CMV I'm so secure.

BiggerDthanYou · 2016-04-04T11:12:44+00:00

This insecurity buzzword that everyone seems to be throwing around these days is getting way out of hand and is being used to shame men into doing a lot of things are are aginst their own best interests.

Everyone is bit much. It was just a few people.

Having preferences doesn't make one insecure, but basing those preferences on insecurity is. And by calling it out I'm trying to help you guys.

Insecurity isn't attractive and often leads to shitty behaviour. It also leads to a warped world view where you filter everything through the insecurity filter. Like some chick that used to be fat and gets turned down might think she's getting turned down, because she's still not fit enough even though there can be plenty of different reasons.

Some examples:

I don't want to date a woman that has riden the CC, because that shows that she has different ideas about love and sex

is okay, but

only a cuck would date a woman that has ridden the CC, because she will always compare you to the amazing lovers she had in the past

shows insecurity.

I don't want my wife to go clubbing alone, because it shows a lack of respect and that we have different interests

is okay, but

if you let your gf go clubbing alone you are a cuck and she will absolutely cheat on you

is insecure as fuck.

I've got a small penis, but fuck it I'm going to give my best

is okay, but

I've got a small penis and no women will ever love me and they will cheat with some hung guy

is insecure.

By calling it out I'm trying to open the eyes of some guys and make them realize that if they simply stopped worrying they could be happier. IDGAF and such

RPmatrix · 2016-04-04T11:08:34+00:00

You're Not 'secure', you're so full of shit you're constipated so badly it's coming out your mouth

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madethisfortaleden · 2016-04-04T11:54:33+00:00

That means I can spend the whole day on the most important mision in the world: Proving that I'm the top dog of the security pile.

Only 9am and I have already proven my security in a whole bunch of ways.

Of course that means dropping pants in the most public place posible[sic], never let a perfectly good chance to prove my security go to waste.

For some reason he dosen't[sic] want to help me prove how secure I am in my manhood.

that would prove that I'm really not insecure about my penis.

Here's the crux of it, though: the man in your hyperbolic, over-the-top example is engaging in unhealthy behaviors in order to prove to everyone else around him how "secure" he is. But because his actions are motivated not to satisfy himself and his own standards and ethics, but instead to try and manipulate how others perceive him, all of his self-destructive behavior is still motivated by his need for validation and approval for other people, which is insecurity. He is actually massively insecure.

If he were actually secure, he would do things that benefit himself, his ethics, and his goals (go to work, maintain a nice living space, learn useful skills, pursue interesting hobbies, etc) without being overly concerned with how others see him. He doesn't need validation and approval from others. It's a nice thing when he does get it from people he respects, but he's still okay if he doesn't get it. He has nothing to "prove" to anyone but himself. He knows down to his soul that he's trying every day to be his best self, and that personal satisfaction is all he really needs.

TL;DR - OP's example of a "secure" guy is primarily concerned with how other people see him and bases all of his actions on whether or not others validate him, which is the definition of being insecure.

RojoEscarlata · 2016-04-04T11:25:18+00:00

If you think “shaming" men against their own self interest is new, you need man up and let women and children go first if you are a gentleman.

Part of the “social value" men have IS disposability, let that sink in.

sittinginabaralone · 2016-04-04T11:36:01+00:00

Provide a real example of insecurity being used as incorrectly as in your post

NalkaNalka · 2016-04-04T04:04:59+00:00

RP doesn't get to bitch about buzzwords. They just don't. Delete this post at once, OP.

Title	CMV I'm so secure.
Author	NalkaNalka
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	April 4, 2016 3:54 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/4d9g22/cmv_im_so_secure/
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