LTR acting up

Futuretrophyhusb · 2016-02-08T21:13:00+00:00

"Help me whip this bitch"

Wrong mindset. Because she shit tests you does not mean that you need to punish her. This means she has too much power over you and you are lacking power over yourself.

If you think she's LTR material--Great. Go for it.

But, your mindset needs to be "This is my world, and my life. If you want to come along for the ride, great. If not, no problem. I'll find someone else." A redpill LTR is not about controlling the other person, but about living a lifestyle that makes someone else want to be with you.

You can start using some Dread game which will help, but ultimately if you want a successful LTR you need to fix your own issues. Stop pedestalizing her, and take care of yourself and worry only about yourself.

If your giving her advice on something that she doesn't want, and then upset because she doesn't like it, that's like being a white knight going to save some princess from a dragon who never asked for it. Unless she specifically asks you for advice, she doesn't want it. Just because she talks about her problems doesn't mean she's asking for advice. And if she does but she doesn't take your advice, who cares, its not your problem.

Again, a redpill LTR is not about controlling the other person, but about living a lifestyle that makes someone else want to be with you.

Gawernator · 2016-02-08T21:52:04+00:00

Honestly dude you should break up with her, or just plate her for sex. Sounds like she doesn't respect you. She also isn't very intelligent if what you say is true, judging from such strong confirmation bias. Her behavior is going to worsen over time, save yourself the heartache NOW

nastynickdr · 2016-02-08T22:26:12+00:00

Decrease your commitment (less attention, less comfort, less of your time to her etc.) and increase dread. Hold frame when she complains about it. If you dont get the results you want, its next time.

huge_gap · 2016-02-09T07:11:21+00:00

Lift, read, have a group of guy friends you hang out with weekly, work/study (and all the RP self-betterment). Then take her aside:

"Hey babe, I've been upset with you. I don't like when you act this certain way. Let's figure out a solution."

Or something along those lines. Let her know you don't like that behavior as if talking to a child you care about. You're the adult and she's the most responsible teenager in the room.

If she still doesn't change, then I would result to dread. If still doesn't change, advance to the next level of TRP where you don't have girlfriends because they suck (unless you're a glutton for dissapointment).

Underballbuttered · 2016-02-09T06:07:45+00:00

This is a fundamental disagreement. I can gather you want an equal partner. She wants alot more from you than she will give and still thinks she is better than you/entitled to it. That will not work. You have to ask yourself if you are willing to put up with this leech for some affection and pussy and she needs to see that you aren't worse than her if not better and appreciate and accept this fact. This means you don't go down to her level. AWALT

MattyAnon · 2016-02-10T04:11:17+00:00

She also has passingly mentioned that she doesn't have to put in as much effort as when the relationship started now that we're X months in.

Dread dread dread. You nod and agree, and then run epic level dread game, while planning on more or less nexting this lazy cow.

Getting more options will fix this, one way or another.

Most importantly: do not try to make it work, do not try to get her into line. Get yourself more and better options and your life will improve.

awkwardtouching · 2016-02-08T22:37:28+00:00

I see a bunch of red flags in her personality, and she doesn't respect me - how do I change my behavior?

I don't get how people get through all the sidebar materials and still don't get some basic tenets of this approach to life. You're still thinking about what YOU need to do for HER.

Dude - you don't need to change who you are to control her. You need to fucking ditch a girl who is obviously too dumb to take your vastly better experience/advice, and who doesn't respect you. Do you want to spend your whole life fighting and arguing with someone, or do you want to say a word and see them move the world do make you happy? Stop fucking with women who don't respect you. Work on your life such that the women in it look up to you.

TheDonald2k16 · 2016-02-08T21:04:47+00:00

but this girl displays significantly less irrational behaviour than the average girl and thus I'm disappointed in seeing this kind of shit from her

You let your guard down and made her a unicorn in your own mind. AWALT is AWALT. There are no "levels" of AWALT. A girl can't be 90% AWALT, or 20% AWALT. All girls are 100% AWALT.

Title	LTR acting up
Author	rarepoint
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	February 8, 2016 8:59 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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