Rotational dating how-to?

2019-11-20T19:57:11+00:00

Accept dates whenever you feel like it from whoever interests you.
When you are on a date with one guy, the others don't exist. Don't check your phone. Be present with your date.
Don't prioritize a 'favorite' just because you like him more than the others. The best guy is the one who treats you with the most respect and care.
If you're not feeling it with a guy in your rotation end it gracefully.

siddmartha · 2019-11-20T19:52:44+00:00

From personal experience of doing some rotational dating..it involves lots of texting and keeping up with a guy. I'm not talking about every single day but every few days you gotta do a check in with all your dudes.

Give them enough to keep them coming back to you: almost like a GF experience (minus the sex if thats your thing) when you're together but when you're on your own almost ignore them. I think you should do whatever you want while you're together; the key is to not expect anything in return from these guys.

This was super fun but It was honestly really emotionally tiring for me. Because I tend to want to give a lot, its the same way with my friends and family. It would get to the point where I was being pulled in so many directions, it was annoying.

Also, I don't suggest keeping it a secret that you are dating other people. Be open and casual but kind/respectful about it.

brainsandb00bs · 2019-11-20T20:01:15+00:00

I do this, I am either single or married - no inbetween. It works on men that *want* to put up with it, honestly. If a man finds a problem with me not willing to be his GF, I dont waste time trying to convince him why I like this sort of arrangement. I just replace him with someone more eager and appreciative of my time. Most men though do get excited when they find out they dont have to worry about you wanting to tie them down and make them a boyfriend. Until a few weeks in when they will realize that you are going on dates with high quality people a lot more often than they are, then they get desperate to lock shit down (especially if there is no sex on the table yet).

All the men in my rotation eventually ask me what I think about commitment or what it is I want around 2-4 dates in. I tell them that I will not commit to a man without a ring. Some of them may dip out after that, surprisingly most of them don't (I have already vetted them carefully by this point which is probably why).

Once you have a rotation going of 4-8 guys courting you for marriage, keep going about your life. You don't really have to do anything. They will be driving themselves crazy anytime you aren't with them, wondering who you are with and where he is taking you. Each date gets better and better as they try to compete with each other, and their imaginations of what they think happens on your other dates. If you are smart and tactfully display gifts you get from the guys, in a place where the others will see, they will start elevating their gift game too. Men LOVE a chase and boy do I give them one hell of a chase.

The ones most interested in you will be desperately trying to fill your time up so you don't have time to entertain the other men or accept any more dinner dates. You just pick and choose who you want to see each day and have fun! For reference I am in my late 20s and have received 5 marriage proposals so far. I have been engaged twice and I know at least 2 of the men in my rotation will propose within the next 12 months if I keep them around that long.

I cant find any good resources that talk about this method or advocate it enough. If there is enough interest from other people, I'll make a post about Single to Engaged tactics!

2019-11-20T21:55:08+00:00

It just seems like a lot of work. Maybe bc I’ve been so burnt out from dating that going back again just tires me out

letsberealforamoment · 2019-11-21T01:20:56+00:00

It's a lot work, both mentally and in terms of time. Throw in a 40hr work week, kids, family, friends, hobbies, volunteer work, professional networking, time alone....how does one do it.

Title	Rotational dating how-to?
Author	rftw2013
Upvotes	14
Comments	9
Date	November 20, 2019 6:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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