How do you show value?

SeamusAwl · 2018-04-05T19:37:24+00:00

what type of value are you talking about? I am going to assume that you mean the alpha leader type and not the beta provider type. Because they both have value. So for the alpha value it should exude naturally as you know you are valuable. Sort of redundant but its true. You know your input is valuable so you do not hesitate to give it. You know you are charming and witty so you do not hesitate to use it. You know you are decisive so you step up to make the necessary decisions. That is how you show you have value. Because if you are timid and do not believe in yourself, then you devalue yourself and everyone wont know your value.

mrpoopistan · 2018-04-05T19:43:28+00:00

Social proof is the greatest value you can offer.

Human beings are always looking for friends and people to trade with, so anything that demonstrates you can plug them into a useful network is a major win. If you can be someone's in to anything -- a party, a job, a social circle, an exclusive club, or even half a conversation -- then you're gold.

Being something they don't have can also be useful. The most athletic guy in a peer group is always winning. The foreign guy gets laid. The guy who can weave a conversation with a stranger out of anything. All that goes double if you can bring peer groups together -- if you're the one who can get the two side of a family partying at a wedding, for example.

Human being are social animals who struggle to socialize. Anything you can do to bridge that gap makes you awesome, especially if you can just casually do it. If you can hook someone up effortlessly, like getting them into a high-end club just because fuck it more people make for a better party, you will be loved.

Remember, people want access and friends. And most are scared shitless in pursuing both.

melonsle · 2018-04-06T02:48:47+00:00

How do you make yourself valuable as a person to others?

Ideally, you would have screened people out of your life that do not value you. Even if this means being totally alone, and going through a lone-wolf phase (which I've done, its not the end of the world at all, very healthy).

When you say "make yourself valuable' I think you're imagining a valueless person who has to, by his own action, go about demonstrating value to others. Its simpler than that, imo. You select for people who value you, and value your presence - people who like to be around you, who like to hear you speak. "Making yourself valuable" is, therefore, something you maybe do not want to be doing.

But if you want to work on serving others more, offering more value to them, a good way is to work on kindness, practicing kindness, and practicing understanding, and listening. Kindness has a power that I can tell you, is underestimated by almost everyone. The kinder we can be to others, and ourselves (which sometimes involves telling others to f__ off) - the greater our power, generally speaking.

How can you show others that you have value as a person?

Ideally, they would just see this. If they didn't see it, they (and you) would self-select away from one another. Putting in work to demonstrate that one is valuable is not ideal. It should be recognized from the outset.

If you want to practice giving to others, or practice kindness, this will increase your value to others, generally speaking.

What are some ways for them to value you?

There are an infinity of ways for the human heart to experience love, and any one of these may be directed towards you. You might remind a person of their father, brother, uncle, cousin or husband - or remind them of themselves - and they find they just like you. Many people will like you for no good reason, or no reason that they can easily name - they will just like you.

Others will dislike you, also for no good reason or no reason they can easily name.

People can appreciate any skill, any tendency, any insight, anything about you that they can recognize. So the ways in which you can be appreciated are basically infinite.

Its better to walk away from others when they don't do this, than it is to sit with them and try to get them to appreciate you. That's the core of what I'm trying to say. Hope this helps.

And if you go through a phase where people don't seem to be valuing you or showing you attention, use it to develop your solitude, self-reliance, independence and individuality. We all have phases like that. Its very, very, healthy in my opinion, for a man to go through phases where the world isn't showering him with love. He should learn to be good to himself, and value himself, when this happens. Good luck.

vandaalen · 2018-04-05T19:38:12+00:00

How do you make yourself valuable as a person to others?

Why would I want to qualify myself to other people?

Ricklogical · 2018-04-05T22:29:46+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/6o90gp/the_eunuchs_of_the_red_pill/

Title	How do you show value?
Author	Samonji
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Comments	17
Date	April 5, 2018 7:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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