How do I accept being childless

2019-12-31T00:18:57+00:00

I am 33 and just left my husband. Same boat. We had names picked out for our kids and everything, but I couldn't stay just to end up leaving after having kids. Get some eggs frozen just in case.

notaflan · 2019-12-30T23:50:33+00:00

I'm nearing 32, single and childfree, have never wanted kids and will never want them. I love kids, don't get me wrong, I very much enjoy my interactions with them, they're such little weirdos, but the responsibility of raising them is not something I need.

But if you actually want to have children, you can always adopt and raise them as a single mother, there are plenty of kids out there who'd love to have a family. Just really think about if motherhood is something you desire for you or it's just the societal pressure that's messing with your heard

whycantweallgetal0ng · 2019-12-30T23:53:03+00:00

If you don't have the financial means to be a single parent, you can find a lot of fulfilment in being a foster mom or a big sister.

CharmingPass · 2019-12-31T06:24:49+00:00

Who is the one saying that needs to have children?

Read "The Untethered Soul", and you will see that being childfree is not a problem, you are already whole, joyful, and perfect, you don't need anything nor anyone else to be happy or complete.

It may sound as mental gymnastics to sour-grape your desires, and talk yourself out of wanting something you can't have, but really is not. Read it, give it a try and see for yourself.

curlygirl507 · 2019-12-30T20:42:18+00:00

I've turned down dates from multiple male doctors who seemed like good people because they wanted children and I didn't.

Are you super direct on dating apps that your goal is to start a family?

gggemma · 2019-12-31T10:17:05+00:00

Thanks i will give that a read.

I did get some eggs frozen a couple of years ago, it only amounted to 6 eggs. I am thinking about going through the process again.

Adoption and fostering are not an option for me where i live, and i think i would struggle financially as a single parent. I have been hesitating to freeze more eggs as it feels like im throwing more money at something in the hope i meet a hvm - which seems very slim.

Title	How do I accept being childless
Author	gggemma
Upvotes	20
Comments	6
Date	December 30, 2019 6:03 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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