What Are Some Things/Tips That Helped Your Game Improve Drastically When It Comes To Seduction?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-05-25T08:53:07+00:00

There was never one thing / one tip that drastically improved my game when it comes to seduction.

And frankly, I doubt there exists any such tip. That's magic-pill thinking. No-one becomes great at something based on following just "one tip".

It took thousands of small tips to get good at it. It's a process that takes time. There is no magic pill / silver bullet to this game. Most need to learn and practice a lot to get good results.

The only exception is if you're already extremely attractive except for one fatal flaw. In that case, fixing that one fatal flaw may be all you need. But when guys are struggling with women it's almost never like that. Most men struggle due to a multitude of reasons, maybe 100s of small things. Having just one fixable flaw is exceedingly rare.

HomelessMilkman · 2026-05-25T14:20:39+00:00

Influence + Selective focus = Results.

As you know, someone who's 'attractive' gets tons and tons of leeway - but why does it seem like most guys have to walk on this very fine edge, and they're at risk of falling off at any time?

If they respect you, if they feel good about you, if they have 'rose-tinted glasses on', you come to learn that 90% of things don't matter and are overlooked, while that 10% is in service of carrying yourself that way.

As an overview, that's confidence, certainty, enthusiasm - as if you were walking through a security checkpoint and everything is on the line to carry yourself as if you're meant to be there. There's only 1% of guys who are actively told 'you're not good enough', 'you're not the equivalent as an attractive woman', 'you don't have the clearance to get through' and have the gumption to go to the security office and say "Yeah, I'm just a contractor, I was told you would just let me in" with complete conviction, unwavering certainty, that no one questions what's going on.

Everything else, is aiding you to believe you have that 'clearance' (validation, reassurance, meeting socially conditioned standards, etc.) so that you can act with that authority. There is no authority, there is no 'right' thing to say/do, it's being confident enough to view YOURSELF as the authority and act like it. Lead, influence.

There's a 'wall', there's a barrier, there's a metaphorical 'security check'. You have to suspend disbelief for a second, say "Wait a minute, if I just behaved like an attractive, confident, charismatic guy I'll be treated like one?". Those who 'try' fail to meet the bar, everyone can see through your shit, your heart-rate goes up, you know you're bullshitting. You have to perhaps be a little deluded enough to fool the guard. At that point, is it 'fake' if people believe it?

The ability to act with authority and conviction for no justifiable reason whatsoever is frankly 'cheating' at life. Everyone else needs a reason, everyone assumes there's reasoning and justification for you to be able to act that way, imagine telling the average guy to 'assume she likes you' (and trusting him not to scan for reassurance the whole time), what if you just acted with irreverent confidence because it works?

South-Excitement1720 · 2026-05-26T22:14:57+00:00

Just lots of little things, none had a drastic impact in itself, but combined they all made a difference.

Smiling when walking into venues or meeting people.

Not hen pecking.

If I am unsure what to say, just taking an obtuse leap of faith, being willing to blow it, so I can learn from it, rather than sticking in my comfort zone.

Learning to colour match my clothes and wearing clothes that fit properly.

Looking at my body language.

Befriending bar staff.

Learning to give myself 100/10 for every little action I do. Even if I just say "Hello" to someone, I am gonna reward myself instead of beating myself up.

Focussing on what I did well, instead of dwelling on what I thought I did wrong.

I could go on and on and on. None of these make a drasdtic impact, but over time, I became a totally different person.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-05-25T08:33:40+00:00

I've never had an issue from the start but definitely going to the gym and getting a V taper made a difference.

I'm much heavier with a dad bod but it makes no difference because I look like a man.

A lot of guys here have to do a lot of work that I didn't. I realised there are girls who like you and girls who don't the nature of the game is to find the girls who do.

I also realised there are many types of girls that have individual preferences that make no sense. I also realised when you can identify the girls who like you then you have a better idea who to go to and your success increases exponentially.

I also realised many guys do not recognise when a woman likes a guy. Learning about body language and communication is a prerequisite to understand that.

Pristineonk · 2026-05-25T12:13:54+00:00

Gym.

Nobody 'seduces' a girl if she's not attracted to him on a primal level. Look at the huge percentage of the time these 'coaches' get rejected in their own infields etc. The game part is easy, tbh. And all the info is out there to read today and test for free. It's not some secret and it's not hard.

jackthehat6 · 2026-05-25T07:15:36+00:00

improved skin, phyhsique and fashion

Title	What Are Some Things/Tips That Helped Your Game Improve Drastically When It Comes To Seduction?
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Date	May 25, 2026 3:23 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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