Hi there,

I've really enjoyed reading this sub. I tried asking friends for help in this situation and they say it's just me relaxing as a relationship carries on. But I know that I'm growing lazy and complacent.

I love to read non-fiction and write short stories and draw and cook/bake and really take care of myself. I've noticed that in the last few months, I've let so much shit slide. I'm not as focused on personal goals that I was working on. It feels like I don't really need to. The thing is that this is so counter to my personality and I kinda don't recognize myself anymore in this regard.

I don't like what's happening to me. My fiancee has been away for the last three weeks, and I find myself becoming more motivated again. I'm not sure how to avoid the complacency when he's around.

Am I overthinking things? I feel like I'm not. I know I'm being lazy.