something that is completely ignored from the confidence literature is that the desire to feel more confident can come from the fact that you think people are so different from you.

The more you think you are different, the less you relate to people, the more you perceive a gap between you and other people, the more it will be challenging to cross that gap.

a key aspect in feeling confident with other people is how you relate, checkout the full video for the full argument, it will challenge your perspectives...

Full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g9msqcQedsQ