Turning Down Hookups

SouthernSwan · 2018-07-02T01:27:02+00:00

good choice mate. i wouldn't have spend more than 5 mins thinking about it.

TheToffeeWhore · 2018-07-02T01:36:37+00:00

I definitely don’t see anything wrong with being particular about your hookups.

WIA20XX · 2018-07-02T02:17:46+00:00

You need a chick that strokes your ego, not just your dick.

Once you get that, you should really ask yourself if you're doing what it takes to meet that level of chick.

Only you know that answer.

troutmask96 · 2018-07-02T01:37:03+00:00

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Umbrogod · 2018-07-02T06:00:34+00:00

Definitely a good choice mate. I read a good metaphor or allusion that is somewhere along the lines of : easy ugly chicks are like fast food in the sense that they’re convenient and satisfying. Yet bad for you.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-07-02T05:24:31+00:00

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After about a half an hour of thinking about it, I decide to tell her that I'm not interested. She fires back a "fuck off then" and deletes the conversation.

There's nothing wrong with having personal tastes and not wanting to give it out just because someone wants it.

The fact that she reacted the way that she did, only adds to the rightness of your decision.

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My buddy who's been coaching my transformation says I fucked up.

You're at the point where you can connect in at least some ways, enough to get what you want from dating. So you are the final arbiter of whether you fucked up. This should make you happy and if it doesn't make you happy to fuck someone, then you don't need to. Period.

You decide that. We don't.

Think about it. This was a situation where she wanted it and you didn't. I don't get why some people are trying to tell you that you needed to give her sex. You didn't owe her a thing.You don't have to justify yourself to anyone for having personal tastes. This is a bit crazy. It's like, someone doesn't like anchovies and people are going to chastise him for turning down free anchovy pizza.

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// Pussy is pussy. I wouldn’t have turned it down. I would after grab a few drinks from her fridge and who knows maybe she gives the most face numbing head you’ve ever received?

This is patently ridiculous. This is like saying, "Food is food," if someone says they don't want strawberry ice cream even if it's free.

OP, you're not starving and it's not like this is the last girl you're going to have a chance with. Plus, she was signalling some red flags from the desperation and clear frustration she showed in her communications. The fact that this guy could read all that and still say, "Sure you need to put your cock in Unattractive Crazy, because MAYBE she's good at giving head...."

I mean, wow. It doesn't matter if she's good at giving head if you aren't excited about her. What good is self-improvement if you're supposed to have sex with a girl just because she wants it? What you want, matters.

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//Nah, this sounds like some young dude shit.

And this is some gaslighting shit here.

Having standards is not immature.

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// "Keep my dick hard for girls my standard" as if you run out of dick fuel or something silly

Also, your time resources ARE a zero-sum game, for sure. If you're with that woman, that's time you lose that you could have used on someone else.

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// The fact that you think pussy from a below average chick can reprogram you in anyway is the problem.

Getting in the business of overriding your own instincts (like the feeling that you're not attracted to someone) can most definitely create a whole host of issues.

And changing your "game" to basically hide the fact that you're not attracted to them, just to get sex, can easily become some desperate shit.

A lot of the guys who've been in this for years, reach a point where they get dependent on the validation they get from sex with new people, and when they reach that point, they're like crack fiends who will sell themselves out just to get a hit so they feel like they're worth something.

Having standards is a guard against this; it's not bad that you have them.

troutmask96 · 2018-07-02T03:20:57+00:00

Nah, this sounds like some young dude shit.

"Keep my dick hard for girls my standard" as if you run out of dick fuel or something silly

The fact that you think pussy from a below average chick can reprogram you in anyway is the problem.

If your not Interested, then don't fuck her. It's not a philosophical exercise or some act of penile bravery. It sounded like you got scared and wanted to make yourself feel better about it.

Messisfoot · 2018-07-02T02:56:46+00:00

I'm confused, what's the question here?

justadudedudethrow · 2018-07-02T04:01:21+00:00

This is lame. Don't talk the talk if you're not prepared to walk the walk.

mushi5838 · 2018-07-02T13:29:10+00:00

Kind of a bummer. What if she was actually really hot in bed??? Hypothetically, was that a way to play the long game, keep her around as someone to hang with, +1 social circle??

Title	Turning Down Hookups
Author	troutmask96
Upvotes	9
Comments	13
Date	July 2, 2018 1:02 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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