I just got a boner from reading https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/hlmra/dicarlo_escalation_ladder_concise_and_emphasized/

While following that guide with a girl, the only reason I wouldn't get a boner would be being anxious. If I'm comfortable, I'd get the boner in second step:

Legs touching while standing and sitting, brushing abdomen while talking

I would get boner here in either case:

Hugging, escorting with hand on back, putting her legs over yours while sitting, holding her tummy on the side while sitting and talking, placing her hand on your thigh

Fap it out or what? If I fap, I become asocial and can be fine with not approaching women.