Currently in college [19M]. Have never had a first kiss or any type of hookup with a girl. I go through phases where I’m confident and I’m just talking to girls and trying things. Then, I catch an L and then I go through a phase where I’m not confident at all and can’t stand to try to be anything beyond friends with a girl.

Also, when opportunities arise in front of me, I shy away. I had a girl who was clearly into me and kept hitting me up throughout last semester to hang out and stuff (without me ever initiating). I was attracted to her but thought she was out of my league so I ignored her.

Then at a party last semester, a girl came up to me and asked me what my name was and what I’d be doing later that night. I gave some lame answer, even though I thought she was cute, and walked away. I caught her checking me out afterwards but I didn’t do anything