Good evening, my dears,

Since I've been dealing with myself and becoming more aware of my surroundings again, I've noticed more and more in everyday life how much men (and even little boys) are often simply disadvantaged.

I have a few groups/events here in the city and the surrounding area, but often only for girls.

There are no mixed or boys-only alternatives.

It's exactly the same with private flat-hunting ... a lot of advertisements (especially shared flats) are very often only advertised for women.

Then I often saw in the Playdate groups in the city Whatsapp community that actually ONLY mothers with boys are looking for other children to play with, as if girls automatically always have girlfriends.

I have a boy and a girl as children myself. (but im divorced) And although my daughter is much younger, I've already noticed that she has a lot more friends.

But let's take a look at my needs.

I went to my orthopaedist last week to evaluate my MRI.

And it turned out that after 14 years I have to have another disc operation because it looks very critical and I'm basically in constant pain.

I had mentioned it in a few places among friends (also online) because I am actually really afraid of having surgery again ... and I really haven't felt anything like fear for a long time.

But as you would expect, nobody was really interested ...

So people just say that they think it's a shame and hopefully it'll be fine again soon.

But honestly, what will be good again soon? Either way, it won't get any better after the operation.

Either I have less or no pain but am even more restricted ... or I live with the pain but can move a bit better.

The bad thing is ... shortly afterwards, a friend mentioned that she had a headache and was resting a bit ... she immediately got dozens of messages and offers of help?!? for headaches?!?!??

I mean of course she can't help it and I have absolutely no problem with women (in fact I get on much better with women than with guys)

BUT I can't understand the behavior of anyone involved.

Anyway, I thought about writing this here for a long time, because it seems pretty pointless to complain about anything as a man anyway ...

and absolutely nothing changes.

I am and will remain completely on my own for the rest of my life ... and nobody cares anyway.

Have a nice evening anyway