Preface:
Some of you may already know me through my field reports. For those who don't, I started going out 4-5 nights a week to Las Vegas clubs about 5 months ago. However, I didn't just wake up one morning and decided "today is the day". I've been wanting to do cold approach since I was 21, but struggled to actually take action for many years due to a combination of complacency, excuses, fear, approach anxiety, embarrassment, rejection, and much more I'm sure. It took 7 years and multiple catalytic events for me to finally take concrete actions to improve my dating life.

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How it all began:
I was always "decent" with women. I had multiple girlfriends since I was 15yo along with some FWBs. I've actually never had a ONS with a girl until I started cold approach and I've never been able to meet a girl via OLD (online dating). Most of my successes were from college social circle game or classes. During grad school, I had a serious GF the whole time. After grad school, my GF and I broke up and my dating life was in shambles. I didn't get it. I was educated, had a career, had a high income, and was fit. I did everything society told me to do. I really thought my dating life would have been a lot better at that stage of my life vs when I was a broke college student. Well, it wasn't. It was far worse.

After grad school, I started my career and immediately started to actively look for avenues to improve my dating life. I've known about cold approach pickup since my college days, but was still too afraid to do it. So I tried OLD again with 0 success as always. I read the book Models in early 2019 and thought it was the best dating book out there, however, my dating life still didn't change. Soon, I stopped trying to improve my dating life, partly because I started dating a girl who I saw no future with. We started out as FWB and she keep pushing me for a relationship so I gave in. Essentially, I was settling. We broke up a year later and I was right back where I started: a non existent dating life.

I was fed up. This time, I really wanted to take action and make a change. I thought to myself, maybe if I just read Models again it will help me make some kind of break through. So I did. I read Models again. And guess what? Nothing changed. Next thing you know COVID happened so I just said fuck it, and buried myself in work. I was making a lot of money, but I also worked 80 hours a week. By July of 2021, I realized how unhappy I was. Like what is the point of all of this? Why did I go to grad school? Why am I working 80 hours a week and making crazy money? Why am I doing all this? The answer was simple: It was to get girls. I've always be a lustful person. I've always wanted more and high quality of girls. I realized that I needed to figure out how to achieve what I truly want in life.

I moved back to Vegas in July of 2021. I tried following the advice of various dating forums such as "join a hobby and meet girls through that". So I did that. I joined a hiphop dance studio and went to several meetup groups. I actually like dancing so I enjoyed the dance classes. There were a decent amount of pretty girls, but it's so hard to hit on them. You are never isolated with them. You're always hitting on them publicly in front of all their peers. The girls are inconsistent as in sometimes you won't see girl X for 2 weeks. Anyways, I probably spent like 20 hours at that studio with 0 success. I tried meetup group too which was so stupid. It's a sausage fest at every meetup and when there are girls, it's not the girl you're looking for. Not me at least.

Then the day that changed everything occurred. A long term female friend from Vegas set me up with a blind date (my god I was desperate LMAO). Let's just say... this girl was not my type at all. I don't want to be rude, but I was lowkey offended by my female friend who set this up. After that "date", I was COMPLETELY fed up. I was at my WITS END. I said fuck no. I will NOT settle for my current dating prospects. So that night, I went out solo and did cold approach for the first time at the casinos. Here's my first FR about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/comments/p6efms/field_report_57_asian_in_las_vegas_night_game/

My first cold approach session was exhilarating. Dopamine and adrenaline was coursing through my veins like never before. I realized that day that I was incredibly passionate about cold approach. That was 5 months ago. Since then I've been going out 4-5 nights a week to night clubs. The rest of my journey is well documented within my collection field reports in my profile for those interested.