So one thing I’ve started doing lately with girls I’m talking to, is calling them “missy”. They all seem to eat it up. It’s flirty and seems to convey amused mastery very well, and even caused my now-girlfriend (or whatever we are) to start calling me daddy, even before I took her virginity.

I usually reward her when she’s being good or sweet by calling her missy. Like when she thanks me for giving her a good time, I’ll respond “You’re very welcome, missy”. When she sends a nice goodnight text I’ll say back “goodnight/you too missy”. Or maybe I’ll tell her “come over missy, why don’t we fuck all that stress away”. In person I’ll use it like “come here missy, sit on my lap”.

I NEVER call her “cutie”, or “sweetie”, or the stereotypical gross, overly sweet names. Only missy, as I believe it additionally conveys a sort of ownership quality, like she’s my little girl. It’s also very easy and accessible, as in it doesn’t require a lot of conversation to be built up before you use it. I can start calling a girl missy right away, and it wont come across as needy or creepy, only as playful. It never feels weird at all.

Every girl I’ve done this with seems to love it so far. Do you guys use any similar nicknames / pet names, and how much do you think they change the dynamic? I feel like the good ones let the girl project her own meanings on to it, which is good because if she’s looking for confidence, it projects confidence. If she’s looking for comfort, it provides comfort, if she’s looking for dominance, it conveys dominance, etc.

Oh and one last thing - I feel like it probably makes the girl feel like you have something special between each other, like “look, he even has a pet name for me, he must think I’m special!”. My girl probably thinks she’s special too, she doesn’t know how many other girls I’ve also called missy. It kinda makes me feel like an ass - and I love it. Just like she probably thinks she’s the only girl who’s let me choke her and pull her hair while she calls me daddy while we fuck (hint: shes not).

What pet names have you found to be successful? How important can they be in your opinion? One girl once even told me that her dad recently called her missy, and that it was awkward because all she could think of was me.