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Weird attraction issues

oron17 · 2018-05-26T23:09:38+00:00

I can barely find women that I am attracted to. Because I am only attracted to really hot girls. A lot of girls that I am not attracted to want me and I...

oron17

May 26, 2018

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Title	Weird attraction issues
Author	oron17
Upvotes	2
Comments	19
Date	May 26, 2018 11:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/8mdv5a/weird_attraction_issues/
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[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (19 children) | Copy Link

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[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link

Good. That means you've experienced the full spectrum of attraction.

Its true that attraction can be instantaneous and its also true that attraction can develop over time. Both are legit and both are biological.

You play the game with only two main things: Attraction and Investment. Every other thing we talk about is just under the umbrella of either of those two.

The cool thing is, when one is present, the other will manifest. So when a girl is attracted to you she'll want to invest in you and when a girl invests in you she will develop attraction for you, the same is true for men.

Obviously you know how investment manifests when you're attracted to someone. When you really want to fuck a girl or when you really want to get into a romantic relationship with a girl, you're very willing to do things for her, buy things for her, and you think about her a lot, that's investment.

The way investment to attraction works needs a little more explanation. The easiest way to explain this to yourself is by thinking about everything you value. You'll find that one way or another you have invested in all those things and you see them as a little more special than everything else. Its kinda like how everyone thinks their school is the best or their team is the best, etc.

The timing of your question is great because I made a comment on a different post today explaining how investment makes you attracted to someone. I get a little more detailed there. Just ignore the contextual stuff.

Now the reason I answered OP's question here the way I did is because I don't believe in manipulating yourself into being attracted to someone. They either have to game you, the investment occurs by happenstance, or they're already attractive to you from the beginning.

OP can manipulate himself into being attracted to the girls he already gets by purposefully investing in them but in my opinion he'd limit himself by doing that because he may have the ability to actually get the kind of girls that he currently thinks he doesn't deserve.

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[–]hunterpua2 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Woah! Ok so I admit I was a little distracted when I first read and responded to your comment.

I stand by the first half of my response but I think that the second half needs a little editing so this is sort of the revised version...

Btw, in a noisy club where no one can hear you, how do you add value? Easy. Dance with them. If you dance for fun instead of dancing to grope or make out with them then you'll add value because dancing is fun. Hopefully your pursuit of women hasn't made you forget that fact.

If you want to know how to dance in a way that seduces a girl, all you need to do is translate your game to dance. Lets see...comfort, push-pull, qualification, sexual escalation. Pretty much all you need from a communication standpoint to seduce a girl. Dancing comfort = using the same dance moves that she's doing, dancing push-pull = literally pushing her away and pulling her back to you + you can also turn away and dance with other girls on the dance floor then just before she gets discouraged go back to dancing with her, dancing qualification = do a different dance move and challenge her to copy it, you can also lead her to places while dancing, if she follows she's qualifying, dancing sexual escalation = sexy dance moves, if you don't know any, look them up.

Now my bad, you actually do seem pretty socialized. So people outside the club where everyone thinks they're a thug, well, most of them wont act too cool for school if you open them with a hot girl on your arm. You see, there is no rule against already bringing a girl to a club you plan to game in so don't feel like its cheating or that you're short changing yourself. Bring the girls you met on previous days/nights, bring your female friend, bring your sister, it doesn't matter. Again, don't feel guilty if its too easy. I have a hot cousin who I "escort" to the club every now and then, I've gotten laid a ton because of her and she has no idea that her being with me was the reason for all that.

But...if you don't have a girl to bring with you to the club, you can always get inside the club and just get a girl there to bring outside. Do the dancing stuff I told you about if its noisy with a bunch of girls so they'll love you, then tell one of the more receptive girls to go outside with you, just make up any random excuse, even just getting some air is fine. Then you open the groups outside with her on your arm.

If I open by telling them they are pretty they look at me like a beta, and just saying whats up is like who are you

This is extremely doable. Watch RSD infields on their youtube, they open like that all the time. This is more a question of how you open than what you say. So look up opening and try to not look at oversimplified shit. Try to find someone that breaks opening down a little. Can't really explain it via text because I have no idea what you're doing wrong and I'm not planning to exchange 20 comments back & forth with you to critique your "opening form". Just look it up, its easy to find resources on how to open.

How can I be hard to get when I approach?

I maintain my previous answer for this. She doesn't own your dick the second you open and you can always walk away then come back later in a club or beach so you can talk to other people. You will look like the really social popular guy in the club then they will start to fight for your attention. It would be even better if when you approached each individual you were able to add value because in their mind its like, "Oh I like this feeling...but wait! He's leaving?!" and as they watch you leave they see you talking to other people who are really enjoying your presence. When they see the attention everyone else gives you they'll be like "Fuck, I need to get him back" then they chase and you play hard to get.

[–]hunterpua1 point 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Beach - "Hey, look out! Crab!"

Club - "Hey everybody! My friend's getting married. Drinks on me!"

Yeah really dependent on the situation, right? Same with the purse example Adam gave. Which means you're not gonna succeed by asking a bunch of sedditors what to say. You need to learn to come up with your own stuff on the fly.

I was even having second thoughts about giving those two examples.

Also, I'm not sure how socialized you are because its true that so many people want to be seen as if they're the shit but not everyone is an asshole/bitch. Most people are cool and will be very happy to receive a compliment. Go to r/datingadvice to see how insecure and hoping to be validated women are. Don't ask them, just read their posts. Then when you're done checking that out, go out into the real world and judge people not based on preconceived notions but on how they actually behave.

Btw, two answers to how you can be hard to get if you approach: 1. She doesn't own your dick when you approach her. 2. In the beach and club, its really easy because you can always leave, talk to someone else, and play everyone you talk to off of each other, having them compete for you.

It would be a lot harder when you're approaching women on the street because if you walk away before getting her number in that setting, its likely the last you'll ever see of her which is why I just go direct when approaching women on the street.

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