When does trying become too much?

ApathyTX · 2013-04-30T23:58:39+00:00

"I understand the game and when to flirt or when to connect with a person" quickly turns into "no girl seems interested." and "There is only so much rejection I can handle."

Doesn't sound like someone who understands and is connecting with people.

What seems to be the problem? The approach?

AND DON'T WORRY MATE! Getting hsot down is half the fun! On to the next one!

notaPUAthrowaway · 2013-05-01T00:05:24+00:00

I think you need to re-evaluate things. College is all about your social circle. Do you have many friends? Are they cool? Do you have many female friends? Are they cool?

If the answer to these questions is "no", then that should be your first order of business.

DeeMore · 2013-05-01T05:30:02+00:00

All you want is a girl to show interest? You have to want more than that. You have to want something above girls. I know man, its hard. Trust me I know but its how it goes. The harder you cling to this idea that a girl is all that is going to make you happy, the less likely you are to attain it. Its so overstated imo but try to find something else to motivate you like some hobbies or get some cool friends and just socialize.

At work the other night I had way more fun bantering with my three good friends and two girls then I did having sex the night before. Yes, sex can be awesome and more fun than that banter situation. But in this case it was not. Its totally just whatever. Recognize how much fun life can be without girls, and the girls will come to you because your leading a fun life.

Finally, I went 1,2,3,4,4.5 semesters of college before I ever got laid for the first time. Don't give up man. Just keep trying. I love it, I go to a huge school but everywhere I go I see girls I blew it with. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. And now, I see girls I have hooked up with or have the possibility of hooking up with. Glorious. Check /r/rsd they have helped me get to this point. Seriously man rsd has kept me in the right direction and got me laid for the first time.

Look for the fun in life and girls will come

Jack_Sophmore · 2013-05-01T13:42:41+00:00

For new perspective leave America. It's TERRIBLE THERE. Source: I'm in Asia.

But other things aside, it's tough when you're younger. Pay attention to making lots of money and then in your late 20's early 30's you'll be surprised how much it pays off.

puaCurveBall · 2013-05-01T00:06:55+00:00

Where do things run dry? Are you getting #, day2's?

recyclablebantha · 2013-05-01T05:15:51+00:00

I've spent the past two years building myself up.

So far, 3 semesters have past in college and no girl seems interested.

If your technique is not right, all the practice in the world will not bring results. I'd recommend taking an inventory. Exactly when is it going wrong?

Confidence is probably still an issue, from the sound of it.
Something is likely wrong in your approach. What does a typical approach look like?
If you're Outcome Dependant, this will taint what you do, as well. Look up Outcome Independence......

In general, if something's not working..... this isn't magic. It's not alchemy...... The guys who do well at it are not magicians or geniuses. They are just doing the right things. If it's not working for you, you're missing something. You can either go figure out what it is, or decide that you've tried everything when you really haven't.....and give up.

2013-05-01T07:45:23+00:00

Have you've been introspective about your approaches to women? I feel that if you analyzed your approaches to women, wrote what you did wrong/right, and wrote suggestions for the future, it can help you.

That way, your rejections arn't rejections, they're learning experiences. The more you learn, that more prepared you are to sweep that amazing/hot girl at the party/venue/location =]

Title	When does trying become too much?
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Upvotes	8
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Date	April 30, 2013 11:10 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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