I suck at small talk

ZeppKfw · 2019-10-12T22:59:29+00:00

When you're with your close friends, try to be the person that talks more. Don't try to be a clown but the person who leads the conversation, and what the group does. Stop filtering what you say and just say what the fuck you want to say. Slowly transition to acquaintances then strangers. Three good side effect from this is that you'll get good leadership experience that'll translate to dating/work, you'll get more respect for not giving a fuck about other people, and you'll assume a higher hierarchy in the group.

LoLoJeJe · 2019-10-13T00:10:02+00:00

Same problem here. I dont know how to get rid of that fcking shyness, i feel like i’m autistic when i talk in a grup of people that includes girls so i end up not talking.

We_Broke_Up · 2019-10-13T00:52:33+00:00

Holy shit I'm the exact same. I fade out in groups. One-on-one I'm the man and people get a really good impression, but as soon as one person comes in, it gets fucked up. I joined so many group convos and did as much as I could to try and get better, but I still have the same issue. It's like there's a barrier blocking me in how I communicate. I've always felt like it's because we're wired differently. It's fucked. If someone gives you good advice, I'd appreciate it if you'd share it with me.

FereallyRed · 2019-10-12T22:59:04+00:00

I want to get good at weaving baskets. How can I do that?

Vermillion_Rx · 2019-10-13T00:15:59+00:00

Start making comments, say your opinions on things as long as they're not overtly red-pilled, tease people, get good at word association, tell stories, ask questions, tease people

[deleted] · 2019-10-13T00:42:17+00:00

So the best advice given to me is instead of worrying about how hard it is for you, realise small talk is challenging for most. Play the uno reverse card and make the conversation easy for them, ask them questions about the subject matter they know better than anything else, themselves. Look for your chance to develop your understanding of what they are talking about with probing questions and soon enough 2 things will happen:

You will learn things about them giving you more options in planning you close.
You will gain raport while simultaneously maintaining a sense of mystery. You listening will disarm them and your mystery will result in them using their hamster to spin you into whatever they want you to be. You get to be the canvas that they can paint their ideal fuck onto.

rockyp32 · 2019-10-13T10:16:30+00:00

I always reccomend no fap really helps embracing your masculine side like establishing your presence in social conversations. ALSO do meditation before socializing ask yourself why you act quiet? Is it cause u don’t wanna be laughed at? Etc find the cause

MR_SKINNYPENIS69 · 2019-10-13T05:48:40+00:00

Same here.

Ask questions. The more you practice the better you'll get at which questions are best suited to which moments.

View a conversation like a flow chart. Form your questions based on what they just said, don't just fire at random.

Social skills for people who aren't naturally talented at them are just like going to the gym: you gotta put in the hours and practice and get better in small steps over time. No instant fix or formula works other than practice and working at it.

Woobsay · 2019-10-13T05:52:35+00:00

Stop trying to be interesting, instead be interested in others, in return you'll be the most interesting person speaking. Nobody cares what you have to say, people only care about themselves.

MeansToABenz · 2019-10-13T03:09:57+00:00

Maybe you’re just an idiot as this question sucks

Title	I suck at small talk
Author	mrkinix
Upvotes	43
Comments	23
Date	October 12, 2019 10:51 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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