What to do in this situation?

TheXXL · 2017-09-19T15:33:11+00:00

One of them saw me and pointed at my clothes saying "Oooh, Michigan State!" I wore my college clothes on that night on purpose in hopes of someone picks up on it.

Uhm.. does that work normally?

And someone INDEED picked up on it.

Sounds like you are surpised yourself.

I told her "How do you know Michigan State"? maybe she didn't hear me, no response (Because maybe music was so loud) so I switched my question quickly to "So, where are you from?" She said she's from Spain.

So far good...

All of sudden I got speechless, I could've said "Como Estas?"

What made you speechless?

or some things like that but I paused because I didn't have anything to say at that time and also I thought we were right in the middle of dancefloor so she wouldn't like having a long conversation.

So you came to the right conclusion, that girl didn't step onto the dance floor to look for a chatting partner, but someone to dance with, or just to dance by herself, who knows.

Hell, even I felt like I shouldn't talk so much.

Yes, you are right. it's the dance floor not the talking floor.

So I paused for like 3 seconds and her 2 friends drags her to the corner of the dancefloor

ha! there is that common bitchy behavior that so many people show... Not only women, but damn, if i would get a cent for every "friend" who cock blocked me already, i would have a lot of money. It's funny how they do it without even noticing, just because their little egos are feeling hurt when you are having more fun than them.

and I figured I would look needy if I'd chase her.

Here's the thing... of course you might look needy, but also why would you care? She was lost the moment her jealous girlfriends "saved" her from you. You could have just been the "i don't give a fuck" guy and walk over, introduce yourself to her friends and make fun of that situation, like "Whow girls! thank you for saving me from her, i saw the lust in her eyes, she was so close to ripping off my clothes!!" and go from there. Either they are not interested, or they laugh their asses off, shit test you hard until you break or make it, and maybe even you can taker her home.

At that time, I thought instead of chasing her, I needed to show that I'm not a weirdo, so I gotta prove my social proof so I went back to German guy I was talking to earlier.

Mhmm good theory, but useless. Next time maybe just have fun? Talk to people left and right, and dude... stop taking this "elite pick up" bullshit so serious. It doesn't work that way. Of course if you are not the weird kid you will get much more trust, but this doesn't mean you have to follow the "super great and only working mega elite technique with a important sounding name buy mee!!!!" technique.

Let me tell you which technique works best: The "have fun and not give a fuck while trying not to be a really creepy dude" technique. I am sure you know what i mean.

And it turned out this guy didn't even know the right timing to apporach a girl.

I am curious... what is the right timing? and.. did you read that in your "super secret elite technique" you bought for "only 2499$"? Trust me... things are not as easy and predictable as they try to sell you.

He tried to talk to one of those 3 girls, and the girls just ran away.

First off... this guy had more balls than you. He didn't care about "social proof", "timing", "neediness" or whatever buzzword you might come up with. From the sound of it, he didn't even give a shit but wanted to get what he wanted. Sure, he failed, but you failed as well... and the only difference is, you didn't even try. Fail.

At this point, I thought it would be even more silly to come follow that Spanish girl so even though I didn't screw it up myself, I gave up on her.

Of course it is good to just take a loss and go, but what did you learn from that? That you lose when you don't try? Maybe just that confirmation bias that your "social proof" wasn't enough? From what i see those girls wanted to have fun, not a conversation. They didn't care about timing, they surely didn't care enough about "social proof" to even notice... What they were thinking about was to enjoy this evening.

Why is that important you might ask? Because it for one, puts you into the situation where you should know, chances are slim for you to even get more than a little bit of fun, but they are there. I have encountered those groups many times already, and they are sometimes receptive, sometimes not.

For instance there was one group (though it was in a bar, not a club) of, if i remember correctly 6 girls who were partying, and i went in, totally pumped up from the music, approached one of them, dropped my line about her outfit, introduced myself to all the other girls, hooked up my friend with one of them by saying "hey, you know what? my friend over there, it's his birthday today!" she asks " really?" and i say "yeah, sure, it's the fifth time this week!" she runs over, hugs him, kisses him and i can go on with her sister. Turns out the other 4 girls were not cockblocking at first, and those sisters were in a relationship... still, i was dancing with the one, making my jokes, KINOing her hard, up to the makeout. We were making out for a while, and suddenly she takes her sister out to talk, they come back and announce they are going to leave. Game Over. Still had lots of fun, and i regret nothing.

That's my story and I have some questions based on that story of mine. People say social proof is important at the place like bar and club. But if those people happen to be losers. Is the social proof still a plus?

This social proof is a myth. It is widely misunderstood... No one cares if you know someone in a club. What they might see is that you are not alone but that is all that matters. If you happen to know someone "beautiful/handsome" you look more valuable, sure, and if you know the owner of that place you might be even more valuable, but seriously... who cares? People are there to dance and have fun, not to network. So basically if you manage to not give off that "45 year old, standing in a corner, holding his beer in front of his beer belly while drooling over the 18 year old girls" vibe you should be fine.

What should I have said to that Spanish girl who was about to move on to the corner of the dancefloor?

Not said, but either took her hand to dance, or just stop caring to later approach her whole group, like i said.

Should I have taken a risk and chased her?

Like i said, what did you have to lose? you already lost her the moment you gave up.

Title	What to do in this situation?
Author	bsbnsc
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	September 19, 2017 6:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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