what's the difference between creepy and good?

mandom11 · 2014-07-09T06:22:29+00:00

Women want to be desired. A confident guy is never labelled creepy because he is fearless when letting a woman know he desires or lusts over her. Holding eye contact with a woman is hugely important as is going and chatting with her when you do so. Be fearless and unapologetic about desiring her, its natural.

puaCurveBall · 2014-07-09T07:23:49+00:00

It is a mistake to think this is under your control, because that only puts blame on yourself when it turns out not to be.

Look, you can do something that 50% of women think is attractive and 50% think is creepy. Or 90% / 10%, or any other combination.

You just have to accept that sometimes, you are going to be creepy. You can certainly calibrate to minimize this, but if you don't accept it, then you'll try for 0%, and feel shame when you don't get it. (FYI, 0% creepy = not trying = no chance of success)

You'll go crazy if you think you can control this, or somehow "objectively" judge whether a specific action is or isn't.

IANAPUA_Yet · 2014-07-09T06:28:18+00:00

It comes down to very subtle things like the setting, the duration of the eye contact, your body language, your facial expression, her level of attraction to you, and what you do next.

There's a delicate balance between creepy and good, but unfortunately, there's no formula for any of it. It's just something you have to learn through trial and error. It's a process known as "calibration".

joshsway · 2014-07-09T14:29:02+00:00

When it comes to eye contact, generally don't worry about appearing too creepy unless you are obviously being a total creep. I wrote a little about creepy moves here: https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/stop-doing-these-6-creepy-moves

Rx_Love · 2014-07-09T18:53:00+00:00

Follow-through would be the defining characteristic of either interesting or creepy in the scenario you just described. If you cowered away and took a bashful/self conscious attitude then: creepy. If you owned the fact that you find her attractive then its all gravy.

99% of all posts here seem to have the same answer(s): Be sure of yourself and/or be someone you would want to get to know. You sir, fall subject to number 1 right there.

Title	what's the difference between creepy and good?
Author	PortalesoONR
Upvotes	7
Comments	5
Date	July 9, 2014 5:53 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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