Hello! Just so everyone knows, I'm new to Reddit in general, if I commit any major blunders on accident. Haha.

I've read through a few of the posts on Seddit and some of it rings very true in my mind. Some I don't get. Some just seems backwards.

Basically, I don't know where to begin with all of this. I'm an overweight guy (275), but working on it (320). I've been told I have a magnetic personality by both sexes. I usually can get a girl to laugh with in the first few minutes. I've changed myself around for the most part. I used to be painfully timid and shy but now I'm fairly confident in most aspects of my life and tend to be blunt, honest, straight forward, etc. Despite all of this, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin at, soon to be, 21.

This astounds me. I've never wanted to wait for "the one" or to necessarily have a girlfriend to lose it, although I think that initially it would be more productive. All I really want for my first time is a girl that I like, that returns the sentiment, and is willing to let me get in some practice. A lot of practice. Haha. Because of this I'm unwilling to do one night stands yet. My inexperience would ultimately defeat the point I think.

I'm not necessarily looking to get laid. That isn't a huge deal to me yet and I'm sure it will come in time. My goal is to improve my game and myself. I want a girl I can trust a bit for my first time and I believe myself capable of judging that. Going about ensuring success seems to elude me.

I don't have any clue where to start regarding all of this. I tried getting one of David de Angelo's ebooks, but that never seemed to do much. Perhaps I was approaching it from the wrong direction? Regardless, I need some help and don't know where to go.

I want help in all areas of my game but the biggest problems seem to be: approaching women spontaneously like at bars, coffee shops, malls, etc.; maintaining her attraction once I establish it; learning to keep conversation flowing naturally; and knowing when the proper time to push forward is (Such as when to go in for the first kiss and building momentum from there).

Can you help me Seddit?!

TL;DR: I suck at dating and want to improve myself and my game but don't know where to begin or what to do.