I've already posted numerous threads on this sub about my problems and my story so I'll try to make the background information brief. I'm 26, been on a dry spell for the past 2.5 years, only had one actual girlfriend and a few hookups from tinder, no sex since October 2019 when my last relationship ended. My personality is that of an introverted semi-loner, I have only a few friends and don't really get out much. As for my hobbies I play bass in a band and I'm also into weightlifting. Appearance wise I look sort of like a cross between Kurt Vile and Blake from Workaholics.

I'd say my goal in improving my situation is ending the dry spell, to meet/date better girls than I'm used to getting and also to learn how to meet women irl. In the past I've only used apps; I feel like with such methods I never achieved the results that I'm capable of and I want to see if real life is more rewarding. To clarify I'm NOT looking to date instagram models or women that one would describe as being super hot. I'm more attracted to women that are only kinda cute in the face but still have a nice body, for some reason I like those ones better than 9s and 10s. When I try to envision the sort of woman I'd really want I think of a decently attractive girl with vaguely similar values/interests to my own and is chill and easy to get along with. However, I still don't really know where I'd go or what I'd do to meet women fitting that description.

In the previous threads I've made, I've received a multitude of advice and I'm still trying to make sense of it. Some have told me to learn cold approach, others have said I just need to start getting out of the house more and not worry about meeting girls for now, or that I should try and join hobby groups and go from there. Quite frankly I don't know what I should do first or concentrate on. I've never really done any kind of cold approach before and I'm not really comfortable approaching right now, nor do I know how I would get to a point where I would be able to. I also have no idea where I'd go to approach. With hobby groups there probably won't be any suitable women in them so I have my doubts about those as well. I've also read that to meet the sort of women you want you should go to where those women would hang out. It sounds like decent advice but I really don't know where I'd even look for women like that, I have no idea where those sorts of women would frequent. Since I don't really go out much I don't know what places in town I would go. Even if I found out where and I came across the sort of women I want I still wouldn't know how to actually engage those girls since I don't have the skills or the confidence to do so irl.

In short, what should I really be focusing on? What would you suggest for a hard case introvert semi-loner? I almost feel like I need coaching but I kinda think it's weird to have to pay someone to teach me these things. After all, you shouldn't really need to spend money to learn this kinda stuff. Either way I'm really lost about what I should do. What methods can I use to get out of this predicament?