I am a young man in my early 20’s and I am an objectively hardcore feminist. Please believe me on this part. All is fine until it comes to sex, as soon as I get naked, I forget all about equality.

I get very rough with her, and completely dominate her on bed. I don’t want to be graphic but I take the lead and control the act of sex and also make her obey whatever I want to do with her. In conclusion, I do all the stuff which can be called as misogynistic on bed with her, except being violent (causing harm to her) which is unimaginable for me.

Although, my girlfriend has no problem with how I make love to her, and has always consented to whatever I do to her, because that’s how she likes it, or because she loves me and wants me to enjoy what I like or simply because she knows that these are just my animalistic instincts and I do love and respect her. There are multiple reasons but in either case, I have her full consent, in case one wonders.

I feel conflicted at times, I have even tried to change my style of making love but I don’t know why, I can’t do it. This thought remains in my head and at times, I feel that am I doing some injustice and whatever karma I am sowing, it will come back to me, so I am really not able to comprehend my feelings regarding this.

But then when I spoke to my girlfriend about it, she told me that these are all just my primal instincts which do not make you less of a feminist but I am curious and want to know that can sex be considered as an exception of feminism where the man takes the lead and controls the woman how he wants to. Can a complete gentleman in the outside world becoming a beast inside the bedroom while having sex be still considered as a feminist?

What do women in general think about it and what do they feel in such a situation? Are they inline with the opinion that primal instincts of a man can kick in but it doesn’t make him less of a feminist?