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[–]silc789 44 points45 points46 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
obviously don’t want to come off as clingy or needy
After reading the whole post, I have some news for you.
[–]BigStudley01 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If I could upvote more than once, I most certainly would, especially after reading OPs response to this.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"I'm a normal guy" famous last words
[–]Throwaway09221965 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That was the joke…
[–]Throwaway09221965 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Fair. Just got out of a 2 year relationship where I was cheated on. Like I said this girl is really pretty so it does mean something to me. If it wasn’t for her saying she wants a relationship I woulda backed off. Also what throws me off is how quick she replies. I’m a normal guy I swear lol
[–]rhofire 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like I said this girl is really pretty so it does mean something to me.
Ask your ex if you can have your balls back.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
This will end in tears for a number of reasons. First and foremost you are already letting her run the show and drive the relationship. It's always "whatever she wants", which is the sign of a weak man. You don't even fucking know what you want so she will drive the relationship into a wall.
Second, I love your banter, but you seriously need to chill and act like you have been with females before in your life.
[–]Throwaway09221965 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
Yeah you’re right. I downloaded Hinge with the intent to just find pussy. I was sort of struggling with some inadequacy issues after my most recent ex. I have never had a girl ask to “hang out” with me before and she is out of my league. I think all of that contributes to why I’m overthinking. I’m just gonna assume she wanted a one night stand. If she wants to talk she can hit me up
Edit: Thanks
[–]CocoBabeNYC 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just take it easy. Give it a few days, hang out again. Don't text every day. Don't treat her like you want to marry her tomorrow. If she is the hot she's been through this exercise a few times.
[–]rhofire 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
she is out of my league.
That's just in your mind. It sounds like she's not good enough for you but you seem to want to learn the hard way.
[–]Throwaway09221965 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Didn’t think of it like that. I fuck with the sentiment. Shit is just weird. She told me when she was in my bed that she didn’t know we were going back to my house. I profusely and sincerely apologize because that sounds scary. She laughed and said it’s okay, but I just wonder why she didn’t think to ask where we were going lol
[–]rhofire 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I profusely and sincerely apologize because that sounds scary.
This woman is going to hurt you. I don't think you have what it takes to walk away. I'm saying this because of your attitude and all the stuff you've written. Your self-worth is really low. And, it seems you've only been with a couple of women. Again, she knows all this.
The best thing you can do is to back out. But, you won't. So, make sure you stay in touch with friends and people who care about you. Don't end up in a position where you're isolated from everyone else.
Also, if she dumps you now, thank your stars.
[–]rhofire 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This girl is really pretty so I don’t wanna blow it.
Oh, you're starting to lose it.
If she wants me to wife her up I will if she wants to be FWB I will.
You lost it.
I would like to show I care about her, but obviously don’t want to come off as clingy or needy.
She already knows you're clingy and needy.
All you had to do is invite her over, all that texting is just a waste. But, the bigger problem is, you don't know what you want. You're waiting for her to take the lead. Since she knows this and has decided to stick around, she finds you useful.
Now, the best thing you can do for yourself is to lay back. See her once a week for a while. Cut out the cuddling and other B.S. Else, you'll soon be back posting about how she has "switched."
[–]Throwaway09221965 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How does she know I’m clingy though? I don’t let the conversation drag on. I’ve known her for 3 days. The first day we had sex , second day I made an attempt to show I’m still interested, and today I sent her one snap letting her know I hoped she has a good day. Is that too much?
I’m willing to admit I’m thinking about this way too much/hard right now, but I don’t really think I’m showing I’m being clingy. Not trying to be argumentative because I posted in here for a reason.
Is that too much?
Everything other than you scheduled, met up, and had sex is too much. I can tell you need, women are 1000x more intuitive about this kind of stuff. She knows you're needy.
I don’t let the conversation drag on
You shouldn't have had the conversation.
I’m willing to admit I’m thinking about this way too much/hard right now,
She can tell by the way you act. Do you think you're the first guy or even the only guy she's seeing?
Thats fair. I think I genuinely am just too nice of a guy. The reason I broke up with my gf was because she sucked off a 30 year old (she was freshly 18 at the time) and a drug dealer a month into our relationship. Guess who she decided to stay with…Now that I am talking it out I am on the same track for somthing like this to happen again.
Of course I’m not the only guy. I’m not under any sort of illusion. The way this entire situation came about shows she’s kinda a hoe
[–]rhofire 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
she’s kinda a hoe
Ahh, you see. That's one of your core issues. You judge women.
You just met her. You're expecting too much. In reality, you're expecting her to fill the voids and give you comfort with issues you need to deal with yourself.
The thing is, it's not your ex's fault or this girl's fault. Sure, they're wrong for treating you in a certain way. But, you haven't taken responsibility for yourself, your emotions, your actions.
As a result, you end up in unnecessarily vulnerable positions. Also, you have this "macho" way of coming across but it's fake. You present a persona to these women and then you get upset when things go wrong.
Right now, you have to learn how to be honest with yourself about what you really want. You have to focus on that. Walk away from situations that don't serve you.
But, don't blame the women for your mistakes.
[–]Lighthero34 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
if it ends right now I feel like that would be a win for me
Fucking kek dude.
It's not a competition there's no winning.
Bruh when your a late bloomer yes the fuck it is.
[–]Lighthero34 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How old are you
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[–]Lighthero34 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Dude you aren't a late bloomer what are you on about. You know men remain sexually active even in their 30s right? You've been an adult for all of 4 years there's no late blooming happening you can relax a little bit my guy.
[–]Invest2prosper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just their 30’s? Try til the end of life!
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