After spending some more time with a plate, I notice she will give small commands here and there. Some are as simple as "get some water". Sometimes I plan on doing whatever she is saying already. But when she says to do it, it makes me not want to do it. Am I just being insecure or should I reprimand her for giving me commands.

I will continue with the water example. Like I said sometimes I am going to do this already but other times I am not. But I don't mind doing it and it makes sense for me to do it. For example if she is laying in bed and I am already up and she commands this, I give in and do it because why not? I feel the alternative to not giving in looks childish. If I easily can get water with minimal effort and yet I just say "no you get it", looks immature.

Or if we are in bed and she says "do x" and by doing x I know it will turn her on, do I do this?

How do I handle a plate giving commands and maintaining frame without looking submissive?

Lastly, sometimes if I do something my way, but then after I do it she gives a better suggestion, do I admit yes you are right?

Maybe I am just being insecure about not wanting to be submissive but I wanted to get your guys thoughts.