Shit from "girlfriend"

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-08-29T06:42:15+00:00

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Aughin · 2014-08-29T08:27:54+00:00

Never try to convince people with words. The part you told her to order him a pizza sounded a bit needy and desperate.

If you really like them you can talk about how you work in these kind of situations, tell them you don't enjoy your girls going on dates (ignore her objections to it being a date if they have them) while you are in a relationship with them. And you consider it a deal breaker. If she decides to go you live by your word and soft next her.

This way you still aren't telling them what to do. Just what will happen if they do.

niczar · 2014-08-29T08:31:06+00:00

One thing is certain, she's trying to push your buttons. Maybe I have an obsession with that shit due to an extremely bad experience, but she sounds like a cluster B.

I don't know what the best response is. Yours might not be the worst, but I don't believe it to be optimal. Ignoring her would have been better.

At this point, you probably need to drop that bitch.

TheReason13 · 2014-08-29T18:25:36+00:00

Her, "I'm going out with a guy, just me and him, alone, nobody else, just me and him, but don't worry I won't fuck him and I have no attraction to him."

Pretty self evident.

sparta126 · 2014-08-29T13:26:23+00:00

You first messages up to you not approving were decent. After that you turned into a beta. You showed you cared too much and were jealous. Instead of telling her to buy that guy delivery I would have told her that since she's buying pizza you'd like one brought over and specify the time. Then go radio silent. Her hamster will run like crazy. Any way if she goes out with this dude drop her gf status and get out there and spin.

redpillshadow · 2014-08-29T10:12:20+00:00

She is working on a branch swing.

You failing her shit tests doesn't help. The very first message you did send her was bad. "Who is this "guy"?"

Why do you care who he is and why do you show her that you care
Putting guy in quotation marks is aggressive as if you need to defend your territory

Both points lower her attraction significantly

Almost all answers are bad. Next big mistake is accepting the picture. No time for a point by point analysis though.

CaniborrowafeeIing · 2014-08-29T13:59:07+00:00

Why say yes to see how the guy looks?? That's a big insecurity sign and she already got you in the checkout line of seeing this guy/having her way.

Should have been clear from the start that as long as she is in a relationship with you that is not something that is okay with you.

If she then chooses to go anyway, next her, she ain't worth your time.

Casual_Tits · 2014-08-29T20:33:14+00:00

Yeah man, this is fucking sketchy from the start. There's too much talk about the guy himself - fuck that dude. She's already disrespecting you by shit testing you in the form of telling you she's going on a date - and that's exactly what it is.

Tomorrow I'm going to go out with a guy for pizza

"Nice"

That's it - don't respond at all after that. Then, if you can, make plans with someone else, preferably a woman, go out, have fun, and if you're lucky she'll find out without you telling her directly.

Also, what did you say to make her say "you're mean"? - maybe she was trying to get back at you with this whole scenario/situation.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2014-08-29T21:05:49+00:00

She has to ask her mom? How old are you guys?

Wait, are you in high school?

If you are, drop her. High school relationships are only practice for the real thing. She is openly disrespecting you by dating another guy right in front of you. That's never okay, sometimes people pretend it is, but it's really not. If she has respect for you she will only go out with you.

Title	Shit from "girlfriend"
Author	MathOfCorn
Upvotes	5
Comments	28
Date	August 29, 2014 5:55 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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