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True_Appointment_346 · 2025-06-05T21:14:44+00:00

I'm a big guy but been eating carnivore for a month and have been losing weight there is a part of me very angry about the whole divorce shit then there is a part of me that wants revenge like lose all my weight and work out tell im ripped and find a woman super hot then post the shit out of us on social just to make my wife regret all of it idk why cause I don't really deep down wanna be with her anymore but some of me still does

Own-Finish-5021 · 2025-06-01T15:10:48+00:00

TLDR: do things that are for you. Maybe they are old and forgotten things or new and unknown. Either way, each day just do things that allow you to rediscover you and write your own story.

I’ve done bunches of different things since separation and divorce, all of them with the simple of focus of rediscovering myself.

Some examples of many:

I just went on a vacation and for the first time in more than a decade it was actually just that, a vacation. I actually enjoyed it. I was able to relax and just be me. I wasn’t walking on eggshells or completely bowing to what she wanted, when she wanted to do something. I was with other people and it was still easier and carefree than compared to vacationing with her.

I’ve also been going out to restaurants every 1-2 weeks that she would never go to. She wouldn’t go to them bc they weren’t trendy, expensive restaurants. Or they weren’t new age, wellness schtick like organic everything and vegan (she wasn’t vegan and generally ate poorly at home). Sometimes they are hole in the wall places, others are more fancy. Sometimes they are amazing and others not so much. Doesn’t matter, every time I go I don’t have to hear the heavy sigh or experience the eye roll.

Reflog1791 · 2025-06-01T07:38:52+00:00

Keep grinding chef it’s gonna be ok brother. It’s temporary man. The world is a lot bigger than your ex. Many wonderful opportunities are available to you.

Try yoga, reading, push-ups, working out, breathing exercises aka meditation, drinking a shit ton of water, eating healthy, learning a new instrument, hiking, fishing, going to bed earlier with a good book and a cup of tea, waking up earlier and going for a jog and literally smelling the roses.

You’re just in the thick of something shitty but this too shall pass. Do good healthy things and bring some joy to your life.

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-06-01T01:38:52+00:00

I hear you. I'm almost 6 months into separation and I'll definitely get angry when I workout.

For anxiety, talk to your doc and get something to help or you're gonna blow your heat up. I had a panic attack the first month and I've never ever had anxiety in my life. This divorce brought it upon me. Prescription meds at night help me sleep.

I've slowly gotten better with not being frustrated and sad. I do keep a journal which helps. It feels like I'm taking the poison and putting it on paper. Like a transfer.

Absolutely make sure you're talking to people.

Title	Idk
Author	True_Appointment_346
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	May 30, 2025 8:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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