Was Napoleon Dynamite's Brother Right?

Austonmatthews345 · 2017-04-11T05:37:42+00:00

Focus on your own needs. You nailed it. You get it.

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-04-11T07:01:53+00:00

You are drunk. I understand.

going into piano for my Master's.

I guess this means you have some amazing skills.

"chicks dig skills,"

This is a partial truth. Chicks dig certain skills. Your skill of piano may qualify for some women.

so success with women will come secondary to that?

Let me fix this. Skills do not guarantee women. You have to be able to apply those skills to women. If you cannot apply the skill, it is pointless in seduction.

I don't want to use this as a crutch, but isn't it more important to be so good at something that you attract everyone (including men or women you're not interested in) than to be good at specifically attracting women?

We are talking seduction. Everyone will not sleep with you. When it comes to skills, I pick the ones that help me get what I want.

but it seems like you should tailor your abilities to yourself and not to a version of you that is statistically more likely to impress women.

You are allowed to have more than one ability. This means you can have some skills just for impressing women. I like to limit myself to one version and have multiple useful skills.

guess my original point is that you shouldn't focus on attracting women as the only important skill in your life

This is true. You need a good core of skills that keep you happy and accomplished.

o mentioning that skill will help you attract women with common interest.

this is not how life works. This is how you hope it will work. Women are only attracted to certain skills. Those skills have to be able to be applied to them.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-04-11T13:38:26+00:00

I guess my original point is that you shouldn't focus on attracting women as the only important skill in your life.....

Sure! Life should be more than seduction.

.....but you should focus on what you're good at/what advances you in life/what makes you unique, so mentioning that skill will help you attract women with common interest.

Almost...... but NO.

You should focus on something you enjoy advancing in. Something that makes you happy. But this is for YOU. Not for others.

But you mention being "so good at something that you attract everyone," which is almost there. What one needs to develop is not a random talent, but social skills. How to develop this? By socializing. Meet strangers by joining a social group of some sort. Hash runs, social partner dances, or look some meet-up groups online through an app.

zeddditor · 2017-04-11T14:50:22+00:00

Chicks dig skills is true. A better formulation would be chicks dig competence. If a man is both competent in some specific domains (your work and your hobbies) it's attractive because he can easily climb the social hierarchies in these domains. It's even more attractive to also be competent at life in general (socializing, knowing what you want, confidence,...) because this will make you able to climb social hierarchies in all kinds of domains.

I'm not claiming that competence at life will enable you to climb to the top of the social hierarchy of a chess club, if you play chess like a 5-year old. But it will help you to climb social hierarchies that are not focused on competence at some specific domain (groups of friends).

I think we can argue that (at least in our society) to be competent at life means to choose what one wants to do, not what one thinks others would like you to do. That said don't focus all of your energy on one skill, becoming competent at one speciric domain, but absolutely incompetent in other domains.

letsgetrandy · 2017-04-11T15:54:01+00:00

Chicks dig skills

Correct. But don't go thinking one skill is universal. Just keep acquiring more skills. That's a sure way to become attractive.

Title	Was Napoleon Dynamite's Brother Right?
Author	IamaspyAMNothing
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	April 11, 2017 4:52 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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