It’s been taking me a while to understand this about myself, but when I’m not really interested in a guy, I start asking him if I’m bothering him, if it’s problem that we’re spending too much time together, or if he has something that he needs to do. All this time I thought that I was worried that I might be too clingy when really it was me who wanted space.

I used to ask guys these things out of respect for his time. In reality, I felt agitated, and anxious and this urge to “break out”. I was afraid to ask for space because it would mean that the relationship is over. Here’s the thing, it would have been over either way, and I wouldn’t be as drained.

Relationships shouldn’t drain you and shouldn’t have to keep up with them. Both your levels of energy should match.