Good LTR material?

boy_named_su · 2018-07-04T02:57:51+00:00

Strong relationship with father

Under 7 or so body count

Not a feminist

More assets than debt

No visible tattoos

No devils three ways, dp, spit roastings

Few male friends / orbiters

Hasnt been in an LTR with someone she wasnt in love with

Never cheated

MrAgamemnon · 2018-07-04T04:34:05+00:00

Early 20s. Decent family background, in terms both parents relationship and also economically should be similar to where you came from / will likely be. Limited sexual history, but not so limited that she'd always wonder that she settled too early. Not working in a male dominated field, but working nonetheless.

Now for the hard one: it is also about her friends and the people she surrounds herself with, if they are into drugs/party animals/riding the CC, she will certainly follow suit. You have to maintain good balanced relationships with them.

Want children? Start to dig deeper: medical history of her family, autism, congenital defects - even among extended family; history of mental illness - schizophrenia, BPD, bipolar, PPD. All these things are suspected to have a genetic component hereditary.

I am sure, there is nothing worse than having a broken kid who will bring you only misery. My cousin has an autistic daughter, fairly low functioning at about 8, couldn't speak until she was 6. Guess what? Surprise, surprise, his wife's brother touretts. Nothing but misery and shame there, I can't even imagine the horrors of something like down-syndrome (not quite hereditary) would bring.

The last bit is probably me being too paranoid, but it genuinely scares me more than anything else.

Morphs_ · 2018-07-04T05:28:38+00:00

Adding to what has already been said:

Intelligence

Ability to reflect

This will allow her to (at least partially) understand her own actions. Women who just "do" because of their emotions are too fickle.

And stressing again, who she surrounds herself with is very important. My last ex was surrounded by people I didn't trust, which made for an extremely paranoid relationship.

Roadhouse1984 · 2018-07-04T11:50:57+00:00

”What kind of sexual history does and doesnt raise any flags?”

Counterintuitive Trends in the Link Between Premarital Sex and Marital Stability

Women with 10 or more partners were the most likely to divorce, but this only became true in recent years;

Women with 3-9 partners were less likely to divorce than women with 2 partners; and,

Women with 0-1 partners were the least likely to divorce.

Consistent with prior research, those with fewer sex partners were less likely to divorce. However, there are considerable differences by marriage cohort. For all three cohorts, women who married as virgins had the lowest divorce rates by far. Eleven percent of virgin marriages (on the part of the woman, at least) in the 1980s dissolved within five years. This number fell to 8 percent in the 1990s, then fell again to 6 percent in the 2000s. For all three decades, the women with the second lowest five-year divorce rates are those who had only one partner prior to marriage. It’s reasonable to assume that these partners reflected women’s eventual husbands. Even so, premarital sex with one partner substantially increases the odds of divorce.

The highest five-year divorce rates of all are associated with marrying in the 2000s and having ten or more premarital sex partners: 33 percent. Perhaps it is not unexpected that having many partners increases the odds of divorce. The greater surprise is that this only holds true in recent years; previously, women with two partners prior to marriage had the highest divorce rates.

Source.

Premarital Sex, Premarital Cohabitation, and the Risk of Subsequent Marital Dissolution Among Women

Abstract

Using nationally representative data from the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth, I estimate the association between intimate premarital relationships (premarital sex and premarital cohabitation) and subsequent marital dissolution. I extend previous research by considering relationship histories pertaining to both premarital sex and premarital cohabitation. I find that premarital sex or premarital cohabitation that is limited to a woman's husband is not associated with an elevated risk of marital disruption. However, women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution. These results suggest that neither premarital sex nor premarital cohabitation by itself indicate either preexisting characteristics or subsequent relationship environments that weaken marriages. Indeed, the findings are consistent with the notion that premarital sex and cohabitation limited to one's future spouse has become part of the normal courtship process for marriage.

Source.

Some sex related graphs with sources at the bottom

abudun79 · 2018-07-04T11:09:03+00:00

Do you ask mommy or daddy to wipe you butt?

vandaalen · 2018-07-04T09:53:31+00:00

http://archive.is/yxzC1

Xoramung · 2018-07-04T06:05:30+00:00

submission.

Bruchibre · 2018-07-04T07:22:26+00:00

What traits and characteristics would she have (assuming you find her hot already)?

Sweet and funny

What age is a sweet spot?

Her age min = (your age / 2) + 7. It's a joke from "the Bro code" but I find it to make actual sense.

Her age max for me = < the age of my big brother (he's 4 years older than me and it pisses me off him talking down on a girl who is older than him because she's "the little brother's gf" - I once brought back a girl who was 7 years older than me, now I'm with a girl 7 years younger).

What kind of sexual history does and doesnt raise any flags?

Body count <= 10, mostly LTRs, no more than 1 or 2 ONS ("just to try"), no more than 1 FWB at any given time. No threesome (maybe unless it was with a LTR and with another girl then I would want it too).

What kind of ideologies would she subscribe to?

I', not sure to understand that question. I'd say no feminist, not too religious (have some muslim exes who wanted me to convert).

What are good qualities to look out for and how can they be consciously observed or tested for?

Fun to be with, good conversation, always sweet with you in public. I always have something to talk about with my gf.

When your friend meet her and spontaneously say she's cool or that you two are cool together. I know they almost always say that to be nice with you, but you should be able to sense if they are sincere and if they actually don't do it it's a big red flag :)

If your parents like her.

dulkemaru51 · 2018-07-04T12:25:21+00:00

Rollo wrote in "Red Pill Parenting - Part II":

"The challenge is exemplifying Amused Mastery with your daughter, but in such a way that it balances Alpha dominance and control with rapport, security and comfort. In my post Myth of the Good Guy I make the case that adult women don’t really look for this balance in the same man. Alphas are for fucking, Betas are for long term security, and men who think they can embody both are neither sought after nor really believable. The root of this AF/BB mental separation of Hypergamous purpose-specific men can be traced back to the impression of masculinity that woman’s father set for her in her formative years."

Though all women are sexually attracted to certain traits (AF) and have an equally essential emotional need to feel provided for by a committed male (BB), they are carbon copies of family history, just like us men are.

Girls with weak dads ride the CC and settle with a weak man.

Girls with absent AF dads ride the CC and settle with cats, because none of the AFs would commit.

Girls with Alpha Bux dads are prone to seek traits, that fulfill both of their AF and BB needs, in the same man. As shown by the amount of copies sold of every love story ever by a woman for women, AF and BB in the same man is a woman's jackpot. It's kind of obvious that a BB husband makes her want to cheat for sexual pleasure, an AF husband urges her to settle for a safer option; in neither case is she fulfilled.

If her father is a strong family patriarch, her mother will usually be a submissive, nurturing lady by default and the other green flags will likely follow. Trace the green flags and you will end up at her father's positively masculine image. It'd require inexplicably wondrous circumstances for a typical, daughter to a single mom, western girl to understand the value of her sexual purity and other traits that indicate good LTR material enough for her to live by them. If she seems good yet grew up with a single mom who's not a widow, be careful.

MYMOUTHISNUMmn · 2018-07-04T06:31:45+00:00

Next, and lift,lift,lift

Title	Good LTR material?
Author	Roadhouse1984
Upvotes	21
Comments	25
Date	July 4, 2018 2:30 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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