Crosspost "Waiting endlessly" from /r/Divorce:

First off, not my relationship. Basically, my brother and sister in law have been going through some rough times. She caught him cheating on her. And secretly, she made a plan to leave filing the paperwork and everything. When the complaint was served he was distraught, didn’t know what what was happening, and just wanted her to come back. Especially because she had already sent their daughter away with one of her family members and communicated very little saying you can talk to my lawyer instead. Initially, the court had them try counseling before doing anything else. He went to his sessions and she didn’t really go to hers. They’ve both been heated and depressed during this time.

Long story short, they talk more cordially now. The real problem is things have been in limbo for like a year now. She won’t say whether she wants a divorce anymore or wants to give him a 2nd chance. My brother still loves her and wants her back. But also, he’s willing to make peace with the fact she may want a divorce still. She just won’t decide.

And don’t get me wrong, I love them both since they’re both almost like my mom and dad. And I’m fully aware what my brother has done wrong, I’ve fought with him a ton afterwards about why he made so many dumb decisions. Basically, his explanation was the tale you’d find on r/deadbedrooms. And for the last few years in their marriage she talked more to friends on her phone than him. From one of the conversations we saw on her phone it seems like she had feelings for someone else a year or two ago. Either way, it’s besides the point. It’s terrible watching both of them live like this. Their marriage is about to hit 2 decades now and they have a wonderful daughter. Really can’t seem to make sense why she’s waiting so long. I don’t think the court is clogged or anything like that. Or if it’s her still needing more time. Or if it’s a legal strategy to pursue his assets since he has basically dad and uncle’s assets under his name (bad planning I know). Really confused.

Posted by False_Ad8645 | 7 April 2022 | Link