When do i be myself? When do i bounce out with just a number? I personally think not all girls can be seduce to bed in a few hours, am i wrong?

recyclablebantha · 2014-11-17T12:20:00+00:00

I am not sure what you've been reading or watching, but your assumptions are flawed.

When do i be myself?

You shouldn't ever not be yourself. Where did you get the idea that you can't be yourself?

When do i bounce out with just a number?

When you want to. Some girls require longer gaming. It's up to you, depending on the girl and what you want.

I personally think not all girls can be seduce to bed in a few hours.....

Of course not. Where did you get the idea that every girl could be? Only the girls who are up for that kind of interaction, can be seduced in a few hours, to bed. And of those girls, not all of them will go for any given guy. This idea that a guy can get "any girl," is just marketing.

( I wasn’t puaing them at all at this point, I was just being myself) . I told them lets get some shots. We drank the shots and I did my tequila trick on her. We share a tequila drink and I get her to suck the lemon out of mouth.

I don’t really like to smoke but most girls in club like to smoke. So I brought her alone to the smoking room, she told me she didn’t like smoking. So I didn’t even light up. I lead her to another dance floor.

Is the tequila trick really you? In any case, it seems like entirely too much of what you do, is not you, but is done to try to get girls.

Example: Don't smoke? Don't go to the smoking room. Don't like smoking? Don't go after girls who do. Have some standards. You HAVE to have your own preferences, some of which are non-negotiable.

She then questioned me, “Do you always pick up girls like that.” I replied “Honestly I don’t remember”. Then she asked me again “how many girls did you pick up before” I replied “am I suppose to remember” she started to give a turned off look. I tilted.

You made her feel like a number. You basically cock-blocked yourself by acting like this. And you saw that she was being turned off. You've probably turned girls off with talk like this before. If so, why keep doing it? Seduction isn't about hiding who you are and dodging direct questions.

Seduction is SOCIALIZING. If you start being dishonest about it, you're going to turn people off.

What did i do wrong? I'm not a smoker i just smoke when i go to clubs as most girls in club smoke and smoking together builds comfort.

Firstly, smoking together doesn't = comfort. Comfort is not a formula. Comfort takes connection, which takes attentiveness and listening. You seem capable of this, but you're purposefully ignoring her feedback and trying to bulldoze girls.

Secondly, you didn't necessarily do anything wrong. Sometimes it's just not in the cards. Even the best PUAs can't get every girl they set their sights on. There are too many factors out of their control. All you can do is do the best you can with the cards you're dealt.

Lastly, what you are doing is a limited, really flawed version of PUA. There's a lot of fear built into it because you haven't been yourself for a year.

You should check out other PUAs and get other philosophies.....Here are a couple.

SexySmexxy · 2014-11-17T11:32:15+00:00

Well the most obvious thing you did wrong was you treated your girl like the faceless target of a PUA and then you kinda did it again...

~~Girls~~People don't like to feel as though they're just a target for your night out, they wanna feel special and from what you said you kinda did the opposite. On the bright side you're opening game sounds pretty solid.

ThatSpecialPlace · 2014-11-17T15:32:08+00:00

There's honestly only a few flaws I can point out, /u/recyclablebantha gave you the majority of them.

Taking her to the smoking room was kind of pointless. It made it seem like you were doing something you didn't really want to, and that will put a girl off.

She was definitely giving you those shit tests to gauge your actual interest in her. You're mindset was "Jesus I just want to bang you already" so you flew through them with the usual PUA responses. As you noticed, she didn't enjoy that.

Also, letting her drag you around the club was a bad idea as well. SHE lead YOU around the club twice. That's a no-no. You should've taken your hand away and said you were going to go find your friend or something. Remember; let them chase you.

Oh, and I'm going to go out on a limb and say that, that "moment of awkwardness" was supposed to be filled with a kiss, or a hug. As soon as she said she had to go, I would've been like okay that's fine, give her a kiss and walk a way. (Didn't seem like you were interested in meeting up again so getting a number would've been pointless)

Overall I just think the girl wasn't compatible with what you were going for. She seem interested, but you weren't interested on a slow direction.

wannabeseddit · 2014-11-17T19:53:39+00:00

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Title	When do i be myself? When do i bounce out with just a number? I personally think not all girls can be seduce to bed in a few hours, am i wrong?
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Date	November 17, 2014 9:46 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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