What should i do?(Texting)

n8dawwg · 2015-02-28T15:59:14+00:00

You're coming off as needy and clingy to her. If a girl doesn't text you, don't text her. Plain and simple. Just wait for the date before she cancels on you.

Blubsdad · 2015-02-28T16:03:27+00:00

Why try to talk to her everyday? You already set up a date, no need to talk/text her before then

doctordaedalus · 2015-02-28T19:13:49+00:00

Here's what you do. First, read this, then, read this ... also, read this

Now, you've absorbed some information, and you understand the general idea of what's going on here and why you need to relax. All that being said (or read in this case), you've got the date. That should give you confidence. At this point, just react to her, and dont make assumptions. If you're going to assume anything, assume that she will let you know exactly how she feels. And if she doesn't, assume the best.

It goes back to the five A's ... "Always Assume Attraction, Act Accordingly".

But yeah, don't create a disparity of attention between you, because it'll only get worse. Be sure that you're communicating equally. If a few months go by, and you still find yourself frustrated with her lack of communication, then bring it up, because communication is a legitimate need in a developing relationship. But right now, all you've got is a date. Slow down, and relax.

kingpinkyle · 2015-02-28T18:06:00+00:00

Im kind of in this situation as well and i know its bad to text her if she has a tendency not to reply. What about when she texts, should i just answer? or not? I dont really like to play games but i dont want to come off as being at her beacon call..

jasonr686 · 2015-02-28T19:23:43+00:00

First. CALL her. Ask her out. Problem solved.

Second, you're too invested in what she thinks of you over your investment in yourself.

NoSyte · 2015-02-28T17:43:58+00:00

Try calling instead. It's more personal that way. A half hour phone call builds relationships faster than all day texting. If she seems cold on the phone, say goodbye and hang up.

kyb1993 · 2015-02-28T15:58:20+00:00

Yeah, sounds about right man. If you have a date planned don't text her beforehand in hope of starting conversation. You want this girl to think you're mysterious, cool and sexy. By texting her every day just seeing what she's up to you're eliminating all of those traits. Instead she'll see you as needy and non self-reliant. From the sounds of your post it seems like you consider texting your no.1 form of seduction. Wrong mate. It should be in person. The next text you send her should be a few hours before your date confirming she's still good for it. Make her wonder about you. If you play it cool I have 100% faith you will get laid after your date or not too soon afterwards. Yes, I am on MDMA while writing this comment. But I totally think my advice is round about correct. I wish you and your penis luck in the quest of vagina.

Blubsdad · 2015-02-28T16:11:16+00:00

She told you she's not interested. Let her go, you're wasting your time

Title	What should i do?(Texting)
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Upvotes	10
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Date	February 28, 2015 3:40 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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