Why do so many women flake?

seduction-ModTeam · 2025-02-21T08:44:23+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-02-21T06:30:17+00:00

Men do the exact same thing. If you were a woman you would experience the exact same thing all the time. People do it because:

They want to reduce the feeling of direct conflict. It can be scary to confront someone.
They don't want to hurt someone's feelings.
Sometimes they want a back-up option, friend, or just appreciate the attention, and they don't want to lose that.

You have to learn to identify when it's happening and stop pursuing. Identify the time-wasters. It also helps to be a bit more direct and forwards in terms of asking them on a date. If they beat around the bush and never actually want to meet you - take the hint. They're not that interested or available. See it as a rejection. Find someone else to talk to.

-REXIA- · 2025-02-21T06:23:56+00:00

That's just how the new gen is now, especially with normal-looking girls having so many options + technology getting better via socializing, and a lot of unfortunate desperate guys/ simps giving girls too much attention, so at the same time, it is sorta our fault. The best thing is just to focus on yourself first, getting flaked on happens to the best of us and even better-looking guys than us, we just have to be better, think positive, don't GAF because that's how it is and just do whatever that makes you happy and follow your purpose. If you like a girl show her some attention but not too much, if she flakes just move on, she's not the right one for you.

4scentsin1day · 2025-02-21T06:21:33+00:00

It’s polite rejection

Ivabighairy1 · 2025-02-21T07:25:46+00:00

Because they can

Commercial_World_433 · 2025-02-21T07:28:25+00:00

The best way I can describe it is self-defense, because they feel like if they just said "no, I don't want to date you" to a random man, they run the risk of that man attacking them for it.

Another layer to this is that you might not be attractive enough, because that survival instinct seems to go out the window when it's a hot guy. So go to the gym, have a proper diet, learn some male fashion to dress well, get good at a hobby or job to signal competency, earn more money if possible, and meticulously clean yourself every day so you don't stink ever (this includes washing your ass).

CoachSlyDating · 2025-02-21T06:55:15+00:00

They don’t do this to guys they really like. Attraction is a spectrum. One minute she could be super attracted to you at a 10/10 level. Five minute later you could say something so unattractive that her attraction for you drops to 0/10. More often than not if the girl is flaking her attraction for you js something like a 6/10. She’s considering it but your game isn’t tight enough to differentiate you from the other guys.

7asas · 2025-02-21T07:19:57+00:00

When I was single, I used to ask a girl out three times or even less depending on what her excuse is and how she tells it. If she flakes for three times, game is over and I just stop messaging her. It proved to be a correct move. Because girls who want to meet you, will find time for that. My current girlfriend even on our first dates always found time to meet me. Even after work and gym. Because she was genuinely interested.

I am also good friends with a few girls. One girl broke up with her long term boyfriend. And now she is looking for a decent guy. And she goes through all the same things guys do. Some guys message her, but are just stupidly too forward or creepy, some are way too passive and do nothing to flirt with her, just talk about mundane daily things. She also messaged some guys herself and it lead nowhere. Because it seems like guys think she messaged them with no reason. And it seems kind of strange to me. Because girls never message guys they don't know just to chit chat. She showed me how it goes, because she is kind of frustrated. She is something around 5/10, very chatty girl, maybe a bit too chatty though for my taste.

rich_god · 2025-02-21T07:50:49+00:00

They don’t do it once you start understanding consent. They are not just not as much into it as you think they are.

Title	Why do so many women flake?
Author	decal1210
Upvotes	16
Comments	14
Date	February 21, 2025 6:15 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1iuk9on/why_do_so_many_women_flake/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/why-do-so-many-women-flake.1544480 https://theredarchive.com/post/1544480

Comments