its harder than you think. But, its probably the most low risk way of opening. When you get a girl smiling back, or locking eyes for extended time, you can read this as an approach invitation. Thus, its not a cold approach anymore, its a warm approach. She's most likely going to be receptive and your conversational topics are more natural since the approach is warm.

You can do this anywhere. Bars, clubs, cafes, malls, libraries, etc… Any guy can go on a mission to walk around and try to elicit IOIs from girls. Just hold eye contact for an extra few seconds, see what the response is. Practice it. Do you get any positive responses? Can you improve on eliciting IOIs over time?There are a ton of ways you can use this, I’ll just point out a few examples.

First, lets say you illicit an IOI from a girl who is walking towards you. Ok, so you got an IOI, now you can open verbally by pointing out you two were locked in eye contact. Or whatever signal she gave you. From there, you can improvise a conversation about what you see about her, something unique. She reminds you of an actress, or she has shoes that remind you of something, or anything else unique about her. You could also say something about the environment, but that’s not sexual escalation. Its better to show your intent that you find her attractive. But again, every girl and every venue will be different. Learn to calibrate to the situation.

The overall theme is you want to ping the girl with something, a smile, held eye contact, etc.., then she responds back with something. If the response is positive or neutral, move it forward with another escalation. So, after the IOI, you walk up and tell her something you notice about her and that you find it attractive. If she responds positively, then keep moving it forward. If she gives you a red light, back off. Pull back and chill out a little, talk about a non sexaul topic. Act normal and controlled. Then try to escalate again, etc… Hopefully you get the idea.

The interaction should be that you find her attractive and its normal for you to chat up a girl like this. And the interaction is a series of escalations that move towards whatever you want. A phone number and contact details, a kiss, an instant date, sex, etc....

Within a few mins you will know if she’s attracted or not, and can go for a number close, or whatever. If she doesn't respond with a positive IOI, no big deal. Its a numbers game and not every girl will be your type. It was a very low risk way of finding out.That's a basic breakdown of this. It seems really powerful if used correctly. There is an old pickup video of Gambler talking about how he met Steve Jabba and learned this from him and that most of his game was non verbal. He also talks about escalation. If you want to see this talk, here is the link:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-unuqF4uklE&t=3013s

If anyone can post, thoughts?