Ok, I have a good problem. A really good problem, but a problem none the less. Long story short, Friends introduce me to girl. Double date at a bar. Take her home and fuck her. Shes on her period, but hey I closed. Not ideal. But fun none the less. I decide I like her, and well see how this pans out.

I'm not the one night stand type. I usually find people I like and once we start having sex, my claws start to sink in and it is my relationship to control.

Anyways, friend (girl) really thinks we are a match and is rooting for me (its her friend) saying she always picks the wrong guys and had a feeling instantly that we would be good together.

Anyways, we meet for the second time (planned again by said friend) but she sees guy she apparently is in love with, but not able to tie down(not fucking at this point) and leaves the bar. Just up and goes, no bye no nothing, just leaves.

2 days go bye, friend sets up another meet up. She declines due to "stomach problems". Might very well be true, but I have no way of knowing, and at this point I think she blew me off twice and write her off. I'm polite, and say its all good, but I start to forget about her. This shit happens sometimes.

2 weeks or so go by. Friend invites us all to dinner. Chick is there (I didn't know she was coming) we all go to karaoke, and back to my place where I proceed to fuck the ever loving bejeesus out of her. Twice. And the 3 more times in the morning. It is litterally the best sex I've ever had. We do all the shit in between that awesome couples do. The joking, the laughing, the staring into each others eyes after mutual orgasms. Seriously awesome.

So after we've been all lovey dovey for several hours the following day, she starts talking about how she is going to a birthday(to which i'm invited, and not even through her, for the guy shes in love with's friend.

Problem starts here.

I go to the party, understanding fully that I am not as in control of this relationship as I previously thought. Find out she fucked him before I go there. She is happy, hugs me gives me "the knowing look" but is now acting different, ie. not all over me.

I at this point want to say that I know shes not my gf, and i'm not holding her to some standard. I don't want to fuck virgins, and this comes with that territory sometimes.

Anyways, party starts and finishes. she is with this dude. He wants an open relationship, but he is obviously her choice over me. I hit on other girls, get a number, leave alone with her seeing me out the door when I leave. No love. Ouch. Fucking Ouch.

This isn't how I wanted things to go, but look. I started with r/seduction because I wanted to get laid more and ultimately find a girl that was right for me. That has happened to some extent, but I am still not the sexy beast I need to be. Its a process that takes time. I know this and focus on the number I got, and think positive.

2 days later I am texting with her and she tells me she had an awesome time when we hung out. I make sex jokes and she giggles. Alludes that we will fuck again soon.

My question to seddit is how do I make myself more important to her. She is everything I like in a girl. Fun(in the way that compatible people are fun for anyone), attractive, FANTASTIC in bed, and likes if not loves fucking me, yet I hold no cards.

I have no hand and I need some, or this wont last. What would you have me do?