Marriage problems and solutions

Arzu1982 · 2016-04-11T00:15:01+00:00

The "solution" to marriage problems is:
DON'T GET MARRIED!

In fact, DON'T COHABIT, and DON'T even let her "move a few of her things in" (because that very often incrementally leads to her moving in, see she "Oopsie... just somehow forgot to renew her apartment lease..." plus of course she's "over at your place most of the time anyway" and besides "Think of all the money she'll save by not paying rent!" and then she "PROMISES that once she gets her credit cards and car paid off..." -- [like that's ever going to happen] -- well then she'll "be able to help pay your rent/mortgage/utilities..." and assorted other fictional-fantasy nonsense).

good_man_gone · 2016-04-10T23:55:00+00:00

I was thankfully never married but its always the same in a relationship. She starts poking around, testing your patience, giving you shittests too check out how deep you are willing to fall for her and how far she can go with her disrespect.

If you have any self respect you will politely excuse yourself the next time she tells you about her ex boyfriends or cant get her eyes off her phone while you are having a romantic dinner.

However there are those men who dont see anything wrong with that behaviour and are happy to pay for everything. Those are the poor saps who end up married to this kind of cunt.

Dont get married! How about that for a solution.

squidracer · 2016-04-11T02:04:13+00:00

Never married, but co habituated for 6 years..

Honestly it wasn't that bad for me, but I could tell by her attitude that things would change if I put a ring on it. She was a single mother and if it wasn't for the fact that her and her kid were absolutely horrible when in the same room together I'd still be with her. Separatly they were both great, but together they constantly yelled at each other, never me, but each other was bad enough.

As far as the sex life, that never died down.. I got it when I waned right up till the end and even 3 months after.. She called me an asshole quite often but that never stopped her

daddycheckbook · 2016-04-11T02:12:24+00:00

Married for 15 years and now happily divorced. The only way I would ever get married, would be to have children if I made up my mind that I was absolutely certain that I wanted them. Then, I would definitely put a pre-nuptial agreement in place and her refusal to sign it would be a deal killer. Personally, I am never, ever marrying again. I have several friends and acquaintances that are either divorced or considering it, and they all tell me the same thing. Their wives turned in to crazy bitches once they were married.

My personal feeling is that everyone contemplating marriage should be required to submit to a psychological evaluation with the results being shared by both parties. I can tell you from my own experience that a woman will say anything and do anything to seduce/trick you into marrying her. Once you're hooked, she owns you.

emmettfitz · 2016-04-11T03:13:09+00:00

I slept in a hammock in the basement for probably a year. My wife and I go our separate ways and do our own things, but we do enjoy each each others company when we're together. I feel ours is a unique relationship, we've been married for over 20 years. We've never been lovey lovey, we've been mature adults. We were really good friends before we got married, we're really good friends now. I've been away from her for days, weeks, and over a year (military). The taking things for granted thing has a lot of levels. Actually I'm not sure how to answer that, I would probably need more information. As I said we do our own things, I don't expect to come and her to have supper on the table when I get there. We respect each other, say please and thank you to each other, we try to work together as much as we can. We both have a different way of looking at the world, and we really haven't found anyone else that thinks the way we do. I don't really know why I subscribe to MGTOW, but I do subscribe to a lot of the ideas and beliefs here. Men's rights are eroding and I feel bad for my son (17). I tell him to not get married and keep what is his, his. But on the other hand our marriage has never been like that, it's more like two people that have pulled our resources.

ryeshoes · 2016-04-11T00:11:43+00:00

While it is probably intellectually dishonest to say that 100% of marriages are unhappy ones, or that 100% of men dislike being married (as that would discount the experience of the blue pill man) I'd posit that a recovering BP man or a RP aware man would find marriage tedious and upsetting given enough time.

So in that sense I'd also advocate not getting married.

However if you insist on producing some set of protocols to improve one's experience given that marriage is involved, you'd find such comments over at trp - warning: the suggestions are not guaranteed and the consequences of failure are catastrophic. Buyer beware.

VTDante · 2016-04-11T00:15:22+00:00

Check out the Married Red Pill sub.

TwoTonJoe · 2016-04-11T12:42:43+00:00

Married twice here. Recent divorce about 6 months ago, now single for the first time in nearly 20 years and loving it.

First marriage really wasn't that bad for the first 7 or 8 years. We were in our early 20's, so there was a 'magic' about being a young couple and having a child together. Everything was new, and sure there were pitfalls and times of stress & arguing, but overall it really wasn't bad until the end. She was a very clever sociopath, who just did a very good job of hiding it all those years. Shit blew up in the end and I was wrecked.

2nd marriage came, and I thought this one was different. She seemed kind, big-hearted, and mentally had all her shit together. Nope. No magic in the 2nd marriage. I'd been to the circus, seen the monkey show, got the souvenirs. The "time apart", or "not seeing each other every day" didn't help the relationship. I traveled a lot on business, she just used the times of separation to cheat on me. That marriage lasted 6 years, half of which she was cheating on me behind my back. I found out and divorced her.

Now it's just me & my kids (sole custody) doing whatever we want.

bloopppppppp · 2016-04-12T23:26:31+00:00

Here's my experience: been married for a decade to a woman that abandoned the relationship as soon as we were married. (Don't judge me.) Now I'm being ripped apart in the divorce while I watch. Will exit with next to nothing, and if I can keep working I may pull through. Or not. DON'T GET MARRIED!

oldredder · 2016-04-11T10:55:56+00:00

no idea, thankfully

Marriage problems and solutions

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The "solution" to marriage problems is:
DON'T GET MARRIED!

So this

Don't get married.

Title	Marriage problems and solutions
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Date	April 10, 2016 11:20 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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The "solution" to marriage problems is: DON'T GET MARRIED!

So this

Don't get married.

The "solution" to marriage problems is:
DON'T GET MARRIED!