So what do you guys do when it comes to rewarding good behavior - and maybe more important - what do you guys stop doing to not reward bad behavior?

Often when i try to internalize this I get called out on it, last night because i said no to drive her to one of her girlfriends and she responded "Oh, just because I didn't suck your dick last night?", and i froze cause she was kinda right.

Do you have any go to examples of how you use this?