Here is a short excerpt from The Wisdom of Psychopaths that once again confirms that being outcome independent when approaching produces wanted results. It is a short story from the interview with the institutionalized psychopath:

“When we were kids,” Jamie chimes in, “we’d have a competition. See who could get shot down the most times on a night out. You know, by girls, like. Although, in old McAllister’s case here, we’d have had to have widened the field a bit.” Larry looks at me, nonplussed. “Anyway, the bloke who’d got the most by the time the lights came on would get the next night out for free. “Course, it was in your interest to rack up as many as possible, weren’t it? A night on the town with everything taken care of by your mates? Aces! But the funny thing was, soon as you started to get a few under your belt, it actually got fucking harder. Soon as you realize that it actually means jack shit, you start getting cocky. You start mouthing off. And some of the birds start to buy it!” Give rejection the finger and rejection gives it back.

EDITED: bolded the most important part