What are some practical steps I can take to stop feeling "not good enough"?

GrandMasterStevey · 2017-11-06T08:19:36+00:00

Figure out what you want
Challenge your negative beliefs
Get to know yourself and accept who you really are
Have the courage to be yourself whether people like you or not
Take care of yourself
Set goals

Spaceman7Spiff · 2017-11-06T15:02:46+00:00

Think about the people you admire. And when I say that, I don't mean people that society admires or guys that get a lot of girls, I mean people that you think are cool for reasons that you think matter.

Now think about things that you like about yourself. What are you proud of? What makes you a good person? What things are you ashamed of? If you were someone else, would you want to hang out with a guy like you? Why or why not?

Do things that emphasize your positive traits while simultaneously emulating your positive role models. Also work on curbing your bad habits. Give yourself credit when you do something well; even little things like saying hi to a random stranger on the street for no reason. And don't beat yourself up when you fuck up, just firmly tell yourself "this is not acceptable, don't do that again." And then let it go and move on.

bjlmag · 2017-11-06T21:09:56+00:00

Is the rest of your life in order? If you're basing your idea of success on the validation of women, which is entirely beyond your control, you'll almost always feel unworthy. If, however, you find your success in all the other areas of your life that you control, you'll have a much better way to gauge what you're actually worth.

If you're struggling with mental health, get help. If you're bored, take up new hobbies. If you don't have solid friends, find some. If you aren't satisfied with work, find something better. Etc.

infideleo · 2017-11-08T06:09:57+00:00

you sound like you're young.

i dont mean that as a put down. but just an observation. here's why i think that: by your own admission you haven't completely 'matured' (full potential) yet.

its good (actually great) that you recognize this. so if you are not yet who you want to be or know you can be, you're going to be pulling the wrong kind of girl for you anyway - which is just going to lead to a 'bad result' (your words) in the long run anyway. As long as you are not the 'you' you want to be - you're also going to have that nagging downward spiral feeling (which by the way there are many many women who are drawn to that sort of thing but i have a feeling that you are not interested in that type anyway).

look. i hate to say this. but guys have a lot longer shelf-life which means you have time to become who you want and need to become. you don't need a bird to validate you in the meantime. just go and have fun. until you are the guy you have yet to become - it's all prelude to the preface to the first chapter in your autobiography anyway....

the real question is - what are you doing to become that guy? are you sitting on your ass playing world of warcraft or some shit? how many push-ups did you do today? how many chin-ups? how many things did you do on that 'to-do' list? when you get bummed, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JdwyAcJ8j2U

Title	What are some practical steps I can take to stop feeling "not good enough"?
Author	DNA4Success
Upvotes	14
Comments	7
Date	November 6, 2017 7:29 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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