In recent years, or more accurately after the rise of social media and covid lockdowns, many of us have come across this term online, "The male loneliness epedemic".

This term is no longer some abstract or a sideshow of a niche group online like the fake male improvement lunatics similar to the Tate cult...etc. it is in fact a real life issue, as we can clearly see from a basic google search that the numbers and studies prove. men in modern times are more lonely than ever before, maybe in human history, not just in raw numbers as we are living in a time with the most numbers of humans in history, but in percentages, meaning the lonely males are a huge chunk of the total male population world wide.

That said I just wanna shed some light on this issue from a personal experience and overall observations I made to our state in this world.

I myself am a lonely man. when I say that I don't mean to seek sympathy or compassion from others, instead I inted to project the view that I have of this problem through the light of my own experience as a lonely person, and I hope you don't get bored.

Back to the main topic, when I first noticed this issue online I couldn't help but recognise the sheer numbers of men like me in the world, it sure brought some peace to me at first, knowing i'm not the only one suffering from a certain issue, due to our basic biological hard coded tribal/cave man brains.

But soon after that, my intuition kicked in, and realised I'd be damned if I let that feeling stay in the way of my love towards other people, especially those who suffer like me, a guy who have never found a partner in life, approaching 30, never been on a date, never had sex, and never had a first kiss, nor a simple experience of emotional romantic care.

So I did some self reflection and came to some of the following points about this loneliness I found myself in. first I tried to pinn down why that happened to me, and how on earth did I end up here? and from that question I got the answers to so many other things...

Mainly that this problem has nothing to do with society, sure the dating market sucks but that is a problem for people who activly participate in it, not me. yeah I never went on a date, not because I tried and failed, but because I have far deeper issues on a personal level.

Sure I went through the phase of blaming society, women, my parents..etc. but that got me no where, what really answered my questions about my loneliness was a metaphorical look in the mirror.

And soon realised many things, some of which are depression that I had that lead to me trying to self delete twice and a third time that was so close I ended up in a clinic for mentally ill people for 2 weeks. even that depression wasn't the main issue, as I dug deeper I found that I never asked anyone out in life cuz I had CPTSD, or Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, which have lead to almost all of my life problems...

From the lack of commitment to anything in life, to insomnia, to depression, to low self esteem and extreme self hatered, to body dysmorphia and body hate. all lead up to a single core that is the CPTSD shit!

I could go on about how I got that, but that would need an entire book so not gonna waste your time on it. back to the main point.

So this CPTSD made me think of how or why I never got the chance to get a partner in life, and that fact alone was one of the many reasons why I tried to self delete, realizing how my best biological years are behind me and that I'm too old to start this anyway now, was a real contributer to my deep dive head first into darness and suicidality.

Which made me sympethise even more with all the lonely men who I read about killing themselves.

Sure it wasn't the main reason for my suicidal behavior, but it wasn't abstract either. and again it was all linked up to CPTSD and its side effects of Depression and Self hate.

After that experience I can now safely say that even though I'm not healed, and even though I'm still lonely and most likely will forever be, with all the pain that that thought brings me everyday, I still found some peace, from the very fact that I managed to find out why and how this happened.

Some of you may ask why I'm so pessemistic about the future? and the answer again goes back to the amount of mentall problems that this illness have caused and hard coded into me. something that has always been a part of you can almost never be gone, and the material costs of doing so are really high, from therapists to medications to all sorts of shit, I can never overcome this. but still I found peace.

And that is more linked to my loneliness problem than you imagine, like the lack of consistency and lack of determination that CPTSD causes, caused me to miss out on so many opportunities in life than I can count, the lack of sleep and insomnia, phisically hindered my ability to stick to something and move up in life. now couple that with the self hate and depression and you'll get a recipe for self deletion!

I found that the problem is not women or society, it's actually me, in other words, my situation and my mental problems that caused me to be a failure in life are the main culprates that caused my loneliness all those years.

It caused the lack of every single attribute that another person might find attractive about me.

Who would love me if I don't love myself? who would help me if I don't want to help myself, who would stay with me in life if i'm causing my own pain and suffering and don't want to live? who would want to be with a failure in life, materially, socially or emotionally? who would want to be with a person who has lost the will to live? who would ever find me if I don't have the courage or self worth or self esteem to even go out and mingle where people go for to find love or socialize?

It's always been me, that is what I found, and I would bet my life on it, that almost every man who is lonely in life is not that because of a lack of his character or beacuse of physical ugliness, it's because of something far deeper into their ego and being.

Women want 3 things out of a guy, either good looks, money, or social status. one is enough to get you a partner, all 3 will make you a legend in their eyes.

If you don't have the first, tough shit, you lost the genetic lottery, but if you stop at that, then I would beg you to reconsider, since you still have 2 things to go for either of which will get you the love that you deserve. go for it, and if you find yourself unable to, or you start missing out on the opportunities to do so like I did, just remember this post, you might be mentally broken, and belive me when I say, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Maybe you'll find a cure, maybe you'll find help, just take it from a person who's at the bottom of the barrel...you won't get a worse situation than mine, don't give up like I did. life is arbitraty just as it can fuck someone up like me, it can offer others a way out or a solution ouf of fucking nowhere, maybe that's what's keeping me alive till now.

Sorry for the long post, and thank you if you read all of this.