Hey Guys,

My personal back story: I got "monkey branched" by my ex-girlfriend 1 month ago because made rookie mistakes down the road in my relationship.

A little bit about me, I am 26 years old, new to redpill, fairly fit, lives in midtown Manhattan (NYC) and makes over 100k. 10 months ago I met this latina girl (24 years) who is in line to get a Fashion degree. That being said, she seemed to have some good qualities as she lived with her family in jersey, while also maintaining an impeccable body with her workout regime.

We went on a few dates, fucked after a month and she ended up telling me that I was the best thing she ever had (she said she had been with only 2 other boyfriends and confessed that she is on pills because her ex's cheated on her and first one physically abused her coz he thought she was cheating on him. She also mentioned that she got kicked out of her home due to first ex for over a year (major red flag) but my beta ass gave her a pass. Quickly I saw that she was clingy and we went exclusive. I kept my frame from day 1 so she was always chasing me in the relationship. She cooked and cleaned for me. Also she was always available to have sex anytime. She said she love me and I told her I need my time. I said the 'love' word back after 2 months.

I kept doing my thing on the side by going out on weekends and meeting up with my plates on the side. She was very jealous and insecure that I had a lot of friends who are girls in the city(she found on social media: Snapchat and instagram) and used to complain about it but I used dread game to my advantage. However, things started to change 6 months after we went exclusive. I went to Miami to meet up with a plate during Halloween and she told me that she is going out with her girl and her boyfriend but I found out that she was put on with a dude that night by her friend through her Snapchat. I got busy next month because I had to travel a lot for work but she always hit me up on the phone and didn't give me any room for doubt. She eventually started hanging out with her girls so often and she used to come to my apartment and leave to party with her girls right after first round of sex. I started to realize the change (typical monkey branching behavior pattern: less sex and less availability to meet up directly but always available on the phone). So I kept it real with her and told her if you go out with your girls then you gotta come back to my apt coz I live in the city and don't sleep over at their spot. She agreed and slept over at my spot after.

I took her out for New Years and she went to the bathroom with my buddy'a girl and didn't return for 20 mins so I went to check up and found out that both of them were flirting with couple of dudes at the bar (red flag #2) and I went and punched the dude and called her a whore. She used up her fake tears and tried to make it up with a head and sex.

I had a one month vacation planned for the next month to dubai, SE Asia and turkey so I went and meet up with her family because she had been pushing me to do so from 4th month of relationship. She was really hooked when I left the country but after I got back things changed drastically. She started to pick fights with me for no reason but still maintained my frame. I got back in the city but she was not excited to make an effort to come and see me at all and she texted me on a Saturday night saying 'I'm going out with my girls in the city' (4 blocks from my apartment) I don't reply back so she texted back again after 30 mins 'girls from my internship' I started to smell cheating so next morning I looked up tagged phonies on her instagram and i see her with a dude (same dude from Halloween sitting very close to her) and his friends with their girlfriends. I asked her about him on the phone and she said 'you need to stop nagging coz I'm trying to make this work' I was like wtf. She sounded like a totally different person. I said ' don't try me coz I'm not like one of your ex's'

Next day she came over to my apartment and I said I wanna break up. She asked me if it's possible to make it work and I replied only if you confess (my frame changed and beta ass mistake). She admitted that she was seeing that dude on the side for past couple of months but she only went out with him only couple of times and didn't fuck him and only kissed him when I was outta the country. She said he lived near her home in jersey and he is a college drop out and work as a real estate agent. I said you ain't the only one and showed a picture of a 9 hottie kissing me and She asked me did you fuck her and I said I'm not gonna tell you.

After my beta ass asked her to pick either me or him. She said she choose me then I asked her to call him and tell him that you got a boyfriend and she flipped the script right there and said i choose myself. I asked her to get the fuck out of my apartment and threw away her stuff. She tried to have sex with me and we ended up having sex twice and she asked again we could make this work but I replied no and kicked her out and blocked her number. She tried to hit me up on social media that night so I blocked her on social media as well. I went out with buddies that night and tried to game girls but being played by an insecure chick affected my game. Next day scarcity mentality took over and called her in the afternoon instead of NC (biggest mistake) and she was like 'I miss you'. We started talking again and she was like 'I can't wait to see you on Friday and have sex with you'. I played along and kept my frame. Next day she asked me if I f'd that 9.5 girl or not and I said I was about to but I didn't. I said i went out with her right after I saw her instagram picture with that dude.

She started acting cold after I confirmed that i didn't f her and she bought the full beta out of me. The entire dynamic changed because I started chasing her ass by asking her what's wrong. She told me that she never felt like she was in a relationship with me because I went out with my friends a lot in the city and lived a single lifestyle and she is sure that I cheated on her a lot. Also she said I didnt make any long term plans with her wtf. She said if you want this to work then you gotta come down and confess about my past cheating. I made another big mistake by taking advice from another girl and she told me to confess. I went to jersey and confessed about going on dates and but I lied and I said I didn't have sex with anybody while i was in a relationship. She started bitching and I ruined everything when I asked her to give me another shot ( I still can't believe I acted like a chump). I later realized that she was looking for an opportunity to blame the breakup on me and she was already fucking him. She asked me what I'm doing on Valentine's Day and I said I have a date. She said I thought you were gonna invite me and you don't care and shit. I changed my plans for Valentine's Day and called her that day but she didn't answer and called me back later and said 'I just woke up and I'm depressed coz of school'. I said okay. She also asked me to unblock her on social media. I unblocked her but didn't add her back. I called her couple of days later and asked if she is seeing anybody and she is like I'm really depressed coz of school and She doesn't even go out to meet her friends. 5 days later I realized that she blocked me on social media and that's why she asked me to unblock her so she could block me. So I looked up her profile on my buddy's phone and I found out that she posed a picture on Valentine's Day all dressed up ready to wine and dine from somebody's bedroom ( not her room). It literally crushed me and I called her and went Nuke. I said 'F U whore and no wonder why you are depressed and your ex beat you up' I know it is not a sigh of strength but I had to do it. I also sent her a photo of the hottie (9/10) and said I'm gonna go smash her now and she blocked me. I blocked her back.

I know my story is a beta ass story but I'm posting this because I'm new to redpill and I swallowed the pill right after I went nuke. I have been reading a lot about your posts and I wanna learn from my past mistakes and tryna write down lesson learned.

  • A brother who's tryna gain wisdom so don't take it easy on me