Imagine a car manufacturer. Full of hope, pride and of course....cars. Blue cars, red cars, new cars, used cars, you understand what I mean. What does every car have? Tyres. But tyres are useless if you don't have a steering wheel or a gear shift. However, these cars are doorless and can drive themselves. Why am I talking about cars? Here's the catch. You are the car.

Tyres are made but some choose to not be used (nuns, religious people), you have soft tyres, hard grip ones. What is a car without these? Simply nothing. It has no purpose. It just gets lugged around the junkyard with cranes (society) and it doesn't fend for itself. A car's purpose is to go from A to B so tyres are needed. A car with front tyres only (MGTOW) can partially drive but it's pointless. A car with back tyres (oneitis) cannot drive at all. A car needs a balance of both front and back. Maybe you don't pay attention to something so menial but have you noticed that whichever direction the front wheels drive, the back wheels follow. If the front wheels go left, the back follows. But if the front wheels go left and the back wheels go right, you have a malfunctioning drive(relationship). Asserting dominance ensures both sets of wheels go to your destination. However, the back wheels tell you that they prefer staying still and cared for. Beta you would listen and stay at the garage 24/7, talking about feelings and cute stuff. But as you do, your back wheels see a 400mph Ferrari taking his back wheels for a drive and you can hear the adorable squeals from the Ferrari's back wheels. Your back wheels become jealous as she's been subjected to inactivity (hypergamy)

Now she's thinking she should unbolt herself from you and find another car. Something fast, something dangerous. She leaves you. Cars with front wheels only serve no purpose so you get a tune up. Change in oil (working out) bigger engines (confidence) and all of a sudden you get a surplus of tyres wanting to be bolted to you(pre-selection). You see soft grip tyres, hard grip tyres, snow tyres. These tyres want to be taken for a ride so you pump the gas, reaching 200mph while these little tyres have a threshold of 190mph. They get scratched but they love it. Your previous tyres see all these beautiful tyres wanting to be driven so they try their best to prove themselves to you. They recover and want more but they don't want too much to the point that they rupture and explode. You pump the gas harder each and every time. She misbehaves? You tease with reaching her threshold but don't overdo it. For every 3 times you drive past her threshold, 1 will be dedicated to having soft impact fun, a little stroll around the fun fair. A healthy car is a car with both wheels intact, front wheels leading and dominating. If you see your back wheels misbehaving, you take them off for a little while and lug yourself over to your quiet place and do your own things until your back wheels are ready to listen. She knows how hot you get her, she loves your dominance so she'll shyly roll herself to you and apologise. Scratched tyres (Alpha Widows) may have left you, but will pine for the moments you made her feel good, even beg for you back. Women do not date backwards, they don't go from a car that drives 300mph to a 60's car that does a maximum of 15mph

You, as the car, do not change yourself to suit your back wheels. You don't turn from a Maserati into a lame ass Chrysler from the 30s just because your wheels cannot handle you. You be yourself while your back tyres become accustomed to your speed. Tyres are built the same but you can find a select few that feel perfect on you. You drive when you want, you are not told when to drive. But under no circumstances do you get tyres that have been driven by thousands of cars, let alone tyres that have been in places you wouldn't want near you (sluts, STDs)

TL:DR; Do not change yourself to suit someone else's frame. You become a sexually confident, happy, self actualised man who takes control and punishes when necessary. Women do not want fairytale love stories but she wants excitement. Your loving (if you plan on having an LTR, this is necessary) but dominant personality will give her all the fairytale love she craves while also being ridden and becoming obsessed with you being her impenetrable man.